*-*Single Ladies Support Thread!!*-*

[Plushottie]

This is just a utterance the holidays I typically bottle this up.
By now I would have thought I had worked hard enough to add value and would be lovable,desirable by now. It’s been a decade and self love is great but I refuse to just keep skinning and grinning when I don’t know how much more time I have and never having one holiday season that others have gotten w love, family and feeling as though I matter.
I know there are people not having food, on the streets and every calamity. I don’t find solace in others suffering either.
Just needed to say this after 10+yrs of being told someone like me should just take care of yourself and not desire.

 

[TrulyBlessed]

Wow! That’s not a tiny lie though, that’s huge.

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[lavaflow99]

This was so refreshing to read and reassuring for us single folks. I will stay the course and not settle in my search for a true partner.

 

[BrownBetty]

Wow! That’s not a tiny lie though, that’s huge.

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I know someone who found out after 4 years in a rlp the guy had an older child he never mentioned. Kid had to be 17/18 when they started dating. Not a word to her. The premarital counselor told her that it was a red flag. They ended up getting married.

 

[Evolving78]

This was so refreshing to read and reassuring for us single folks. I will stay the course and not settle in my search for a true partner.

It is all about the day to day! People aren’t honest about that. People haven’t truly learned themselves as individuals. Most of us have been trying to partner up, or attach ourselves to others as soon as we were able to date. Basically, Folks don’t even know who they are and what they want for themselves, let alone what type of realistic relationship they want.
People that want to have a traditional marriage don’t even live like that as a single person.

 

[PatDM'T]

I shared this
in the thread
about Da’Naia and
Derrick Jaxn but
I think the advice
is good for anyone,
especially those not
yet married:

 

[Plushottie]

I shared this
in the thread
about Da’Naia and
Derrick Jaxn but
I think the advice
is good for anyone,
especially those not
yet married:

I have soooo many thoughts and she expounded on much of how I felt on this.

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

So, men still out here asking whats your favorite color?

LOL.

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

He’s so corny

 

[Plushottie]

Not having friends makes the ah ha moments hard. Watching that video upthread really said a thing I have been too embarrassed to admit of wanting to be married as it would make me be quasi normal. I’m grateful for every failed relationship as all were abusive and unproductive. Being single for a decade makes me feel like I may never be someone’s desired esp that’s healthy. I did so much in the vain that if I did x I would be wanted. I have tried to be anyone other than me as over my life being me isn’t enough or too much. From looks to personality.
I would love to be loved and experience being lovable and desired. How it feels to have someone who protects and supportive. I never knew this growing up and it just seems it’s only for that girl aka not me.
But so grateful to not be married to just any ole dude that’s a cancer if he isn’t good.

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

I like how he has asked about things that are important to me and I wasn’t even aware he was paying attention. He still corny though lol.

 

[Plushottie]

A corny dude as long as it’s pure can be the best.

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

Men will wanna lick your bootyhole clean but commitment is where they draw the line

 

[Plushottie]

The scream I just let out mercy.

 

[Guapa1]

Men will wanna lick your bootyhole clean but commitment is where they draw the line

This is THE TRUTH

 

[Evolving78]

So, men still out here asking whats your favorite color?

LOL.

Awe that’s cute. It’s a conversation starter and you might get something special in your favorite color!

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

I chuckled when he asked @Evolving78

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

We talked on the phone for a long time. He sound like someones grandfather from deep Mississippi.

I cant wait to see what this date look like, lololol

 

[Evolving78]

We talked on the phone for a long time. He sound like someones grandfather from deep Mississippi.

I cant wait to see what this date look like, lololol

He might be a catch! Sounds like someone that might be able to tell you when your timing belt is going out in your car, or he knows how to cook beans really well!

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

His family is from Alabama. I keep trying not to laugh when that twang comes out @Evolving78

 

[Evolving78]

His family is from Alabama. I keep trying not to laugh when that twang comes out @Evolving78

You gotta report back when you go out with him! Girl I hope he doesn’t show up with no linen suit on, wearing a hat with some Stacy Adams.. But hey, if he is a sweetie pie, why not? Lol

 

[weaveadiva]

His family is from Alabama. I keep trying not to laugh when that twang comes out @Evolving78

I a man with a southern twang

He probably fine, girl. Stay open minded

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

I’m easily annoyed. I’m trying to be gentle and reaffirming but I think he’s super eager. It’s flattering but I’m not feeling rushing into anything.

It seems he moves fast and unbeknownst to me, he’s been interested in me for a year and taking note @weaveadiva

we will see how the first date goes

 

[Evolving78]

I’m easily annoyed. I’m trying to be gentle and reaffirming but I think he’s super eager. It’s flattering but I’m not feeling rushing into anything.

It seems he moves fast and unbeknownst to me, he’s been interested in me for a year and taking note @weaveadiva

we will see how the first date goes

Yeah slow him down!

 

[Plushottie]

Hope he is about action because words are still cheap but I know everyone is different. He better show my friend,yes we friends now, a great time. @Bette Davis Eyes

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

Hope he is about action because words are still cheap but I know everyone is different. He better show my friend,yes we friends now, a great time. @Bette Davis Eyes

@Plushottie

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

I want to go to Toronto. Ive been hearing its nice to visit.

Anyone been prior to covid and after?

 

[lavaflow99]

I want to go to Toronto. Ive been hearing its nice to visit.

Anyone been prior to covid and after?

Toronto is fun! Like a mini NYC. I went years ago during Caribana and had a ball.

Not sure what it’s like these days.

 

[lavaflow99]

 

[Bette Davis Eyes]

I gotta renew my passport. I think i wanna go to Caribana next year @lavaflow99