oh wow he trying to get on the jumbo jet?

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I like him. :lol: We got to keep him in the rotation.

But yeah way too soon to be flying somewhere for a baecation. Baby steps, sir :lol:

LOL... he is a mess! My reply "You know we are in a global pandemic, yes? You know we can't be out here just flying willy nilly in a pandemic?"
Him - there won't be a lot of people there or on the plan right now

I told him to take a sit and cool it.
 
Is it weird to move to another city if you feel your dating options would be better? Or to have more options? Currently in ATL and I work remotely. I want to move to Houston. My parents don't really support it because I'd be further away from them (they are in FL).

No. It’s not weird. Weirder to me to stay in a place where you don’t feel happy and don’t feel you have enough options. Do your research, trust your gut, and do what’s best for you. And if you don’t like it here you can still move again. Do what’s best for you. Life is too short.

People have been been saying for years that ATL and Washington DC were the worst places to live for single black women as far as dating and marriage were concerned.
 
No. It’s not weird. Weirder to me to stay in a place where you don’t feel happy and don’t feel you have enough options. Do your research, trust your gut, and do what’s best for you. And if you don’t like it here you can still move again. Do what’s best for you. Life is too short.

People have been been saying for years that ATL and Washington DC were the worst places to live for single black women as far as dating and marriage were concerned.


Thanks so much @hopeful :heart3:. You're so right. I need to do what's best. My gut has been telling me it's time for something new.
 
Is it weird to move to another city if you feel your dating options would be better? Or to have more options? Currently in ATL and I work remotely. I want to move to Houston. My parents don't really support it because I'd be further away from them (they are in FL).
No, it's not weird. That's something that I used to talk about with my friends. It's something to consider about a city, just like weather, amenities, etc.

A lot of parents of adult children want their kids close to them. You have to do what's best for you.
 
Is it weird to move to another city if you feel your dating options would be better? Or to have more options? Currently in ATL and I work remotely. I want to move to Houston. My parents don't really support it because I'd be further away from them (they are in FL).
The choice is yours if your unhappy.
I know my sis used to live in Atlanta and it was incredibly hard to date.
 
Thank you ladies. I appreciate. I kind of feel my question was silly when rereading it. Moving would not be weird at all :)

The choice is yours if your unhappy.
I know my sis used to live in Atlanta and it was incredibly hard to date.

No, it's not weird. That's something that I used to talk about with my friends. It's something to consider about a city, just like weather, amenities, etc.

A lot of parents of adult children want their kids close to them. You have to do what's best for you.
 
Thank you ladies. I appreciate. I kind of feel my question was silly when rereading it. Moving would not be weird at all :)

It wasn’t a silly question. You were being smart. You needed help with sorting things out. That is all. Parental guilt can cloud your judgement.

About 30 years ago I had a girlfriend who was absolutely GORGEOUS. I mean all of the guys fell over themselves for her. I will never forget her telling us that when she lived in DC that she felt completely invisible. She’d go to a club and the men would wait for women to ask THEM to dance. She was stunned. That was 30 years ago. And I have been hearing stories like that about DC and ATL for that long. Things have probably only gotten worse over the past 30 years. On the flip side they are great places for a Black woman to thrive career-wise and make good friends.
 
It wasn’t a silly question. You were being smart. You needed help with sorting things out. That is all. Parental guilt can cloud your judgement.

About 30 years ago I had a girlfriend who was absolutely GORGEOUS. I mean all of the guys fell over themselves for her. I will never forget her telling us that when she lived in DC that she felt completely invisible. She’d go to a club and the men would wait for women to ask THEM to dance. She was stunned. That was 30 years ago. And I have been hearing stories like that about DC and ATL for that long. Things have probably only gotten worse over the past 30 years. On the flip side they are great places for a Black woman to thrive career-wise and make good friends.

I'm living in the Wash, DC area right now. On the flip side, there are a lot of 'others' and white men here that like and approach black women. Most of them are very well paid and educated too. They will approach you if they are attracted and think you are nice. I was a little surprised about that!
 
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I'm living in the Wash, DC area right now. On the flip side, there are a lot of 'others' and white men here that like and approach black women. Most of them are very well paid and educated too. They will approach you if they are attracted and think you are nice. I was a little surprised about that!

That is fantastic. I like that.
 
I'm living in the Wash, DC area right now. On the flip side, there are a lot of 'others' and white men here that like and approach black women. Most of them are very well paid and educated too. They will approach you if they are attracted and think you are nice. I was a little surprised about that!

Don’t be. I’ve lived in the DMV area for a while now. BWIR has exploded over the last 10 years. I think it will equal or surpass BMIR in the next 10 years.
 
I'm living in the Wash, DC area right now. On the flip side, there are a lot of 'others' and white men here that like and approach black women. Most of them are very well paid and educated too. They will approach you if they are attracted and think you are nice. I was a little surprised about that!
I am in DC too and concur. A lot of non black men are interested in black women out here if you are trying to swirl.
 
