*-*Single Ladies Support Thread!!*-*

[UniquelyDivine]

Off to Typorama! Thanks!

I was so tickled

What you said is exactly what my coworker said. I guess what y'all are saying is possible. He's a year younger than me so when we were together I was more established (own apt, car, etc.) and he was just getting himself together trying to get those things. I was also a college grad and he wasn't so that always caused a bit of an underlying "thing"for him...I don't know if it was embarrassment, or envy or what. It's possible that he thought I wouldn't be interested.

ETA: I don't even remember why we broke up.
ETA2: I think I dropped some subtle hints. He knows I'm not married, and I told him I enjoyed chatting with him, and to keep in touch (my coworker said this sounds like a blow off )

Like a few pics in return and slide into his DM’s

 

[LivingDoll]

I was so tickled

Like a few pics in return and slide into his DM’s

I posted it on my IG a few mins ago and he already liked it. Let's see if he gets the hint. I liked some of his pics already but I am reluctant about sliding in his DMs. We'll see.

ETA: After thinking about it, I decided to free my mind of the situation. If it's meant to be, it shall be.

 

[Saludable84]

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So I posted this on my IG yesterday and immediately got 3 date offers

Including one from the guy I was fussing about yesterday These men are so aggravating.


And yes I did accept I don’t turn down free food

Let me go be shady

 

[LivingDoll]

Update!

He asked for my number last night, and we talked for an hour. He seems to be a much more mature version of the guy I knew and loved all those years ago. We talked a lot about our children (at the time he was a single dad with a 5 yo, and I was a single mom with a 1 yo). His son graduated from the same univ that my daughter attends now. Small world!

We shall see how this plays out. I'll keep you all posted.

 

[gimbap]

Dude from last weekend's dating and sexing extravaganza sent me an email while I was at work planning our upcoming date. We're a lot alike in both good and bad ways, we both like to go places and explore new areas, and I think we both have commitment issues and like moving around a lot. But right now I keep telling myself he's just a friend to me and that calms my anxiety a lot and allows me to live in the moment. I'm enjoying learning to ignore the fake urgency of marriage

I think this is over. We've been doing this whole friend thing for a month, but honestly it FEELS like a relationship without the title. He always wants to know if I'm seeing other people, showing his friends my pics, etc. But then he said he can't see himself being in a relationship for another year. Uh nah. I can't do this for a year, no matter how much I'm enjoying it. I'm going to catch feelings. He went on to say how I made him feel inadequate job/money-wise. I don't understand it. Dude has a good job, works with computers. I don't know what he wants me to do, I can't manage his insecurities. I told him we can be friends, real friends. Of course he doesn't want that, but I need to protect my heart. Sighhhhhh

 

[BrownBetty]

It is over. You know it is over you just don't want to hurt his feelings. You will end up getting hurt instead.
If you want to be in a relationship but he doesn't want one you need to leave him alone. No you can't be friends, no you can't hang out or talk to him. You need to make sure you find what you want with who you want. Clearly he doesn't fit the equation.
You can't be real friends, not right now.

*hugs*

I think this is over. We've been doing this whole friend thing for a month, but honestly it FEELS like a relationship without the title. He always wants to know if I'm seeing other people, showing his friends my pics, etc. But then he said he can't see himself being in a relationship for another year. Uh nah. I can't do this for a year, no matter how much I'm enjoying it. I'm going to catch feelings. He went on to say how I made him feel inadequate job/money-wise. I don't understand it. Dude has a good job, works with computers. I don't know what he wants me to do, I can't manage his insecurities. I told him we can be friends, real friends. Of course he doesn't want that, but I need to protect my heart. Sighhhhhh

 

[UniquelyDivine]

Let me go be shady

Let me know the results

 

[UniquelyDivine]

Update!

He asked for my number last night, and we talked for an hour. He seems to be a much more mature version of the guy I knew and loved all those years ago. We talked a lot about our children (at the time he was a single dad with a 5 yo, and I was a single mom with a 1 yo). His son graduated from the same univ that my daughter attends now. Small world!

We shall see how this plays out. I'll keep you all posted.

Yaaaay! How cute

 

[hunnychile]

I have a sexy red dress I want to wear tonight. Anyone here have some DC recs for classy-ish places? Some place like La Vie down on the Wharf is nice but I've been there several times already. I was thinking I could hit Bethesda but I never go out there to know what's popping.

