i think it all can work depending on the woman's interests. i was just too curious about the world and too immature to have settled down at 22 with someone. or to follow someone around at that age. i spent a large bulk of my 20s outside of the country and gaining skills. there is no way i would have been able to fruitfully work on a relationship and for it to properly develop at that time. i don't knock the hustle of other women. it just works for them. if they like it, i love it.
i also know, with my personality, i couldn't have done my reverse - which would have been to get married and have kids and go back to school. esp law school.
and all of the experiences i have had up until this point will not only have made me an excellent wife and mother - but I have a much better sense of who and what I want. I am choosing him.
what i really don't like is how people make it seem like doom and gloom when a professional woman ... is a professional woman. in my personal world, i see women lawyers married to doctors, professors, or other professionals. i see professional men married to women doctors, etc. it's actually very important to them and i see nothing wrong with it.
the most important thing for me is that it's so beautiful and wonderful to find a person that you genuinely love and accept and want to make a life with them. and you are successful at it. forget all of these extra stuff, although it is pretty important, lol. anyways, if it takes you a bit of time to find your person, THAT'S OK.