UPDATE:A friend of mine is in another city doing something stupid with some man she shouldn't have gone to see in the first place. She flew all the way down there when he was being distant and cold for the entire month before the trip. She would complain to me daily about it and I told her several times to fall back and cancel that trip. She didn't listen.
So she gets there, they go to a party and head back home where he proceeds to give her the "it's not you it's me" speech and the whole "I can't give you what you want right now". She texted me at 2am to tell me what happened but said she was fine. Her texts were riddled with typos which told me she definitely was not OK. She said she had family in the area and would go over there.
Text her today to find out she still hasn't left his house thinking that her sulking and pouting will make him feel bad. Since it's not working she's decided she is going to ask his friend (a guy she met at the party) if he "wants to get dinner?" My thing is if the friend was into her and asked her I probably would tell her to go for it but 1. She's texting him and planning on asking him out and 2. This will not make the first dude jealous and I know she's hoping it will.
Anyway, I told this whole story because I cannot believe how common this is and how often women play stupid games like this only hurting themselves in the end. Don't women want to be happy? After listening to her go on and on I had to flat out tell her "Girl, stop being stupid. Pack your s*** and COME HOME!" I don't want to kick her when she's down but this is just dumb. She needs to stop.
***I didn't have anywhere else to post this and felt the single ladies thread was the place.
She texted me to tell me she's back in town and...wait for it...she slept with him 2 more times after they had that talk. If I could I would post the screenshots to the madness. I was like um why did you do that? And does that mean you didn't go stay with family? She said no. So she stayed there the whole time thinking what, that she would guilt him into a relationship with her? I was like just forget this dude man. Delete and block. She hit me with the "but he's one of my best friends!" My response was "Friend, read this carefully. NO HE IS NOT! He is not your friend! If he cared about you at all he would not have slept with you after he told you he couldn't give you what you want" She didn't want to hear that and continued to blame him saying she wished he hadn't tried to hook up with her. My thing is yeah this dude sucks but at some point take some responsibility here. He tried because he's a man and YOU LET HIM. What incentive does this man have to have a relationship when you're willing to sleep with him after he tells you he's not going to give you one?!
She also told me that she has threatened to dump boyfriends that didn't like him and I'm just looking at my screen like you sound like a real idiot since he's not dropping the people in his life (some of whom are past gfs) for her. She said he would...except right before she left we had dinner and she spent the whole time complaining that he's still friends with an ex who is jealous of her and doesn't like her. I mean he won't drop this girl when you're sleeping with him and you out here dumping potential boyfriends because they can tell this guy is a creep? It's like common sense is gone.
She pretty much changed the subject in the middle of the convo and I went with it. She won't listen to me so gotta let her do her own thing I guess.