 

[Browndilocks]

I have an out of town guest who is seeing a medical specialist here. I dropped her off at an early doctor's appointment. I had time to kill before work so I went to ihop. Eating and minding my business, a couple sits directly across the aisle from me. The guy strikes a convo, asks me to "help them settle a score". He asks if I think short men have Napoleon complexes and I said definitely. Then he huffs and puffs and the girl says "but you're not that short babe". Ummm okay.

Then he asks "well do you have a man?" and I quickly respond "yes" and he says "are you into swinging?" All while the girl is looking at me with a smile on her face. I should have known something was up when they sat next to me in a nearly empty restaurant.

 

[Saludable84]

I have an out of town guest who is seeing a medical specialist here. I dropped her off at an early doctor's appointment. I had time to kill before work so I went to ihop. Eating and minding my business, a couple sits directly across the aisle from me. The guy strikes a convo, asks me to "help them settle a score". He asks if I think short men have Napoleon complexes and I said definitely. Then he huffs and puffs and the girl says "but you're not that short babe". Ummm okay.

Then he asks "well do you have a man?" and I quickly respond "yes" and he says "are you into swinging?" All while the girl is looking at me with a smile on her face. I should have known something was up when they sat next to me in a nearly empty restaurant.

Check please

 

[Saludable84]

So, since working on my anxiety (something I was forced to be because I seemed “lazy” growing up) I’ve been blocking, suppressing and even avoiding people and triggers that lead me to be anxious. I’m so glad I worked on this.

 

[Browndilocks]

Check please

We had a few words but that's basically what happened.

 

[BrownBetty]

@Browndilocks
Lol... I knew that was where the story was going. My friend is/was a swinger and he gave me the "clues" to pick up on when couples try to get me.

 

[Nay]

I have an out of town guest who is seeing a medical specialist here. I dropped her off at an early doctor's appointment. I had time to kill before work so I went to ihop. Eating and minding my business, a couple sits directly across the aisle from me. The guy strikes a convo, asks me to "help them settle a score". He asks if I think short men have Napoleon complexes and I said definitely. Then he huffs and puffs and the girl says "but you're not that short babe". Ummm okay.

Then he asks "well do you have a man?" and I quickly respond "yes" and he says "are you into swinging?" All while the girl is looking at me with a smile on her face. I should have known something was up when they sat next to me in a nearly empty restaurant.

What the hell!!! Girl, you have the funniest stories.

 

[movingforward13]

@Browndilocks
Lol... I knew that was where the story was going. My friend is/was a swinger and he gave me the "clues" to pick up on when couples try to get me.

What other clues are there...

 

[Browndilocks]

@Browndilocks
Lol... I knew that was where the story was going. My friend is/was a swinger and he gave me the "clues" to pick up on when couples try to get me.

Well I was completely taken off guard. They were smooth with it. It was damn near like saying "what time is it, oh yeah, do you swing?"

You think you've lived and gained a little experience with certain things then life shows you some new stuff.

 

[Browndilocks]

What the hell!!! Girl, you have the funniest stories.

Hollyweird never disappoints.

 

[BrownBetty]

What other clues are there...

1) they sat close to her, the post inferred they chose the seat vs being seated
2) asking her the question about his height, seems like they were trying to gauge interest

A lot of times it is the vibe I get off the women. Women usually aren't trying to engage a single woman while they are with their SO.

 

[shespoison]

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[UniquelyDivine]

I had an amazing date last night... I almost forgot how that feels!!

 

[movingforward13]

How to know you are DEFINITELY over your ex husband:

You had a dream that he was asking for you to come back because him and his fiancée broke up. And your response to him is trying to get them back together, telling him “all relationships go through hard times, y’all just need counseling” and “you left your family for her so make it work”....
All the while getting ready to tell people in your life the tea so y’all can laugh at him

When your dreams finally catch up with how you really feel- you know that soul tie LONG gone!

 

[Browndilocks]

I wish I had the guts to upload exactly how I look today. I look like Pollyanna before she got rescued from the streets. I took a long bath then deep conditioned my hair and put 4 dookie twists in. Threw on my favorite old skool sweats with a hole in them and an old faded t-shirt with green flip flops since I just got a pedi.

