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Plushottie said:
This is just a utterance the holidays I typically bottle this up.
By now I would have thought I had worked hard enough to add value and would be lovable,desirable by now. It’s been a decade and self love is great but I refuse to just keep skinning and grinning when I don’t know how much more time I have and never having one holiday season that others have gotten w love, family and feeling as though I matter.
I know there are people not having food, on the streets and every calamity. I don’t find solace in others suffering either.
Just needed to say this after 10+yrs of being told someone like me should just take care of yourself and not desire.
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Plushottie said:
Not having friends makes the ah ha moments hard. Watching that video upthread really said a thing I have been too embarrassed to admit of wanting to be married as it would make me be quasi normal. I’m grateful for every failed relationship as all were abusive and unproductive. Being single for a decade makes me feel like I may never be someone’s desired esp that’s healthy. I did so much in the vain that if I did x I would be wanted. I have tried to be anyone other than me as over my life being me isn’t enough or too much. From looks to personality.
I would love to be loved and experience being lovable and desired. How it feels to have someone who protects and supportive. I never knew this growing up and it just seems it’s only for that girl aka not me.
But so grateful to not be married to just any ole dude that’s a cancer if he isn’t good.
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:bighug:

I think the feelings can be confusing because we only hear about how horrible men can be. But I can relate on some level. I personally miss being in a relationship. I have been focused on taking care of myself and practicing being grounded in the mean time. It can be challenging, but having hobbies that I love has been rewarding. I've been spending more and more time focused on dance. I'm even considering going semi pro just to see how far I can go with it. My career keeps me busy, and I'll be picking up more classes that'll make me a better health coach. Following my personal desires outside of the dating realm (since wanting a man is one of my desires) takes the edge off.
 
C@ssandr@ said:
:bighug:

I think the feelings can be confusing because we only hear about how horrible men can be. But I can relate on some level. I personally miss being in a relationship. I have been focused on taking care of myself and practicing being grounded in the mean time. It can be challenging, but having hobbies that I love has been rewarding. I've been spending more and more time focused on dance. I'm even considering going semi pro just to see how far I can go with it. My career keeps me busy, and I'll be picking up more classes that'll make me a better health coach. Following my personal desires outside of the dating realm (since wanting a man is one of my desires) takes the edge off.
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I’m doing similar but this yr felt so intense as I have been single most of my adult life. A friend told me about her now annulled marriage and so much has hit me of my idolatry of being coupled. I don’t think all men are bad but my options have not been robust but I know I can’t pause life.
 
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