2inspireU
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Re: VENT: Why is it that every OTHER woman can wear her "natural" hair and it's okay.
Well, this was one of the main reasons I went back to relaxers. I caved under the pressure from other people's reaction to my hair. I am now transitioning back, but also taking the time to mentally transition. It really is the most courageous thing to do, that is go against group think.
I've learned that a lot depends on how we respond to the situation. I had a guy one time say, "What's up nappy head?" He was laughing and said it to be offensive. I smiled and replied, "Nothing much." He didn't say anything else after that. Had I got upset, he probably would have said things about my hair to upset me every time he saw me.
Well, this was one of the main reasons I went back to relaxers. I caved under the pressure from other people's reaction to my hair. I am now transitioning back, but also taking the time to mentally transition. It really is the most courageous thing to do, that is go against group think.
I've learned that a lot depends on how we respond to the situation. I had a guy one time say, "What's up nappy head?" He was laughing and said it to be offensive. I smiled and replied, "Nothing much." He didn't say anything else after that. Had I got upset, he probably would have said things about my hair to upset me every time he saw me.