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Devil's Avocado
The idea of dating sounds really good in my head. Then someone asks me out and I cut off all contact immediately. I should probably call my therapist
Im good in past would entertain, on to the next!Well answer the man!
It's hella work LOLThe idea of dating sounds really good in my head. Then someone asks me out and I cut off all contact immediately. I should probably call my therapist
Sooo... this weekend was a bust I may need to just come to terms with the idea that my dating life this year is gonna be non-existent I've travelled pretty moderately this year, tired of striking out each time.
Lol...dont date. You're not ready. This is why i stopped. The idea sounds nice....and then when it gets close to actually having to do the work I dont want to. I dont wanna txt everyday. I dont feel like talking about me and my past and what i like to do and blah blah blah. I stopped online dating because of this. It doesnt make sense for me to waste my time and others. Im ok with going out with my friends... looking cute, being seen by guys, and flirt. Maybe quick chit chats. But thats all im willing to do right now. I think that quenches the thirst of wanting to be out there but not having to do anything lolThe idea of dating sounds really good in my head. Then someone asks me out and I cut off all contact immediately. I should probably call my therapist
I can’t! Lol he ain’t Brandy!
You’re right! I always have a good time and find fun stuff to do.Aww... don't be discouraged. It will happen when the time is right. Meanwhile, travel to have fun and explore.
It's hella work LOL
Lol...dont date. You're not ready. This is why i stopped. The idea sounds nice....and then when it gets close to actually having to do the work I dont want to. I dont wanna txt everyday. I dont feel like talking about me and my past and what i like to do and blah blah blah. I stopped online dating because of this. It doesnt make sense for me to waste my time and others. Im ok with going out with my friends... looking cute, being seen by guys, and flirt. Maybe quick chit chats. But thats all im willing to do right now. I think that quenches the thirst of wanting to be out there but not having to do anything lol
If he's in the restaurant business it's not an unusual question. We have weird schedules.So I had 2 other potentials in line. I'm pretty sure one is a line cook at a restaurant talking about he's in luxury hospitality. Is that a thing? Y'all tell me. He texted me today talking about when are you usually free? Maybe I'm stupid because I didn't understand the question and said so. I was like "usually?" He wrote back he's asking what days I work? Umm I work Monday-Friday. I know some people work on weekends but idk...is it me? Was that weird or nah?
The 2nd one? Smh He started out so funny. He told me he would call. He didn't call. He texted me at 9pm yesterday talking bout some hey it's me. I wrote back me who? Lol His response was ok ttyl then. Man get off my phone. Deleted and blocked.
Date on Thursday with #1 because I'm free but I also wanted to see him on Saturday because I know I'll be more energetic. We'll see what happens.
I get that because very early on he apologized for a late message saying he keeps late hours. The next day I asked what he did and he hit me with the "I'm in luxury hospitality". I didn't quite understand but I did assume that + late hours also probably meant he worked weekends. Thing is I'm not in luxury hospitality and he knows this (hence his apologies - knowing that I have a regular 9-5). He knows what I do. I think I could understand him asking me that if I said I was also in the restaurant biz or another field with equally unusual hours. But whatever. I guess it doesn't matter now because I talked to him tonight and he seemed corny so NEXT!If he's in the restaurant business it's not an unusual question. We have weird schedules.
Ohhhh, I thought he didn't know what you did.I get that because very early on he apologized for a late message saying he keeps late hours. The next day I asked what he did and he hit me with the "I'm in luxury hospitality". I didn't quite understand but I did assume that + late hours also probably meant he worked weekends. Thing is I'm not in luxury hospitality and he knows this (hence his apologies - knowing that I have a regular 9-5). He knows what I do. I think I could understand him asking me that if I said I was also in the restaurant biz or another field with equally unusual hours. But whatever. I guess it doesn't matter now because I talked to him tonight and he seemed corny so NEXT!
I've been thinking of creating an account. Is it a better online experience than PoF, Match, etc.?I'm thinking about getting back on bumble.
