So My Niece Says She Hates Men...

[perfumenista]

is this normal? Should i be concerned?

She is a 90s baby and as far as I know has not suffered any abuse from a male. She grew up with both parents, is attractive, educated, and fit. Doesn't have too many male friends though.

Is this a phase she will eventually grow out of? Generational thing? I know the men of her generation leave ALOT to be desired, but is this a common sentiment among young bw?

 

[Goombay_Summer]

'Normal' is a relative term and she may simply prefer the company of women.

 

[lesedi]

Did you ask her why?

 

[locabouthair]

It's probably a phase but ask her why.

 

[perfumenista]

Did you ask her why?

She mentioned not liking the way men have historically treated women, also mentioned that most of the problems women have are caused by men.

 

[SuchaLady]

Is this the same niece that says she can't find any to date?

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

Is she heavy on social media and online forums?

 

[perfumenista]

Is this the same niece that says she can't find any to date?

They are sisters.

 

[LostInAdream]

Hate is a strong word. Maybe she dislikes things men are allowed to do versus women in society.

I am just learning to understand men . I grew up around a lot of women, single mothers at that so I really didn't know what role men fulfilled.

 

[SuchaLady]

They are sisters.

How are their social skills in general? It doesn't sound like they like socializing with men at all. I could see one or the other but both sisters?

 

[Bunnyhaslonghair]

I would ask her about her dating experiences. This generation of bm can definitely jade them young.

 

[Foxglove]

She mentioned not liking the way men have historically treated women, also mentioned that most of the problems women have are caused by men.

I see no lies

 

[Lucie]

I can understand her feelings. I do not think she has to be a lesbian either. Men have the upperhand in dating and they know it. Many do not feel like they even have to be respectful or to woo a woman. You would think there'd be a respite in dealing with older men but many are even worse.

I am not sure she hates men or is just venting but I can see her frustration.

 

[MeMyselfnMzT]

She mentioned not liking the way men have historically treated women, also mentioned that most of the problems women have are caused by men.

She has a point here.... If she doesn't like men leave her be. Sometimes I feel the exact same way

 

[Covagirlm]

Smart girl. She'll be aight

 

[VeryBecoming]

It's a pretty common sentiment these days.

 

[C@ssandr@]

She mentioned not liking the way men have historically treated women, also mentioned that most of the problems women have are caused by men.

Two parent home you say? Both sisters are having issues you say? Maybe they know something about their dad/parent's marriage.

Hate is a strong word. Maybe she dislikes things men are allowed to do versus women in society.

I am just learning to understand men . I grew up around a lot of women, single mothers at that so I really didn't know what role men fulfilled.

i have always wanted children. Lots of children. One day I realized that there wasn't a man anywhere in my fantasy . But I was raised by a housewife-turned-single parent. It's still surprising to me how our experience shapes us on some of the deepest levels.

'Normal' is a relative term and she may simply prefer the company of women.

 

[perfumenista]

I would ask her about her dating experiences. This generation of bm can definitely jade them young.

What do you mean?

 

[DarkJoy]

without any detail on her situation, hard to comment. the sentiment itself could just be frustration.

 

[Cheleigh]

Meh. I often have a similar sentiment (not necessarily hate, but indifference or dislike). And I'm physically/sexually only attracted to men (and married to one). I generally prefer the company of women to that of men, with a few exceptions.

 

[perfumenista]

She has a point here.... If she doesn't like men leave her be. Sometimes I feel the exact same way

If you have similar feeling, how are your interactions with men both professionally and personally? I'm having a hard time with the idea that she hates one half of the population. Just by their sheer numbers, they are unavoidable on some level. how do you cope?

 

[BlackRinse]

She mentioned not liking the way men have historically treated women, also mentioned that most of the problems women have are caused by men.

For this very reason I disliked men from 16-21. Never dated until 21 and self-identified as asexual. Hell i'm already bored of my current relationship. And no I am not a lesbian although I have family members who are waiting with high hopes to "out me".

 

[prettyinpurple]

If you have similar feeling, how are your interactions with men both professionally and personally? I'm having a hard time with the idea that she hates one half of the population. Just by their sheer numbers, they are unavoidable on some level. how do you cope?

I think you are taking it too far.

She uttered a sentiment. It doesn't mean that she can't get along with men or not make it in the world.

I'm sure she knows that she doesn't hate every single man.

You are taking her statement and running off the deep end with it.

 

[Ayesha81]

It doesn't mean she's a lesbian. There are also men who hate women and I'm not talking of gay men. They go on and mate women and have children. I dated a man like this he hated women just his total disregard for us.

 

[MeMyselfnMzT]

If you have similar feeling, how are your interactions with men both professionally and personally? I'm having a hard time with the idea that she hates one half of the population. Just by their sheer numbers, they are unavoidable on some level. how do you cope?

Any man who is around me would actually tell you I'm kind/pleasant and quiet. I'm no fool. I know how to interact with people but I rarely deal with men in my personal life. I avoid them. I am sexually attracted to men, definitely not lesbian or asexual. I sometimes like the company of men in my personal life but on my terms only. I guess I'm weird. *Shrugs*

 

[aquajoyice]

I need more context as to what she means by hating men. All men, some men, tall men, short men? I'm starting to sound like a Cat in the Hat book.

 

[perfumenista]

I need more context as to what she means by hating men. All men, some men, tall men, short men? I'm starting to sound like a Cat in the Hat book.

She also spoke about how the misogyny in hip hop, the baby mama/baby daddy culture where men abandon women and children, and the way bm refuse to protect bw has totally turned her off.

 

[lesedi]

She'll be fine.
We all find something to rebel against when we are young.

 

[MeMyselfnMzT]

She also spoke about how the misogyny in hip hop, the baby mama/baby daddy culture where men abandon women and children, and the way bm refuse to protect bw has totally turned her off.

She sounds incredibly smart to me. No need to try and change her.

 

[Theresamonet]

Well, men do make themselves very easy to hate. She's not crazy, weird, or abnormal to feel this way, in my opinion. I think you should be concerned should she begin to act on her hatred in a negative manner. But, sitting around, speaking the truth isn't alarming to me.