The Girlfriend Club

[tuffCOOKiE]

I like hanging out with my BF and his friends who also have GF's.

This summer they rented a beach house and they met up almost every weekend. I made it a grand total of 2 times.

I'm getting sidetracked - Anyway -

The girls seem like they get along well and since I've been dating him, I've felt compelled (read: obligated) to do things with them. Hang out, make small talk, compare stories. It's like -- a little too much for me.

I like his friends but sometimes I feel like the girls 'watch' me. I can't tell if they're being nice or just asking questions to pry. Maybe it's just that I don't 'vibe' with them? I've had a little trouble making friends lately (I'm just not interested) and might seem a little 'flighty'

Have you ever felt like it was a chore to be friends with 'the Girls'? I want to be more at ease around them but like.. I dunno -

Is this what marriage is like?!!

 

[tuffCOOKiE]

bump, anyone?

 

[growth2come]

I am not married but my BF's friend's wives or their GF have come round and I just keep it casual. I am a fairly private person and only tell what you need to know and the rest is just casual talk about what they do, the weather lately or whats going on in the news....I dont feel the need to be their "friend" as long as we are getting along. If you are going to friends with someone it doesnt take that much effort also know that you are not going to be friends with each and every female you encounter.....

 

[ThickHair]

I think you are thinking too hard. You are not obligated to hang around these woman. It should always be a pleasure, not a chore.

When I was married I hung with the other wives but I still kept my other friends. For some reason I didn't mix them, maybe because they were my husband's friends wives and they didn't even know my friends. Since the divorce I was only able to keep one of the wives. Oh well.

 

[JustKiya]

I don't hang out with C's friends girlfriends. They ain't my friends. Now, if I happened to make friends with one, well and good - but I'm not trying to be kikiki with em, at all.

 

[ThatJerseyGirl]

yup...go with your first instinct. if u feel it is suspect, then go with ur gut. see, they are a click and thus, click together, know each other's business, etc, who doin what, what problems they have, etc and they're probably trying to reel you in to get in yours.

if you ain't feeling it, u ain't feelin it. you are not obligated to do anything with these people truth be told. you prolly don't vibe with them cuz u don't get down like that...with the click bullshyt.

keep it casual, keep ur business to yourself, and limit that time. cuz know that you've already been discussed......

 

[hopeful]

I know exactly how you feel. Like someone else said trust your instincts. I have noticed that some women are very nosy and just want to be in your business. And I'm a very private person so that gets on my nerves. I say be friendly but keep it casual. And no, that is not what marriage is like unless you want it to be.

 

[gabulldawg]

I remember dealing with this with my ex. I could not related to most of the girls that his friends dated. Most of them were single moms and I had no kids. So it was be kind of awkard to hang with them and their kids.

But I agree with those that said you don't have to feel obligated to hang with them! If they aren't your style, then they aren't your style! Eventually I just stopped hanging out with them. Then turns out they broke up shortly after anyway! So it didn't even matter in the long-run.

 

[tuffCOOKiE]

I guess you're right. I think the reason I care so much is I want my bf to see that I'm making an effort.

How are the RHOA/NY/OC friends anyway? lol, i realize it's only show