SlimPickinz
Summer where are you?
I hope not.I'm sure someone is going to read your post and wonder what the big deal was
I hope not.I'm sure someone is going to read your post and wonder what the big deal was
Then he added the cancel as an option to force you in a corner. Nah bih...
Curious about how you did this if you care to share?Why does a person feel that they need to know if you’re “dating” or if their even being “considered” if you’ve expressed many times to that person their actions don’t meet up with their words “I want you”? It’s funny: when you don’t press an issue, the issue begins to get pressed.
I read that if you are thinking about a person and distract yourself to lessen thinking about them for 10 days, it will help you to push them out of your mind. Tomorrow is day 10 and I hate to say it worked for me.
She recommended finding other things to think about or do. At first I didn’t like it because it’s like, keep busy, which for me, makes me anxious. Then I went back to increasing focus on me.Curious about how you did this if you care to share?
Thanks! You're definitely right. Right now my mood is definitely "resigned" so I'm not attracting ANYBODY whether prince or peasantI don’t really have words because I know the feeling, but I want you to stay positive. A negative mood/spirit/energy will attract douches and peasants. You deserve better than that.
Men seem to take this as a "challenge" rather than the rejection that it is. I'm like why do you like abusing yourself this wayWhy does a person feel that they need to know if you’re “dating” or if their even being “considered” if you’ve expressed many times to that person their actions don’t meet up with their words “I want you”? It’s funny: when you don’t press an issue, the issue begins to get pressed.
I read that if you are thinking about a person and distract yourself to lessen thinking about them for 10 days, it will help you to push them out of your mind. Tomorrow is day 10 and I hate to say it worked for me.
My BF told me he did this when he left the country a little while back. He said the matches he got when he landed across the pond were ridiculous and much better. Like 10x more than here. Hes into men though but I get what he was saying. Try it.Thanks! You're definitely right. Right now my mood is definitely "resigned" so I'm not attracting ANYBODY whether prince or peasant
I probably need to come to terms with a few things before I can spring into dating again. The biggest thing is the serious lack of options in my city/state (Oklahoma ). I probably could be more pro-active on dating apps when I go out of town, that's the only thing I can really do
I had a date last night and I forgot! Can you believe that? My train after work was so screwed up that the date completely slipped my mind. When I got off the train I happened to see my sister and I ended up walking with her to the grocery store. Something similar almost happened to me earlier in the week on my way to court. I was on a train heading back to Brooklyn and for a minute I forgot I was going to the court and almost missed my stop thinking I was on my way home. I had to hop off the train at the last minute. Smh!!! I guess I've been distracted lately.
Anyway, he sent a text at like 9 saying so I guess you aren't coming. I felt so bad and called him to apologize. He didn't answer so I texted him the apology and he wrote back no prob. I feel bad but I'm not rescheduling because we haven't been in contact since he asked me out (which is quite honestly how the date slipped my mind). Not saying me standing him up is his fault but I really forgot he existed for a minute. I do feel bad though.
And this is not good. They begin to not think clearly.I'm currently reading "The Untelling" by Tayari Jones and came across a part that made me think of this thread:
"Colette wasn't married, and as far as I knew, she wasn't even dating anyone, had never dated anyone. But she didn't wear her solitariness the way a lot of single women did. For her it seemed like a choice. For everyone else it seemed like a sentence."
I am not in the mood to head to Tyson's tonight, but keep us updated about future ones! I gotta get my mind right to get in that traffic lol.Anyone in the DC area? There is a Black networking event tonight at a Brazilian steakhouse in Tyson’s corner. One of the ladies said a lot of men came out last time. I am headed down there with one of my friends-
Anyone in the DC area? There is a Black networking event tonight at a Brazilian steakhouse in Tyson’s corner. One of the ladies said a lot of men came out last time. I am headed down there with one of my friends-
It was alright- men were there but I didn’t meet anyone (had an emergency and had to leave an hour and a half after I got there).How was the event?
I always say with online profiles, don't bother with all that. IMO online profiles shouldn't be about what you won't do, what you don't like and what you won't tolerate. Keep it positive, say what you do like, what you're looking for and forget all the rest, right? I know there are some duds online but I always swipe left on men who have disclaimers because even if their profile is in sync with mine and what I want, the negative vibe is difficult to ignore. (*Not calling you negative at all! - just sharing my experience)My OLD profile comes with a disclaimer now:
*you will get my google voice number. Period.
*i don’t work with a brother. You need to come finished and done.
I know, but I’m traumatized I was being positive but then he started that. I’ll edit the last part out, but not the number part lolI always say with online profiles, don't bother with all that. IMO online profiles shouldn't be about what you won't do, what you don't like and what you won't tolerate. Keep it positive, say what you do like, what you're looking for and forget all the rest, right? I know there are some duds online but I always swipe left on men who have disclaimers because even if their profile is in sync with mine and what I want, the negative vibe is difficult to ignore. (*Not calling you negative at all! - just sharing my experience)
I'll be 32 in less than two months and I'm still single. Meanwhile, it seems like everyone else around me is getting into relationships or married. I went from having a group of friends where maybe all but one person was single to now being the only single one in the group.
I won't even lie...I'm starting to feel some kind of way. I've had a few dates here and there, but no sparks...and it's much harder to date where I live, it seems. I just don't know. I'm tired of dating apps and stuff. Nothing of quality on them. Part of me wants to enjoy being single while I can, but another part of me is afraid that I'll always be single...and it bothers me. I just feel more lonely now than I ever have before with all that's going on around me.