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I am sure this video was posted before because it is pretty old, however- for those who haven't seen it or have new opinions- what are your thoughts?
These women need to be real with themselves. Good looks and flourishing careers do not identify good women. Character and values mean a lot more. This segment did not discuss in depth the character and values that make the difference in women who have relationships that flourish and those that don't. Example: the woman who said she hasn't been in a relationship for over a decade. Does that mean that she hasn't been having sex in over a decade? If she has been spending that much time having casual sex with men she was not building a genuine relationship with when she desires marriage, that demonstrates a pattern of bad decision making. Another woman talked about a man who has 4 women in rotation won't be interested in making you wife, did she choose to date a man she knew was dating multiple women? Does she choose to date more than one man at a time instead of fully investing into one relationship at a time and cultivate what she wants in marriage? Is she the type of person who uses the word date interchangeably with sex? This segment is full of red flags but ppl focus on the superficial stuff and find themselves confused. The answers are in there. Assuming these are good women because they are attractive and have good careers is flawed.
When you are a good woman and have at least decent looks. Good men hit on you frequently and consider your personality refreshing compared to the superficial stuff.
I was wondering about an update on all of them. Thank you!This is a very old video. One lady in the video Chato is actually married with two kids now.
If you feel like going on- I will DEFINITELY be reading.I can go on but to a lot it'll probably sound corny anyway.
If you feel like going on- I will DEFINITELY be reading.
Awesome video and I do think it is right- I think MDLWLY discussed this as well- what separates on woman from all the others. We are all pretty, we all have degrees, we all have interests, etc. but what really separates me from her to show a man we are special. I do think that is one side of it.
The other side comes back to the quality of black men that are out here. They think they know everything regarding love and relationships (generally speaking) and won't read self help books, find mentors, improve themselves relationship wise to match what many of us women are doing. They expect love isn't suppose to be difficult, everything is suppose to be easy, etc. We are suppose to take them as they are and be faithful...
I am probably all over the place with this- it is just so interesting to me as many of our counterparts are married by 30 and etc. So are "we" doing something wrong, are the men, is it a combo?
I really liked this video!
I am probably all over the place with this- it is just so interesting to me as many of our counterparts are married by 30 and etc. So are "we" doing something wrong, are the men, is it a combo?
This video is very old. But to answer your question.
One things I have noticed, is White Women date like Men. They move on quick, very quick from one relationship to the next. They know that dating is a numbers game. WW gets divorce and in 12 months she is engaged again. Or WW becomes a widow and is back in the dating scene in 12-18 months (Steve Jobs Widow & Sheryl Sandberg prime examples). They don't even have to be cute ww, but they all know the game.
Most black women i know have a long time between their relationships. Or if they get divorced they NEVER re-marry. I don't know why our dating, bouncing back habits are different.
But they have the numbers to play with...plenty of white men, black men, Asian men to choose from...
The numbers are forever in their favor...
However, I think it might be changing a bit...
This is a very old video. One lady in the video Chato is actually married with two kids now.
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Most black women i know have a long time between their relationships. Or if they get divorced they NEVER re-marry. I don't know why our dating, bouncing back habits are different.
No one talks about this aspect of it just something must be wrong with the womanA lot of black women remain single because we outnumber men overwhelmingly, and the men that are available are half stepping (underemployed, baby mamas, dependent, players, broke, DL, etc.) It's happening everywhere. I don't think its the woman's fault really.
What is "eurpranization"? Is this some theory that black women are upholding eurocentric marriage standards by not getting married in their 20's?A friend of mine on Facebook posted this...
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I absolutely believe all of this especially the importance of pheremones.Relationships are just easier for some people. It isn't something they have to think about or work towards, it just happens for them. Just like some people have luck in career, money, health, friendships, etc... some people are just naturally lucky in love. There could be a genetic or metaphysical component where some people emit pheromones or have an energy vibration that is more desirable and attractive to the opposite (or same) sex. Who knows?
Girl I don't know- he is a conscious brother (no offense to anyone conscious) but when he starts getting on that stuff, people ignore him.What is "eurpranization"? Is this some theory that black women are upholding eurocentric marriage standards by not getting married in their 20's?
I don't care how old I am I am not marrying a man with a bunch of kids by different women with no college education still renting or living in his Mama's basement.