lavaflow99
In search of the next vacation
I recognize that avatar but the username is different?! Yep yep it's me!
Changed my username a few months ago for security reasons.
Well I'm excited to hear what you got to say
I recognize that avatar but the username is different?! Yep yep it's me!
Oh lordt.Changed my username a few months ago for security reasons.
Well I'm excited to hear what you got to say
Oh lordt.
I figure I haven't been here since 2014/2015ish. A looooooooooooooot of **** has happened since then haha.
YASSSSSSSSSSSSS! Enable me, sis, enable me! Let me get to writing up a recap here....We have time sis.
It’s been 3 years?! Jeez! You’ve been missed.Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy sis. Bring it in, bring it in!
YASSSSSSSSSSSSS! Enable me, sis, enable me! Let me get to writing up a recap here....
Hey y'all hey! Most of the peeps I chatted with used to post around here. Where is everybody?! Things seemed to have slowed down around here.
It’s been 3 years?! Jeez! You’ve been missed.
But I have time tonight to indulge all the foolishness. My man got me good & drunk and I just put him to bed. I’m up and here for the BS :lol
I got my $6 worth in that one single post lol
You really told ole girl that he thought she was unattractive wow lol
Help me remember your old font (please)!! I’m looking and lostI'm a lot of things but apologetic really ain't one of em. lol
Listen. All I got is I’m here for this.By the way, the direct quote was "She just has like a bone structure that will never allow her to be attractive" and she called me evil for showing it to her. Bwahaha. #iaintsorry
Mischback, have you considered therapy? A lot of your choices seem self destructive.
And please don't move in with and across the country with a man you barely know (even though he's been paying most of your expenses) and who has been seeing another woman (or women, for that matter, since you don't really know him that well). This sounds like it could veer off into a case on Forensic Files or Snapped rather quickly.
You're right. Really, it's not that I don't believe therapy will help - I'm sure it will - the truth is I honestly just don't want to do it. I don't want a therapist to know me or me have to let someone know me. But I think there are ways for me to get around that feeling if I approach it as something that I just have to do in order to reach my goal(s).@MischBack
I think you should consider therapy too. I used to be a skeptic and had a long list of reasons it wasn't for me. But years ago when I hit rock bottom, I had no choice. It was literally therapy or else I may have taken my own life.
Obviously, I'm not saying this is your situation. Just trying to encourage you and let you know I understand some of what you may be feeling.
When you are "in" something you don't get a full and objective perspective so I wouldn't recommend trying to sort it out yourself. And if you could sort it out yourself, dont you think you would have? Especially since you recognize the need for change?
Therapist are well trained in how to manage relationships with patients. Don't worry too much about fostering an intimate relationship with them. The right one will guide you and help with the transition appropriately.
Thank you. Alright I'm going to go find another thread and stop clogging up the romance thoughts with my issues@MischBack
I second the rec for therapy. It would be very helpful in identifying how to resolve or cope with what you feel is an issue. It will help you think.
Try: https://www.talkspace.com if you don't want to see someone in person. There a bunch of discounts floating around online.
Therapist directory
https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/therapist-directory/
https://culturaltherapy.health/providers-directory/
Thank you so much for rec's...@MischBack
I second the rec for therapy. It would be very helpful in identifying how to resolve or cope with what you feel is an issue. It will help you think.
Try: https://www.talkspace.com if you don't want to see someone in person. There a bunch of discounts floating around online.
Therapist directory
https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/therapist-directory/
https://culturaltherapy.health/providers-directory/
Thank you. Alright I'm going to go find another thread and stop clogging up the romance thoughts with my issues
Well, technically, you are single....
So #1 and I are going away for the weekend in a couple of weeks. First mini trip together. Does this mean we're a thing?
Thank you. Alright I'm going to go find another thread and stop clogging up the romance thoughts with my issues