Why is he saying “if it’s really over” as if y’all were an item? Who raised these dudes?
People here seem to have very good luck with OKC including me. I paid for Match and it was a bust for me. There are a few others that people have mentioned like Bumble and Coffee meets Bagel but I've never tried them because I don't have any social media and as I understand it you have to have facebook for these. Hopefully the other ladies will chime in.
I met SO on OK Cupid. A number of ladies here met their SOs/DHs on OK Cupid. I liked it mostly for the compatibility algorithm. I liked the in-depth profiles. I could tell which peasants had actually read my profile. I paid the money to be able to see who "likes" me before I come across their profile or how ever it works. Best money I ever spent.
I briefly tried Bumble but created and deleted my profile in an hour. I was turned off that much. I thought about Coffee Meets Bagel but I'm phasing out most of my social media and only really using it for networking/business.
Be clear with yourself about what you want and what you're looking for.
I don’t know if it was a date date or a business date. So I just kept it professional.
I met SO on OK Cupid. A number of ladies here met their SOs/DHs on OK Cupid. I liked it mostly for the compatibility algorithm. I liked the in-depth profiles. I could tell which peasants had actually read my profile. I paid the money to be able to see who "likes" me before I come across their profile or how ever it works. Best money I ever spent.
Getting a lot of "likes" but less quality messages sent, if messages are sent at all is par for the course with online dating. Both parties need to have realistic expectations. You have to be patient. You may not get promising results right away. Location is also key.
I'll add more if I think of anything else.
You don't go hugging new contacts (a few times at that) over dinner. Most men get caught up talking about what they know when they are out with women which a lot of times centers on work. When you know you're on a date though you are able to shift the conversation to something else. Since you were playing it safe, the conversation stayed on something he knew/could easily talk about. Let's see what his next move is.
I studied MDLWLY (there’s a thread on it here) religiously and Lambert has a whole chapter about the right time to have sex with a peasant or Favourite.How do yall go so long without sleeping with a new boo? A few dates in and I'm ready to pounce
@ScorpioBeauty09
That was the standard I used, though I put my spin on it. SO met that standard weeks before we had sex but we both had a lot going on at the time (including me getting stuck in Hawaii because of Hurricane Lane) and we didn't want to do it just to get it over with. But I digress...
In fact I had a rotation briefly when SO and I had our first date and one of the peasants was so charismatic I thought about sleeping with him by the second date but then I realized that was all there was between us and dropped him. SO told me up front he wanted to wait because in his previous relationships he jumped right into sex and it messed things up down the road. But SO said all the time it was hard to keep his hands off me lol. He’s an LMFT as is my mother so that kind of self awareness is key for him to do his job. He didn't know it at the time but I was very late to losing my V-card and sex is something I'm pretty guarded about. SO is also outside the men I normally dated so unlike him, it took a while for the physical chemistry to develop on my end. Had he pushed for sex early, I would've gone in the opposite direction.
OK Cupid tries to get women to send more messages, claiming that those who do are 17% more likely to get a date.
I didn't find that to be entirely true but the reality is online dating is a numbers game just like regular dating, so it is very likely you won't get a response if you send out a message whether you're a man or a woman, it's just how that goes. Statistically, a very low percentage of men and women receive the most messages.
OK Cupid tries to get women to send more messages, claiming that those who do are 17% more likely to get a date.
While I did experience some exceptions, I found that the rule "if a man is truly interested he'll let you know" rung true. My suggestion, don't shy away from sending a message if you see an interesting profile but don't think about it too much. Very paradoxical, I know.
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That was me on Bumble. I would be sitting on conference calls swiping.
. But I find I become so stressed when I become involved with men, and I'm at my happiest when I'm just doing my own thing, so I've just accepted that maybe I have a solitary personality and there's nothing wrong with it. Let me know what questions you have, I'm glad to chat. 
Y'all why did this 51 year on man on POF send me this message? I never blocked anyone so fast.
"Can you make me some peach cobbler?"
What in the world? Why? After my initial confusion and re-reading it, I found the block setting. I have no idea why someone would send that random (and dumb) comment to me. If it was a joke, nope. I think his mouth was open in his pic too
No I'm not cooking for you.
@qchelle You'll get a kick out of this one lol
I might laugh at it one day but right now I'm sick of some of the men on these apps :/
put some clothes on & have some self respect!
