So I just completed my first tax season under my business- very successfully for the short 3 months. I had 70 clients directly and I completed the contract with the financial group. They since changed the “terms” of the contract and want me to bring my clients under their umbrella (control) so I won’t be renewing this contract. But that is for a business thread vent.
Any way- local DC friend took me out to celebrate. She asked what I wanted and I told her lamb chops so she took me to this nice restaurant and we talked. And she mentioned again that she is ready to have a baby but doesn’t even want a man. And we had a deep discussion about that. And my bestie just popped up pregnant and while I was shocked and a lil disappointed at first (she was waiting for marriage), I get it.
The men now a days want you to court them. They want you to pay half, they don’t want to be providers, they subconsciously want a slave.
They want a woman to work a full time job to pay at least half the bills THEN come home to your second job. Tending to the house, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids. If you have a newborn, you are going to get up by yourself, if you have older kids, you have to deal with homework, bathing and feeding them. Then you have to be ready to have sex every night. Be his porn star so he doesn’t cheat on you. And if you complain, he says you are nagging and finds the next woman to cheat on you with any way.
My friends are in their mid 30s and while they haven’t made perfect dating decisions, they have patiently waited for men our age to grow up and get to the marrying point so they can have the family. They are tired of waiting and chances are they aren’t going to get a good PARTNER if they continue to wait. So I gave her my blessing (she seemed like she wanted the approval) and told her I would plan her baby shower. She makes great money (over $150K) and chances of her finding her equal are slim. These men are upset that women require a man making more than minimum wage. My friends and I make great money and we put in the work to get to this point. What are these men doing?
I am planning besties gender reveal and I get it. While I want the marriage and etc for my friends, I believe that for some it isn’t going to happen just due to what is “left” out here. This isn’t going to stop their lives. And although I didn’t want them to be single mothers- if they get hooked up with a man who isn’t a partner or a provider, they will end up single mothers that are pseudo slaves any way.