I was dating a guy who was wonderful for two months. Then he told me he only wanted to marry somone from his culture (Nigerian). I’m Haitian so I was really broken up about it but I’m no spring chicken. 32 years old and counting. I don’t have time to waste, maybe if I was in my early twenties, but now nahhhh. I had to break it off with him.
 
It's probably just an excuse for his commitment issues. Even though I think he is a jerk for leading you on in the first place, at least you found out in two months. You dodged a bullet.


I was dating a guy who was wonderful for two months. Then he told me he only wanted to marry somone from his culture (Nigerian). I’m Haitian so I was really broken up about it but I’m no spring chicken. 32 years old and counting. I don’t have time to waste, maybe if I was in my early twenties, but now nahhhh. I had to break it off with him.
 
I was dating a guy who was wonderful for two months. Then he told me he only wanted to marry somone from his culture (Nigerian). I’m Haitian so I was really broken up about it but I’m no spring chicken. 32 years old and counting. I don’t have time to waste, maybe if I was in my early twenties, but now nahhhh. I had to break it off with him.

You should look into this Facebook page and Instagram account. He has some good dating advice that helps women weed out men like this sooner. So sorry you experienced this. You deserve better.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/906796106125647/?ref=share

https://instagram.com/the_fairy_godfather?igshid=1g0t4j2q9e6iy
 
I’ve speaking to this guy for a lil while now. Very handsome, mixed race guy, lovely green eyes, but as I’ve said to him I’m not all about looks, it’s what is within that I look for. No point being attractive if you’re dull as hell and I’ve come across a few of those.

Anywho he says to me he wants to “court,” I mean how many guys use such a quaint turn of phrase lol I found it quite cute though. We’ve spent a long time talking, talking about quite deep and personal issues, he is very open, whereas I’m closed.

He’s a bit different to what I’m used to. He won’t say things to me, that sound good, that will necessarily please me. He’s forthright and has no problem in giving his opinion even at a risk of me not liking what he says.

Downside, because there is always one (or more) lol, he is a reformed player, he’s someone who turns heads it seems. He’s freely admitted that’s not what he wants. He wants substance, he wants something meaningful, he wants longevity. I mean he talks a very good talk so it’s hard not to be convinced by it, but there’s still a niggle. He feels dangerous for some reason, gut instinct is saying it’s not going to end well, but I will probably meet him and see.

It’s a good thing he says he wants to court because I won’t be giving it up for a while so we’ll see.
 
I have learned with this pandemic that this kinda human touch is so needed.

If I lived in England, I would have been fined right about now. :look:

https://mashable.com/article/sex-ban-england-coronavirus/

Sex with someone you don't live with is now illegal in England
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BY RACHEL THOMPSON5 DAYS AGO
No sex with people outside your household.

That's a rule now enshrined in law in England as new legislation is brought in prohibiting indoor "gatherings" of two or more people from different households amid the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic.

It's been dubbed a lockdown "sex ban" by the media, but the new legislation makes no explicit mention of the word sex. But, is sex really banned? We took a look at the new rules.

Indoor "gatherings" are banned under the Health Protection (Coronavirus, Restrictions) Regulations 2020 bill, which came into effect on June 1, 2020. The new rules define gatherings as "when two or more people are present together in the same place in order to engage in any form of social interaction with each other, or to undertake any other activity with each other." If you're single or if you live apart from your partner this new legislation will affect you.

The UK has been under lockdown since March 23 — so 10 weeks — and until now the government restrictions have stipulated that people are only allowed to leave their homes for a limited set of circumstances, including for work, health reasons, to buy food, or to get exercise. Those restrictions have been loosened over the past few weeks.

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So, does sexual intercourse fall under the categories "social interaction" or "any other activity"? It would appear so. Unless you live with your sexual partner, you will be breaking the law if you go to another person's house for sex. It's also prohibited by law to stay overnight away from home, unless it's for work, funerals, or avoiding harm. In short, it's illegal to visit friends, family, or sexual partners inside their homes or to spend any time indoors with someone you don't live with.

For the people abiding by lockdown restrictions for the past 10 weeks, it likely comes as no surprise that sex with people outside your household remains off limits. So, what difference does this legislation actually make? Until now, the person who entered another person's home would have been in breach of the lockdown rules. Under this new law, both people can now be prosecuted under the amendment. Previous restrictions made no mention of meeting up in private places, and instead the message to 'stay at home' was disseminated by the government. According to police guidance published by the College of Policing, the approach to restrictions has changed as of June 1. "Rather than requiring a reasonable excuse to leave the place where a person is living, there are specific things that members of the public cannot do," reads the guidance.

