bigdeelight
Active Member
But as a noob myself, I do see alot of the smart a$$ness that goes on. Look in this thread alone, how many smart behind smilies were posted? I think those who need to change have outed themselves in this thread with the smart comments and snide remarks that I don't feel like quoting.
Yes, I do get annoyed when people ask questions about topics...searching for and reading through and yet they can't even research it for themselves.
SEARCH IT OUT! Felt nice to say that! But notice I didn't attack anyone, I usually move past those threads.
. . . as oldies, ya'll DO realize that MOST of the people that were here with u when u joined, are gone right? like they reached their goal and/or found what worked for them or quit, and LEFT!
Everyone has SOMETHING to bring the the board, whether it is a miracle line of their own or inspirational pictures or a horror story or just humor. I would put MONEY on that there are some people who have SL hair that is healthier than some of the oldies or chicks with hair to their heels.
If I can pick out the usual suspects then I'm sure the mods can figure who they are, too. I think its just people projecting their true feelings about black women growing long hair.
I'm not trying to discuss if blonde hair looks good on black women or if Asian women have a hard time growing hair they way we do. Or, the negative backlash of growing your hair long. I just want a physical change in my look, but for some its deeper than that.
regardless if you keep taking the bait folx drop, you will be typing from now until the world ends. Just let it go. You arent the only one who can see through such petty attempts.
If you don’t like what someone is saying. Don’t respond. Take what you need and keep it moving. I have noticed that yes some do constantly stress their beliefs. And if I don’t want to hear it I can skip over their post. But, some don’t. Instead they will constantly post pictures of head bashing, or say how they are tired of hearing it, etc. This is pointless and just aggravates situations. Some will post an icon eating popcorn.. Or remarks that "she gonna get you”! Again, unnecessary and further aggravates the situation. If you aren’t interested or just don’t want to hear it, then move on, no need to respond with catty, nasty and mostly unnecessary remarks or icons.
I see many many posts that I disagree with, some I think are untruthful but why get into an argument about it. I don’t respond to the post. I seldom respond to posts for that very reason so many ladies here are catty and some just plain nasty.
I have seen a few threads where posters are complaining about a product from one of our members and the poster is told to pm the vendor. I think it is of utmost importance that when it is one of our lhcf members is selling a product that is not good or giving bad service that we share it. I believe this is of utmost importance because they the lhcf vendor member is almost given a free pass because we members are anxious to support our own. So, if the service or product is bad we need to know. Now within that complaint thread other members will come in and share their positive and or negative experiences with that vendor thereby informing the rest of us of their experiences, too. Then we can make an informed judgment the same as we do for our non lhcf vendors. They should not be treated differently than other vendors. We are giving them the same hard earned money that we give to non members. If your product is good, then its good and the reviews will speak for themselves. And if not the post gives you notice that you should step it up a notch.
I have seen threads where people are insisting that tones have been used with them. Typed words can be very easily misinterpreted because you can’t hear the tone in the persons voice. I have received emails where I have said huh, sounds like they have an attitude and have asked someone else to read the email and they interpreted it differently. So, don’t take offense. If you do take offense then take a break step away from the keyboard.
So, I guess my bottom line is that you should be able to voice your opinion without being viciously attacked. And if you opinion was not liked/appreciated it does not invalidate your opinion. No, you don’t have to stay in that same thread and keep repeating it, because I agree it was heard. But, do I think you should be silenced in other threads? NO! So, for that thread please let it go. However, you are free to go into another thread and share your feelings, especially if that thread is about your subject that you feel so strongly about.
I also feel that many are too lazy to do they own research and want to be spoon fed their information. I have heard remarks like I am too lazy to read the whole thread, so tell me blah blah blah. Or someone with a “how to” question that clearly has not looked. Or buying stuff and then asking “what do I do with this now” What????? How dangerous is that?. The search function may not work but your mouse works and that is how I have found most of my information. Clicking through the pages, no search function, no goggling just perusing the pages one at a time and then I hit the archives. In fact I have found the most valuable information in the archives. A lot of new bandwagons are really just old bandwagons. I saw someone taking credit for originating an idea that was in the archives 3 years old and by another poster who no longer posts on the board.
Lastly, (I know I am long winded) I have noticed that the majority of the meanest, catties post comes from the newer members that have been here less than 18 months. One new member asked another new member why she only had one post in 4 months Huh? What kind of question was that? Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of catty members here that has been here longer than 18 months, too. But, why when we are here for the same reason, to grow healthy long hair. I have learned a lot since I have been here some I have used and others not.
Sorry for the long post and it was not intended to insult anyone and I have no tone or disrespect directed toward any member.
Much Love,
Tottzu
Like any thread on here, I read through the entire thread before making a decision to post or not. I couldn't agree more with many of the statements made here though I could only quote a few. I despise the natural vs. relaxed debate. I despise someone trying to define to me what is "truly" natural hair and what is not. I despise it not only because it's petty and completely built on a foundation of personal opinion but because at the end of the day, it's all hair.
I spend less time posting and more time reading not because I'm scared of e-bangers and their keystroke gangsta but moreso because if people spent HALF as much time reading posts as they do making pointless ones, there wouldn't be 50-11 random new threads when the answer to their question is usually in an original thread on the SAME page the new thread is on. Seriously, if you don't have the patience to read a 30 page thread about a product you have an interest in reading I seriously doubt you have the patience to grow your hair healthy and effectively.
Someone shouldn't have to type with the disclaimer of "In My Humble Opinion". Ones common sense should kick in and realize that in a forum, every single POST is an opinion and shouldn't be taken as the gospel. There are many, many things that annoy me in this forum and those are the things I chose to skip over. However, for as much irritation as ignorance can cause, there is a WEALTH of information that is to be learned and discovered.
EVERYONE plays their roles. The solution shouldn't be the block people/posts because of one disagreement you may have had with them. The same people that one may peg as a flamer/drama starter/riot inciter may hold the key to a hair problem you may be having. Perhaps if the focus shifted from holding e-grudges against a screename and an ip address to simply appreciating everyone for the role they play, it may be a little less snippy around here.
If anyone was offended or if I stepped on any toes with this post, just say ouch and keep it moving.