Somehow when I went to grab some food, this FIONE dude saw fit to flirt with my bummy arse and buy my dinner. Then I went to the gas station and another honnie filled my tank. I never get this kind of action when I'm on 10. Crickets when I look like perfect freakin 10. I'm convinced we should try less and less and less to get more.

 

[UniquelyDivine]

I wish I had the guts to upload exactly how I look today. I look like Pollyanna before she got rescued from the streets. I took a long bath then deep conditioned my hair and put 4 dookie twists in. Threw on my favorite old skool sweats with a hole in them and an old faded t-shirt with green flip flops since I just got a pedi.

Somehow when I went to grab some food, this FIONE dude saw fit to flirt with my bummy arse and buy my dinner. Then I went to the gas station and another honnie filled my tank. I never get this kind of action when I'm on 10. Crickets when I look like perfect freakin 10. I'm convinced we should try less and less and less to get more.

Yep!!!! More & more I realize the truth of “Man pretty” VS “Woman pretty”. We stress over stuff they couldn’t care less about.

 

[BrownBetty]

I went out the other night and it was interesting per usual.

Dude told me how pretty I was and blah blah... then hit me with the "you don't know who I am? I'm a big deal around here." <insert unstoppable laughter>. He wanted to take a pic. I hit him with a no thx.

I didn't meet anyone interesting. I flirted and had fun. I did find out later that there were a couple of dudes who were interested but didn't approach. Their loss.
I have a couple of events this weekend that I may meet new men folk.

I went out with an acquaintance. She complains about not having a man but goes to work then home. I told her men aren't going to show up to her house. She needs to get out and at least hone her flirting skills.

 

[bellatiamarie]

I hate when a man doesn’t keep his word. Don’t tell me one thing and then do another and think I’m just going to roll with it. That’s not how this works.

 

[Saludable84]

Yep!!!! More & more I realize the truth of “Man pretty” VS “Woman pretty”. We stress over stuff they couldn’t care less about.

I feel the same way @Browndilocks ive had people tell me my home look is sexy and I’m like nah... specifically, men. I wear leggings (not outside though), loose pants, an old T-shirt, nothing fancy. Hair be pineappled with my edges tied up. Sometimes I have on a big sweater. I don’t get it and I don’t bother to try.

 

[LivingDoll]

Hey ladies...so me and dude are just trudging along. We've been talking every day. Debating about politics, reminiscing, flirting...lol. It's cool. He's an Aries and I know how they are at first. They like to chase and they also like to test, so I've been just playing it cool. I give just enough so he knows that I'm interested but not too much that he feels like he's the prize.

He has been studying for a big certification at his job, and we haven't gone out yet. It's still very early, so I'm just enjoying this stage. We've only been kicking it for a little less than a week so I'll give him another week to ask me out. After that I'm ghosting on him.

 

[UniquelyDivine]

I feel the same way @Browndilocks ive had people tell me my home look is sexy and I’m like nah... specifically, men. I wear leggings (not outside though), loose pants, an old T-shirt, nothing fancy. Hair be pineappled with my edges tied up. Sometimes I have on a big sweater. I don’t get it and I don’t bother to try.

Girl yes they love it! My lil young buck used to looove when I let my natural hair just be any kinda way

I think it’s just that natural beauty they like, they know when you do dress up it’ll be next level.

 

[Saludable84]

So, I have/had a friend (long story short, I stopped talking to him because when I had braces, of course, I already felt self conscious which is why I got my teeth fixed but he made a comment to his daughter about why I had braces and I was like wow, thanks for telling me how you really feel even though you were first in line when I left my relationship) who came back to visit my job (he’s at a different work location).

Work bae asked if I saw him and I said no, I wasn’t in the office. We began talking about why I really don’t want to see him now (he will shoot his shot and that hoop is broken and never being repaired because the park is getting demolished and they are opening office spaces). He then makes a comment about how my ex-friend will replace him. I told him I can’t replace something I never had and he don’t want me anyway, then began talking about my ex-friend and how I’m so glad I was out of office. He’s been being even nicer (talking about the future and stuff) and I’ve been just smiling like Mariah in her infamous gif.