The candid questions regarding relationships thread (for grown folks)

[Bad&Bougee]

Maybe it’s not the wetness that is the problem, but maybe I need to do more kegels...
I haven’t received any complaints, but I feel like I am feeling less myself if it’s too wet.

But the feeling thing can also be a bigger problem, I am just starting to realise and investigate and I am near 40...

So the 2 apples are as good as insensitive
Also I barely can feel the crayon, any size.
But the little button works very well.
And also pressure on the G works well.
(Am I too graphic, because then I will edit)

I don’t think how I feel is a problem for the guy, as I have had a 2 and a 5 minute guy, so I guess it’s still pleasurable for them.

But now that I start to investigate myself more, I notice it’s most about the button, the G and the mind... without the mind, I am going nowhere. So I need to be triggered or trigger myself with stories or pictures in my mind or talking...
And the whole action is so much less about the crayon. I do want it to be there. And I do appreciate the looks of it, how it feels in my hand etc very much.
But I guess what I am trying to say is, I am not really feeling it...

Am I weird?
Is it kegels?
Is there something else I need to know/do?

You are not weird at all. I would suggest kegels though. Kegels is not only about keeping it tight but it's also about control. When your partner has a small crayon (too cute) you can constrict your lady part and "hold" the crayon. Making it tighter during intercourse will allow you to feel it more and provide unbelievable pleasure. I like to play with it - constricting for a few moments, let it go and then constrict when he least expects it.

Kegels is probably your best bet. Do them everyday as often as you can. Also, lift your hips just a little during and he will be right on the G.

 

[Bad&Bougee]

 

[BrownBetty]

Try astroglide. Life changing...

 

[Karmi]

Edited

Don't give up! Good D attached to a decent man is hard to find. Keep trying you'll get used to it. Trust me

 

[IslandMummy]

edited.

Astroglide, yoga and reverse cowgirl.

 

[SlimPickinz]

It gets easier with practice... and whiskey.

 

[LostInAdream]

Astroglide, yoga and reverse cowgirl.

This and a little wine helps

It does for me anyways

 

[Blessed&higlyflavoured]

I have someone comparable whatsapping me as we speak.
It's not all fun. Sometimes I have to tap out ... like "I Yield"

When he asks you if you want this D, you're like damn i don't even know any more.
And it feels like your innards are literally being rearranged. (not a figure of speech)


He's so skinny as well. Like cuddling a pillowcase full of sticks.

I like them a little meaty.

 

[Southernbella.]

I have someone comparable whatsapping me as we speak.
It's not all fun. Sometimes I have to tap out ... like "I Yield"

When he asks you if you want this D, you're like damn i don't even know any more.
And it feels like your innards are literally being rearranged. (not a figure of speech)


He's so skinny as well. Like cuddling a pillowcase full of sticks.

I like them a little meaty.

No sense in dudes like this even asking "why you running?" because they know good and well. With other dudes that might be sexy talk but with them it's like

 

[MzLady78]

I have someone comparable whatsapping me as we speak.
It's not all fun. Sometimes I have to tap out ... like "I Yield"

When he asks you if you want this D, you're like damn i don't even know any more.
And it feels like your innards are literally being rearranged. (not a figure of speech)


He's so skinny as well. Like cuddling a pillowcase full of sticks.

I like them a little meaty.

Your screen name is quite apropos for this thread.

 

[Bronxcutie]

My ex told me a story about a woman literally running out of his apartment after he showed her the d!

 

[Ganjababy]

Spoiler: Grown folks link

Your comments made me think of this lol

If he was a little older and overweight, I'd be cool with it. But he all slim and fit and full of energy. You ain't finna be messing up my insides talking about "shut up and take it" and just a pumpin and pumpin.

Shiiiiiii....I'll call the police on your behind.

 

[Blessed&higlyflavoured]

No sense in dudes like this even asking "why you running?" because they know good and well. With other dudes that might be sexy talk but with them it's like

He warned me as well!

On our first date. I thought he was being disrespectful and probably blowing his own trumpet. Who tells someone they're packing on the first date?
I was that's so inappropriate * clutches pearls* How immature..... He kind of shrugged and sipped his drink

No! He had a duty of care to inform me as soon as possible. I couldn't even say he didn't warn me

 

[YvetteWithJoy]

Try astroglide. Life changing...

