SlimPickinz
Summer where are you?
That **** did not work for me! Tried it on the tail end and half way thru all I hear is “Mama we gotta take this to the shower”Don't let aunt flow ruin your fun, https://flexfits.com/
Thank me later!
That **** did not work for me! Tried it on the tail end and half way thru all I hear is “Mama we gotta take this to the shower”Don't let aunt flow ruin your fun, https://flexfits.com/
Thank me later!
That **** did not work for me! Tried it on the tail end and half way thru all I hear is “Mama we gotta take this to the shower”
For those who are still using dating apps.Which one is you giving more response and hope?
I've signed up to match.com, it's quite decent on there, the men are noticeably more serious.
Ugh I was talking to a guy on POF and he wrote the, "who are you talking to" message a couple of times, then he did it again this morning. I responded with, "Good morning, I was just looking at some messages, is that okay," this is his response:-
"No it's not okay"
"As I would prefer if you don't chat to other men on here from now on"
"Send me your number so you can come off this site."
I have no words! You're not my man but you think you think you've got some kind of claim on me?
I can't...
Men who don't want you talking to other men are the worst. And most times they are talking to half the damn globe but expect you to only be entertaining them. Please. Girl, do you! He will be alright.
This is just a man not wanting to actually step up and be a man and realize he has to bring his A game and compete with other men for you, your time and your affections.
I remember one time several years ago there was a guy on FB that had inboxed me since we were in a group together. He said he liked my pics that I had posted and asked me to send him some. I told him he could see the pics on my profile and this dude gonna say, "nah, I want special pics."
I said, "sorry, special pics are for special people and you aren't special. I barely know you." That was the last time we spoke. Must have been something I said.
Everyone wants exclusivity but don't want to work for it. outta here with that.
This might be over before it begins y'all. Me and #1 got into a huge fight last night and neither of us know what about. I left his place, called a friend of mine who lives close by (who just broke up with his gf) and we went to a dive bar and drank until we couldn't see straight. Supposed to talk to #1 this morning and I'm afraid of what I might say.
We plan to have a telephone conversation in a few minutes and I am trying to calm myself so I don't say things I don't mean or will later regret.WHAT?! oh no!
I've signed up to match.com, it's quite decent on there, the men are noticeably more serious.
Ugh I was talking to a guy on POF and he wrote the, "who are you talking to" message a couple of times, then he did it again this morning. I responded with, "Good morning, I was just looking at some messages, is that okay," this is his response:-
"No it's not okay"
"As I would prefer if you don't chat to other men on here from now on"
"Send me your number so you can come off this site."
I have no words! You're not my man but you think you think you've got some kind of claim on me?
I can't...
What is it with men and wanting more pics. I have plenty of pics on my profile, but some need more. I just keep it moving when I start hearing all that.
Welp the conversation with #1 didn't go well He is focused on the wrong thing imo. The first thing he wanted to ask was "so when you left me last night you didn't go straight home?" and when I said no "You stayed in the neighborhood. So you have a friend who lives in my neighborhood?" I have no clue why that bothered him but then he was upset about that so then we basically continued the argument from last night. I'm sorry y'all but I was like "I don't think I can do this" and he asked what does that mean. I told him I feel a lot of pressure right now and he said he felt the same. We didn't talk long and he was like he really wanted to see me soon so we could talk more. When I got off the phone I just sat there for a minute confused. So I sat really still and just tried to tune into myself and ask myself what I needed, what I thought would make me feel better right now. After doing that I told him that I think we should take a step back for the time being. This is still very new and how we managed our first real conflict was always going to be an indicator for me of the potential of the relationship. And the signs are pointing to lots of long frustrating conversations with no resolution. I don't want that so I think I want to bow out. Maybe my friend last night was right and I have commitment issues.
Just received a wrong number text with a photo from a handsome brotha. He was saying hi to a girl that isn’t me. I texted back letting him know he has the wrong number but great photo. He apologized and said he’s just following directions but apparently the wrong ones. Not sure what that means. For some reason he assumes I’m a dude lol. Trying to decide if I’m bored enough to engage this any further.
This thread is better than TV
Well...He responded with a good morning text and thanked me for complimenting his photo yesterday. So I replied then he asked how my day is going and if I have any kids heading back to school tomorrow. I replied that I don’t then asked about him. He said he has 2 kids heading back and he’s excited. And this is where I hop off the fairy tale train express.
