Evolving78
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Working on my class later today. Hopefully I get my task done before 9am tomorrow. I like not having to figure out the why with folks and continuing to work on setting boundaries.
Gosh, it’s hard to lean back sometimes!!
See the following threads. In them these dating/relationship gurus encourage women to lean back when a guy leans back. When a lady likes a guy who has been showing interest, and he starts to pull away or fall back, women tend to lean in, trying to recapture his attention and interest. They suggest that you lean back too, mirroring his behavior and level of interest. It’s the only way to see if he’s really interested. Also if/when he leans back, and you lean in, it sets a pattern of the woman pursuing. Someone correct me please if I’m explaining this incorrectly.
https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/katarina-phangs-dating-philosophy.820571/
https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/the-rori-raye-way.819909/
This is weird to me. Why would you want to talk to/be around someone whose interest seems to be waning? Like ok bye. ??
Even when in a relationship...i still don't want to be bothered when he acting dumb. Byeeeeee
(Again, this may not be healthy. Idk what I'm doing, just giving my opinion lol)
It's so fun tho! Especially if he's a simple man. I get results with my SO almost immediately he's so dumb The easiest way is through texts (well for us, cuz that's our main form of communication). I ask a lot of questions, to everyone. My girl friends say its annoying, so I know I really annoy SO with this. I know this, been knew it. So sometimes he does the typical 'won't respond to everything I texted/pick and choose'. Classic 'I'm annoyed' ish lol. So ill basically stop texting him anything at all, unless I'm responding to him (and I don't respond at all when I feel the convo has ended). I won't ask him anything nor will I initiate any conversations. And sometimes i take hours to respond. But I'm always very nice when I do respond.
After like 2 days of this, he'll start texting me things he usually doesn't like telling me about his day (I never ever ask him about his day, randomly. Cuz idc, so I'm like why you tellin me this lol), pics of the food he's cooking (abnormal af), funny memes (abnormal), using lots of filler words and speech (whet?), using exclaim and question marks (when he asks questions via text, he usually doesn't use question marks), randomly paypaling me small sums of cash and stuff. If we see each other while I'm doing this, he'll bring me stuff he usually wouldn't, he'll look for events that he knows I like to go to (and sometimes I say thanks I'm gonna go by myself you're not invited lol).
And I really don't think he knows what's going on, cuz I feel like if he did, he would just accept the break I'm giving him without acting like an obsessive girlfriend
This actually may be more passive aggressive/manipulative than 'leaning back', Idk, I haven't read that much on it (I'm bored rn, so ill go do that). But whatever, it gets good results lol.
Dumb and simple are great qualities in a man, imo. So I'm not saying bad things about my SO, au contraire. he's great
I wonder what would happen if he realized what you were doing? Would it still work?
But I think it’s great that you naturally lean back. You are lucky.
This go round of online dating, specifically OkCupid is weird..and funny. I can't take this stuff seriously at all
- Guys who send messages with the winky face emoji all. the.time. Even for the most pedestrian of messages. Wut. Stahp.
- Had a date last Sunday. It went well enough but didn't hear from him. Cool. Got a message today from him that he saw me in the neighbourhood and asked how as my week. Record scratch. Ship done sailed, dude.
- OKC has a bunch of questions to answer and one is, "Would you seriously date someone 1/2 your age?". Answer should be NO for people in our age range (Late 20s/early 30s). Duh. Guys who answer 'yes' to that though? Goodbye sir(s).
My Fall 2017 roster is hella dry right now. I need to get back in the game.
Mine too. The sad thing is I have no desire to replenish it, it was overflowing there for minute but I stopped responding to people because none of them were exciting or interesting to me.
I feel like I need to take a break from dating as there's some residue from my last relationship but, at the same time, I don't want to take a break.
Ok so Classic Man went to NOLA for friend's birthday party last weekend. I don't have a problem but he didn't tell me. In fact I wouldn't have known if I didn't text him to find out how he's doing with the smoke from the wildfires and he says "great. I'm in New Orleans." Especially after mentioning what he wants to do for our next date, coulda let a woman know. No we are not exclusive yet but we've been out enough times and communicate regularly enough to where he could've told me, I feel. Especially since this was planned back in August. He lives alone so maybe he's not used to telling people his plans.
I had dinner with my married BFF last week and it was so needed. We're both oldest daughters close with our sisters and many of the differences between me and Classic Man she deals with with her husband.
Whose profile is this?
Lean back and make him chase. Be unavailable next time he wants to see you. Are you dating other men? Line up a couple of dates when he's not around. He should be competing with other men for your time.
Whose profile is this?
I agree. I wanted to know so I could post my opinion delicately. lol I assumed it was a guy's profile though. Either way I don't understand why people post stuff like this on dating profiles. It makes no sense. Of course you'll get people you don't like, stupid people, trolls, etc. It's all about the numbers. Pay attention to the ones you like and ignore the rest. Writing something out like this not only makes the person look like they take themselves too seriously and don't care if they're turning off their potential match but a profile like this is just inviting trolls.Honestly if I were a dude, even if I met these requirements, I would immediately think she isn't fun plus she also doesn't have any real standards outside of race.
Well I met Classic Man when I wasn't thinking of dating anyone at all. He came out of nowhere lol. And my schedule is already jam packed.Lean back and make him chase. Be unavailable next time he wants to see you. Are you dating other men? Line up a couple of dates when he's not around. He should be competing with other men for your time.
This guy I'm talking to on Match is really nice. We've talked on the phone once and he seems cool. Not to mention he is so good looking! Problem is, he has children and I really really really don't want to date a man with kids. Am I being unreasonable? Missing out on decent men because of this requirement? I realize if I'm still single in another couple of years then I may have to rethink this but right now? I'm not feeling dating a dude with kids.