Evolving78
Well-Known Member
We just have to learn to take things slow. People that want to speed things up so early in the relationship are not in it for the long haul. They are in it for the thrill of the moment. Once the high wears off, they move on to the next person. Sometimes the don’t give you any kind of closure.My heart literally hurts. At the beginning of the year I believe I posted in here about possibly finding someone.
Things were going so well until they weren’t. Immediately he was taking me out on dates, introducing me to his friends, etc. What makes matters worse is that he’s friends with my family. That’s how I was introduced.
He gave the reasons as to why he had to back off of me was him not being everything I want and need, he has a “lot going on”, and he’s trying to spare me. Yet he mentioned not wanting to treat me like the other females he has because he respects me.
My final straw was a social media comment I saw where he insinuated that he was in the company of another female while on vacation.
like this man started off SO strong with me. Introduced me to his friends, was mentioning introducing me to his mom... like this one hurts especially he was the one after an abusive relationship.
there’s way more than what I can say, but this just sucks.
my mood has been horrible and my desire to eat just isn’t there.
Emotional unavailable people always what to rush things. They rush into telling you personal details of their past, they rush physical intimacy, they introduce you to everyone to make it seem like you are special, they tell you all of these wonderful plans they want to make with you, etc.. they do all of this because there really is no true substance to them. I used the noun people instead of men because women do it too. Hell, friends do it! Be careful of Women that are too quick to call you Sis and BFF and you really don’t know them. They force themselves on to you, which forces you to let your guard down and minimize your boundaries.
Don’t feel bad. You found out early on before things got too serious on your end. When you are ready to get back out there again, really get to know that person. LISTEN.
I recently had a conversation with someone and I could tell all between the lines what he was on. He was emotionally unavailable and couldn’t answer questions straightforward. And I didn’t just ask question about dating. I’m not even looking to get involved with anybody, but I did pick his brain to see what was his purpose in trying to waste my time. He just wanted to fill a void. I’m nobody’s space/time filler. People just really need to learn how to be alone until they get it together and are ready.
Folks that are just out here playing and practicing are causing a lot of heartbreak. But we also have to be accountable for what we allow into our lives. Don’t just let someone roll up into your life and spin you all around. You walk away not knowing your left from your right.
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