Eta: Now he’s asking for a photo of myself. Sorry homie but I’ve already checked out.
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Stuff like that just makes me feel something about being a little asexual.
So I saw #1 and he wanted to pretend like nothing happened asking if I wanted to go see a movie. I was like so what about our talk? So we talked a little and I reiterated my stance. That we should take a step back and chill for a bit. He said he was confused because he assumed when I said that it meant just a bit of breathing space...for the day! Again . And then he tried to get out of having the conversation by saying his anxiety was getting bad. When he did that I calmly said I feel like he's done a switcheroo on me because where he was once communicative he is suddenly avoidant and full of excuses and I don't like it. I told him I honestly don't understand it but I'm not really interested in wasting a lot of brain power figuring it out. That's for him to do not me.
This was yesterday. I left him feeling a little down but not terribly so. And I was proud of myself that I stood my ground instead of trying to salvage what little connection we managed to build these past few months. I'm not writing him off completely but I'm realizing it's ok to not pull the plug completely but go back a few steps when my spidey senses start tingling.
We sent a couple of short texts back and forth today. He borrowed a book of mine and he wanted to tell me he started reading it. I told him I watched a few more episodes of a show he got me hooked on. He was a little sad about that and even more sad when I told him he could send me a text when he was finished with the book and I would swing by and pick it up. He said it's like I plan on never seeing him again. It's not like that but I gotta do what's right for me. And he's making me want to back up a little. So either he fixes what needs to be fixed so we can carry on or we can just move on from this with no hard feelings. It's important that we both get our needs met and I'm not going to be tricked out of mine by being told it's too early in the relationship or my anxiety is getting worse or some other blah blah blah BS because he doesn't want to deal.
My thing is, sex makes things complicated sometimes. If you can date someone, and genuinely like their company without being intimate, it’ll make it easier to separate who is actually into you for you, and who just wants to crack you.I feel you on that. I've thought about dating asexual people and being celibate for a while now.
My thing is, sex makes things complicated sometimes. If you can date someone, and genuinely like their company without being intimate, it’ll make it easier to separate who is actually into you for you, and who just wants to crack you.
I don’t know if this makes any sense, but yeah lol
Idk his birthday is in April. Signs aren't really my thing - I only know my sign.Whoa. There's a lot of red flags here. You didn't answer my previous question about whether this guy is a Pisces or not but he is sounding more and more like one with this post.
I'm glad you were able to be firm with him, but I also think you're sending him mixed signals.
If you have a rotation, why are you keeping him around if there's this many issues that are giving you pause? He might not fix the problems and you're going to end up resenting him.
What was the argument about- if you don’t mind sharing? Maybe I missed it- I apologize.So I saw #1 and he wanted to pretend like nothing happened asking if I wanted to go see a movie. I was like so what about our talk? So we talked a little and I reiterated my stance. That we should take a step back and chill for a bit. He said he was confused because he assumed when I said that it meant just a bit of breathing space...for the day! Again . And then he tried to get out of having the conversation by saying his anxiety was getting bad. When he did that I calmly said I feel like he's done a switcheroo on me because where he was once communicative he is suddenly avoidant and full of excuses and I don't like it. I told him I honestly don't understand it but I'm not really interested in wasting a lot of brain power figuring it out. That's for him to do not me.
This was yesterday. I left him feeling a little down but not terribly so. And I was proud of myself that I stood my ground instead of trying to salvage what little connection we managed to build these past few months. I'm not writing him off completely but I'm realizing it's ok to not pull the plug completely but go back a few steps when my spidey senses start tingling.
We sent a couple of short texts back and forth today. He borrowed a book of mine and he wanted to tell me he started reading it. I told him I watched a few more episodes of a show he got me hooked on. He was a little sad about that and even more sad when I told him he could send me a text when he was finished with the book and I would swing by and pick it up. He said it's like I plan on never seeing him again. It's not like that but I gotta do what's right for me. And he's making me want to back up a little. So either he fixes what needs to be fixed so we can carry on or we can just move on from this with no hard feelings. It's important that we both get our needs met and I'm not going to be tricked out of mine by being told it's too early in the relationship or my anxiety is getting worse or some other blah blah blah BS because he doesn't want to deal.