Yes, since you make first contact it gives you a bit more control.I've been thinking of creating an account. Is it a better online experience than PoF, Match, etc.?
The idea of dating sounds really good in my head. Then someone asks me out and I cut off all contact immediately. I should probably call my therapist
Been there sis. I unblocked him while he was in my face then added him right back after he paid for my drinks. No one has time for trash. He DM'd my homegirl on IG like yo tell Slim to chill out and just unblock me I want to talk. ByeeeeeWell, I played myself saying this because of course, I ran into one of the blocked guys last night. He came up to me and was like why don't you ever respond to my messages? I told him I'd unblock but I'm definitely not going to.
If I respond to a message from the guy that means I'm halfway interested. If he doesn't ask for my number within the first few messages then I unmatch. See ya!So soon a you start messaging someone on a dating site, is it expected to just give up number? once past the formalities of names and location do you give number... I am not interested in text buddies. At least tell me what looking to get out of things a lil back and forth.. iunno, just feel like doing this all wrong...
This guy just sent me his damn work schedule and he works from 5pm - midnight every single day and then gonna talk about I'm open to doing something before work. Now, I dated someone in the restaurant business before and seeing each other was hell. I was always out late on weeknights and tired at work. With that guy, we finally agreed to settle on seeing each other on his 1 regular day off which was a weekend day but in the end that wasn't sustainable and I needed more time during regular hours than he was able to give. The problem with this new guy here though is I already told him that I work a regular 9-5 (9:30 - 6 actually but ya know) so how is he still coming in trying to weasel his way in without actual concrete suggestions. Telling me you are open to doing something before 5 on a weekday when I am at work tells me you are not listening to me and only thinking about yourself. Had he said that and maybe suggested a quick bite during lunch that would have been something but this "I'm open to doing something before work" Bruh! How exactly? Moving onI get that because very early on he apologized for a late message saying he keeps late hours. The next day I asked what he did and he hit me with the "I'm in luxury hospitality". I didn't quite understand but I did assume that + late hours also probably meant he worked weekends. Thing is I'm not in luxury hospitality and he knows this (hence his apologies - knowing that I have a regular 9-5). He knows what I do. I think I could understand him asking me that if I said I was also in the restaurant biz or another field with equally unusual hours. But whatever. I guess it doesn't matter now because I talked to him tonight and he seemed corny so NEXT!
Why did dude block me after I told him I would like to know more about him...If I respond to a message from the guy that means I'm halfway interested. If he doesn't ask for my number within the first few messages then I unmatch. See ya!
He did you a favor clown assWhy did dude block me after I told him I would like to know more about him...
Because he's a loser. Better he did that than waste any more of your time.Why did dude block me after I told him I would like to know more about him...
Being single rocks! LolI'm sure this is nothing new but I'm noticing more and more that after a breakup or even a string of bad dates, my female friends go and do a bunch of emotional work on themselves. Guys...just drink more. Thus, the maturity gap keeps growing and the cycle repeats itself. Should women not retreat into themselves after a bad experience? Should men do it more?
Also, I went to a dinner party that was nearly equal couples and single folks. Things got shady very quickly. The coupled women were so smug about it and the single women were hardcore trolling them! The married folks have been married for less than 5 years but they were acting as though they've figured life out entirely. One wife commented that she "just couldn't imagine dating today, I'd kill myself" and a single girl mentioned how miserable all the husbands looked and then a husband agreed with her! Another wife said she's so happy to have someone to travel with and so a single girl asked her when the last time she went on a vacation and the wife said 8 years ago Later, as people drank more, the husbands were trying to go out to bars with the single folks and the wives were getting pissed. It was so strange.
I'm sure this is nothing new but I'm noticing more and more that after a breakup or even a string of bad dates, my female friends go and do a bunch of emotional work on themselves. Guys...just drink more. Thus, the maturity gap keeps growing and the cycle repeats itself. Should women not retreat into themselves after a bad experience? Should men do it more?