Really? Let me check it out. This might change my marital life. Thanks for sharing.

 

[silverbuttons]

I only messed with a dude like that once.. had a New Orleans accent to boot.

I kept on running away from it.. so he grabbed me by the hair and said “Bring me back my kitty, I’m NAWT gon’ chase it”... boy, I had to tap out. He was gonna ruin my entire life, credit and weave. Nah.

 

[THicknLong]

Lawd you ladies got me dying with these comments. My Jamaican ex had me out here Bad.. one time I thought he broke something. Men hung like that you definitely have to practice and take your time with, but when you get it right it’s hard to go back to anyone else. Lol I’m tempted to text him “hey big head”. He is well hung!

 

[Zaynab]

Don't give up! Good D attached to a decent man is hard to find. Keep trying you'll get used to it. Trust me

Yes. keep working at it. Good men and Good D. They out there curve and all

 

[Zaynab]

Astroglide, yoga and reverse cowgirl.

Astroglide is bae

 

[Menina Preta]

Lawd you ladies got me dying with these comments. My Jamaican ex had me out here Bad.. one time I thought he broke something. Men hung like that you definitely have to practice and take your time with, but when you get it right it’s hard to go back to anyone else. Lol I’m tempted to text him “hey big head”. He is well hung!

lmao at this comment and your user name.

I only messed with a dude like that once.. had a New Orleans accent to boot.

I kept on running away from it.. so he grabbed me by the hair and said “Bring me back my kitty, I’m NAWT gon’ chase it”... boy, I had to tap out. He was gonna ruin my entire life, credit and weave. Nah.

 

[IslandMummy]

Astroglide is bae

Astroglide is the truth. My gay coworker put me on and saved my life.

Ask and ye shall receive

And it’s not even prepared for battle. It’s just chilling.

 

[Z-kitty]

Astroglide is bae

Less is more with that stuff. Too much will have you feeling like there are no walls.

 

[Femmefatal1981]

I wonder if Safaree was advertising for the ladies, dudes or both.

Something about a man posting a peen pic knowing that the innanets if running rampant with all kinds of folks leaving you to be nothing more than a bottoms dream is a lil' odd.

I tip my hat to any bottom brave enough to take that. My gay bottom coworker says that’s how you end up wearing a diaper he’s not about that pipe life.

 

[Amberlina]

I only messed with a dude like that once.. had a New Orleans accent to boot.

I kept on running away from it.. so he grabbed me by the hair and said “Bring me back my kitty, I’m NAWT gon’ chase it”... boy, I had to tap out. He was gonna ruin my entire life, credit and weave. Nah.

 

[WhereItsAt]

I only messed with a dude like that once.. had a New Orleans accent to boot.

I kept on running away from it.. so he grabbed me by the hair and said “Bring me back my kitty, I’m NAWT gon’ chase it”... boy, I had to tap out. He was gonna ruin my entire life, credit and weave. Nah.

This sounds so hot and sexy...

 

[Anonymous1]

So where can i get this astroglide and what is it? I'm at work so i'm scared to google. I think i need it though.

 

[YvetteWithJoy]

Y’all are killing me in this thread!!

And thank everyone for their advice.

Astroglide, alcohol What else am I missing?

Meanwhile, he came on to me last night and...........I swear I probably get on his damned nerves! I’m gonna by some astroglide tonight..

Where can we get it? I'm afraid to Google Astroglide lest it cause our Google to start showing weird stuff on all our devices/computers.

 

[WhereItsAt]

Where can we get it? I'm afraid to Google Astroglide lest it cause our Google to start showing weird stuff on all our devices/computers.

I see Amazon, Wal mart, and Walgreens carries it.

 

[YvetteWithJoy]

I see Amazon, Wal mart, and Walgreens carries it.

Oh, I was NOT expecting that. That works! Thank you!

 

[GeorginaSparks]

I haven't used astroglide in years! I use Pjur....it's amazing.

 

[Silkycoils]

I only messed with a dude like that once.. had a New Orleans accent to boot.

I kept on running away from it.. so he grabbed me by the hair and said “Bring me back my kitty, I’m NAWT gon’ chase it”... boy, I had to tap out. He was gonna ruin my entire life, credit and weave. Nah.

I LOVE everything about this quote!