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pookeylou said:
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Why...someone please tell me why...
Why is it that when a natural thread is started...and the naturals defend THEIR experience...it turns into drama and we need eduction on how we word things?
If there is a format for wording a natural question so that others will not be offended...will someone please forward it to me so that I can state things properly and cover ALL scenarios?
It is disheartening that a thread like this...that was going so well and so uplifting and encourageing and helping us naturals not to feel ALONE... has to be chastised because we used the word MYTH.
It really hurts.
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Pookeylou, I'm sorry. And again that was not the intent. I guess we should'nt post in Natural theards, then and vice versa.
I do sense the honesty in your posts.
I think this happens because those who choose not to straighten thier hair anymore, put through a sense that they are better, and that may not be the intent at all, but that's how it comes across by some, not all.
It's kinda like quittin smoking and calling non smokers stinky addicted fools.
Or losing weight and callin fat people, gross.
Because it is also a misconception that people straighten to be non-black or hate thier natural hair. But you are right, I won't post or read in Natural threads anymore. Cause it is redundant. It all boils down to choice. None is better than the other.
I just don't see Relaxed threads that compare "myths" or carry as much controversy.
My only intent in posting was just what I said. I really do'nt want those considering to stop straigtening to have false hope that it's all a bed of roses.
Peace ladies.
Now the mature people will understand that If I stop posting it's cause I'm being mature and don't want to further breed any problem. While others will view it as I posted to start something then leave.
I mean what is one supposed to do. Why can't we just state or opinion, without people feelin bad.?
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Peace to you sis.
I think my reaction comes on the heels of last weeks barrage of positive, thought provoking threads about natural hair getting analyzed to death, chastised, even deleted. Even though the moderators have made it clear that this is a "narurals welcome" house...it never fails that these threads end up with the same eventuality.
I have asked the same question you posed in a later comment:
"Should naturals post in only natural threads and vice versa for relaxed?" and received a booming "NO!"
Even though the mission on this site is to encourage each other to grow our hair long...the culture and language of the two heads often gets misinterpreted. Unfortunately to the detriment of some real wisdom that can be gained by all.
I know how it feels to be misrepresented and misinterpreted. No intention to do that you. I have no problem with people asking the questions. It makes me think. Those questions are what made me decide to go natural in the first place. The problem I see is one-sided censoring. Your comment on "how we word it" is one that I have seen commonly put to naturals. When we speak the truth on natural hair...it is misinterpreted as trying to take away anothers choice or forcing our views.
Absolutely no more angry feelings on my part. This is just my thoughts from my vantage point.
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See, I can understand & Respect you.
Thanks for relating your POV WELL. w/o Twisting.