I think some of the issue is that it feels like it's become less of a sisterhood, and more of a parenthood.
Instead of people learning, researching, thinking, and then posing informed questions to fill in the gaps of knowledge they have already attempted to obtain, there are people just asking for the information to be passed to them on a silver platter - and then getting upset when the information that was given to them isn't perfect for their hair.
This
is the internet, and despite all best intentions, the person on
your side of the screen has to know
your hair best.
And then, there seems to be a rash of people trying to dictate what other people do, and not being amiable to the idea that we are all (mostly) grown women, and we will do what we want to do with our hair - and being (mostly) grown women, we are willing and able to handle any consequences, thereof.
I understand that there have always been those who are looked up to on the board, but it seems like there used to be a
shared spirit of exploration, and learning, and education, rather than a "do as I do"/"please tell me what to do" attitude.
I don't know. That might just be my perspective on things.
I truly think that the 'attitude' on the board would improve if more people did more reading, and less posting. I know the search function is wonky, but going to google and typing in
"whatever you want to know about" site:longhaircareforum.com
will return you all of the results on that particular search word. 15 minutes of skipping and skimming through the threads returned will usually leave you with much, much, much, much more information than posting a new thread about it, and expecting all of that historical information/data to be instantly made available to you by others who have made the effort to educate themselves.
I
know, on some topics, it's a daunting experience to read even a fraction of the information - but there is a reason that certain topics have mile long threads, and it's because using those products
isn't a simple, one size fits all, do my reggie and you'll end up with my hair sort of process.
It's something that has to be individually and
consciously tailored to your hair, your scalp, your reggie, your other products - all things that as much as your sisters in hair might want to help you with - in the end,
your mind (and hair) MUST be your guide.
As one of my teachers says - Keep your brain with you at all times. But the tongue, you can often leave at home.
Happy Hair Growing, Sisters.