cocomochaa
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one more week of being incredibly busy and then i can get back to building my roster. Tenderoni is still here but I'm getting lazy by not dating others.
I agree and I would have kept it very generic with that topic.
I understand your logical and reasoning, but nope, keep it generic as possible when it comes dating.I do not think anyone means that the the opposite of not hiding that info is flaunting it.
I certainly do not mean that. Purposefully hiding or going out of one's way to avoid revealing something like that is unecessary and not healthy imo. If asked, by all means answer honestly and without shame or apology. If someone drops you over that, then that person is likely not the one.
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I understand your logical and reasoning, but nope, keep it generic as possible when it comes dating.
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@Kimiche @sunflora @cinnespice
For online dating have you considered broadening your settings to include men in other cities? Sounded ridiculous to me (I mean, how are we supposed to date?) but I know a couple who just married and they met this way.
If that question comes up I would just say I went to such and such and leave it at that. The purpose is to not get into a masculine conversation and to keep it light on your side. If it blossoms into something beyond a first date or two, it will eventually come out.Thank you for that but I want to understand what you mean better. What do you mean 'generic' then? Do you mean 'vague'?
Like guy asks you: Did you go to college or grad school?
And you answer: Well I might have had some education. What about you?
I used to be vague in the beginning of a dating relationship, not because of some coy plot to make sure the man felt masculine, but because I was always paranoid, too distrusting of his intentions to fully reveal my personal info.
But once I trust someone, I would think I would want to know how they would react to who I truly am.
So, I would love to hear your full perspective. Like if you do mean vague, how long do you stay vague? And what is your purpose? .
Thanks!
@Reinventing21 this is pretty much my point when I first said that I dont discuss it or keep it minimal. It is technically a masculine conversation and it can become/seen as competition. We may not see it like that, but they do. The last guy that asked me, I told him "yes"; he asked where and I told him where. Luckily for me, he had monies, so I knew there were no motives. He asks a question and he gets an answer of the question he asked. IME, when you start getting into all of that and offering information, some of the ones that are "impressed" by you are basically sizing what you bring to the table. Let them find out later, but not in the beginning. Dont be paranoid.If that question comes up I would just say I went to such and such and leave it at that. The purpose is to not get into a masculine conversation and to keep it light on your side. If it blossoms into something beyond a first date or two, it will eventually come out.
I could’ve written literally all of this! So happy for you sis. Where did you move to?So. I have been celibate for quite a while. I met this man by darn near accident and myyyyy has he opened up some thangs for me. What was that thread folks were talking about the crazy things they were doing for some D?! Well, I feel like I'm two sessions away from that . In all seriousness, he seems like a nice guy as well.
Anyway, I'm officially settled in to my new city! I've been trying to get back out there in the online dating realm, but I'm not really feeling it. It just seems like so much effort for so little reward. I was ghosted by a guy I'd been seeing for four(!!!) months, right as I was feeling ready to be exclusive. It's a mess. I've been "positioning" myself, going out solo, smiling, flirting, so here's to meeting someone the old fashioned way!
Regardless, this move has been so, so good for me! I have gained so much confidence. I look effin' amazing, and I feel like I'm finally in touch with my feminine, sensual energy. Overall just feeling great!
im going to end it with tenderoni. I've been super stressed at work the last couple days and thought hold on, i don't think i can call him. wait we rarely communicate except to plan a date or brief check-in.
This feels amateur. yes he's sweet and lovely when im around him. but what real value am i getting out of this.
If that question comes up I would just say I went to such and such and leave it at that. The purpose is to not get into a masculine conversation and to keep it light on your side. If it blossoms into something beyond a first date or two, it will eventually come out.
@Reinventing21 this is pretty much my point when I first said that I dont discuss it or keep it minimal. It is technically a masculine conversation and it can become/seen as competition. We may not see it like that, but they do. The last guy that asked me, I told him "yes"; he asked where and I told him where. Luckily for me, he had monies, so I knew there were no motives. He asks a question and he gets an answer of the question he asked. IME, when you start getting into all of that and offering information, some of the ones that are "impressed" by you are basically sizing what you bring to the table. Let them find out later, but not in the beginning. Dont be paranoid.
A fresh start is just what you need sometimes! I’m in AustinI could’ve written literally all of this! So happy for you sis. Where did you move to?
Do we know each other? I just moved here too!A fresh start is just what you need sometimes! I’m in Austin
You know there's not many of us here. We might have seen each other somewhere Yes please to an Austin area meetup!Do we know each other? I just moved here too!
And @NinaShamone leaves soon. We gotta set something up!
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Omgosh yes. Before we broke up, I was asking him what he wanted to do for the holidays concerning our families being that we lived together as well.^^^ @whosthatgurl Praying for you boo! This time of year can be especially hard.
These married men are a different kind of bold.