There are exceptions to the rules about gatherings and overnight stays. Both are permitted in the following circumstances:

  • between members of the same household

  • for people attending a funeral; for an elite athlete and their coach or parent

  • for work purposes or providing charitable services

  • to facilitate house moves

  • to provide care or assistance to a vulnerable person

  • to provide emergency assistance

  • for providing registered early years childcare

  • to avoid injury, illness, or to escape a risk of harm

  • to facilitate access between parents and children

  • to fulfill legal obligations or participate in legal proceedings

  • for the purposes of education
I emailed the Department of Health and Social Care (DHSC) and asked the following question: "Is it now illegal for a person to go to another person's house to have sex?" In my email I noted that the legislation did not make explicit mention of 'sex' but that people have interpreted the law as a sex ban.

In reply, a DHSC spokesperson said: "Changes to Coronavirus Regulations mean people can spend time outdoors, including private gardens and other outdoor spaces, in groups of up to six people from different households. However, everybody should act responsibly and continue to strictly observe social distancing rules."

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Adam Wagner

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Afraid to say this is correct.

I can't believe I'm about to tweet this.

From tomorrow sex between two (or more) people in a private place who do not live in the same household is a "gathering" between 2 or more people and is therefore illegal. https://twitter.com/RMBFLK/status/1267100730374176768 …


Ronnie MB (Ronnie MacLennan Baird)@RMBFLK
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Which, read with the definition in para 4, means that sex between two people not already living together is being made illegal: sex in a public place was already against the law ;-)


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"Individuals who participate in a prohibited gathering will be in breach of the regulations, and the police will use their common sense and discretion in all cases," the statement continued. The spokesperson added that DHSC had "set out" its plan "to return to life to as near normal as we can, for as many people as we can, as quickly and fairly as possible in order to safeguard livelihoods, but in a way that is safe and continues to protect our NHS."

For people looking for loopholes to this law, remember that sex outdoors is already punishable under pre-existing including indecent exposure and outraging public decency. Furthermore, under new guidelines, people meeting up in outdoor gatherings of up to six people are required to practice social distancing.

Police can't burst into your bedroom and fine you for having sex.
You might well be wondering about how the police can enforce something like this. Well, on Monday, 10 Downing Street confirmed that police can't burst into your bedroom and fine you for having sex. Not sure if any of us quite expected that course of events to be on the cards, but glad to hear No. 10 has ruled it out, nonetheless.

Police can arrest or fine those breaking the law, but they don't have the power to check inside your home. The default fine stands at £100 in England.

"The police will do as they have done since the beginning of the health regulations being in place. They will be exercising their common sense and engaging with the public and only issuing fixed penalty notices when they believe it’s a last resort," the prime minister's spokesperson told the Mirror. The spokesperson added that police in England don't have powers to enter people's homes under the regulations. "What they can do is enter homes where they suspect serious criminal activity is taking place under separate and existing laws," they added.

Looks like that sex hiatus will be going on a little longer then.

TOPICS: COVID-19, CULTURE, HEALTH & FITNESS, SEX & RELATIONSHIPS, SEX-RELATIONSHIPS

Trust me it’s still happening, up and down the country lol. It is virtually impossible to police. :rofl:
 
My heart literally hurts. At the beginning of the year I believe I posted in here about possibly finding someone.

Things were going so well until they weren’t. Immediately he was taking me out on dates, introducing me to his friends, etc. What makes matters worse is that he’s friends with my family. That’s how I was introduced.

He gave the reasons as to why he had to back off of me was him not being everything I want and need, he has a “lot going on”, and he’s trying to spare me. Yet he mentioned not wanting to treat me like the other females he has because he respects me.

My final straw was a social media comment I saw where he insinuated that he was in the company of another female while on vacation.

like this man started off SO strong with me. Introduced me to his friends, was mentioning introducing me to his mom... like this one hurts especially he was the one after an abusive relationship.

there’s way more than what I can say, but this just sucks.

my mood has been horrible and my desire to eat just isn’t there.
 
My heart literally hurts. At the beginning of the year I believe I posted in here about possibly finding someone.

Things were going so well until they weren’t. Immediately he was taking me out on dates, introducing me to his friends, etc. What makes matters worse is that he’s friends with my family. That’s how I was introduced.

He gave the reasons as to why he had to back off of me was him not being everything I want and need, he has a “lot going on”, and he’s trying to spare me. Yet he mentioned not wanting to treat me like the other females he has because he respects me.

My final straw was a social media comment I saw where he insinuated that he was in the company of another female while on vacation.

like this man started off SO strong with me. Introduced me to his friends, was mentioning introducing me to his mom... like this one hurts especially he was the one after an abusive relationship.

there’s way more than what I can say, but this just sucks.

my mood has been horrible and my desire to eat just isn’t there.

I’m so sorry - from someone who’s been there. The worst thing is the disappointment when they do this mess. You invest yourself, your time, everything to this person and then they do this. He knew he wasn’t emotionally available for you so why start something with you. The worst kind of man smh. :nono:

I’ve only just in the last few months gotten over the last guy who did something similar. Yes it’s painful and it’s going to hurt for a while and you won’t want anything to do with men for a while but you’re going to get over it and you will do better.

I know people hate hearing this but at least you found out that he isn’t worth your time relatively early.
 
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