What makes you think things aren't going to work out? 
He just doesn’t make sense. He make plans with me and leaves out the most important details to the last minute.
I had the same feeling with the last guy I posted about. I was upset for a bit, but like you, I noticed some progress in my reaction. Growth is always good!
This is EXACTLY how the last guy I was talking to acted, which is why I just let it go. I felt like nothing was tangible. He'd make some gesture that made it seem like he was into me, and then he'd go silent for a bit. Confusing. I have no time for that. Being single for a long time brings enough uncertainty. There is no way I'm letting a man enter my life with even more uncertainty.
Ugh. He just messaged me. I’m going to ignore it.
I felt the same way about my home state, aside from my family & friends everything sucked. Moving was the best thing I ever did for myself, and if for some reason you leave and it doesn’t work out then Boston will still be there. 
I love your first date story!This is a post about our first date last June. He's the guy!!
Especially the end where he mentions marriage and knowing in 6 months if you want to marry someone. So often we're told not to bring up marriage too early and scare a man off but if a man is truly marriage minded it will come up. 
No need to waste each other's time.
My instinct is that he's emotionally unavailable but even if that's not the case this has clarified what I need in relationships. I noticed our dates got more focused on stimulation and less on conversation. I didn't have a problem at first because I enjoyed what we were doing and I like doing fun activities but we weren't having deep conversations after a point. In fact when I'd try to, he'd change the subject. But I need deep conversations to feel close to someone. Without them, the attraction fades on my end. I was beginning to get frustrated and annoyed, which was a sign it wasn't going to work.
. I just wanted to be nosey and nothing else was popping around these parts. Well this guy I dated back in Texas posted a picture of himself and a young lady at a Mexican beach on vacation. He met her during a trip to Colombia this year. Around that time we were no longer dating and just kept in touch on occasion since we had the same circle of friends.
. Then he had the nerve to include me in this group chat thinking I'd pay to run down there and see him boo'ed up with some Colombian chick who got her whole vacation fully funded by some black American dude who met her on a week long vacation . In any case, she got her trip, and I'm not mad at her because clearly she knows how to play the game. When we were dating, I was sweet, accommodating, and always available-- a dang dummy for this fool. I was the "cool girl" who felt the need to prove how worthy I was. I threw down in bed. And yet where did that get me? I sat on the couch all weekend while Miss Colombia had her toes in the sand on a free trip 
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I know what you mean.
I needed this post.So I'm low key annoyed. I'm not upset or anything, just... annoyed. And it is all my fault. Another lesson learned the hard way.
So this weekend I did a little FB snooping
So here's why I'm annoyed. I know that he 100% funded this vacation. As he should. Earlier this year he sent out a group chat to a bunch of us about planning a Mexican getaway, and he mentioned that he'd be flying a lady in from Colombia. Of course I ignored it because I had already relocated and I didn't hang with that crew anymore. But I felt a little salty because when we were dating/fooling around he kept talking about us going to this same city/beach but he never offered to buy my plane ticket-- so it never materialized
I kinda understand why Amy from Gone Girl snapped
This is yet another lesson I'm grateful for. Sometimes you have to see it all play out to realize that nice girls finish last. Don't be a dummy like Surferbabe used to be, make these clowns WORK like Miss Colombia did.
You're not seriously considering staying because of your cousin, right? You were telling us that story just to tell it, right?
Do it! Do it! Do it!
Saame here!
I was just telling the story but honestly, it will be very hard to leave my family. And I’m scared that I’ll feel even lonelier that I do now.
Maybe I'm being a little hard on your cousin but that was pretty selfish of him to say. I assume he didn't realize how this would come off. But instead of a "I'll miss you and hate to see you go but do what you gotta do" he says he'll be devastated as though that should somehow factor into your decision. You already have reservations about it being away from family and statements like these only make it that much harder. The decision is hard enough without this added layer of guilt feeling like you're abandoning people when they have their own lives anyway. Again, maybe I'm being too hard on him but I've had family members make statements like this only thinking about themselves and how much me being gone will affect them instead of how much me staying will affect me.
I was just telling the story but honestly, it will be very hard to leave my family. And I’m scared that I’ll feel even lonelier that I do now.
I was just telling the story but honestly, it will be very hard to leave my family. And I’m scared that I’ll feel even lonelier that I do now.
