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AnjelLuvs
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I was eyeballing the IT guy's package and then his colleague's package and their colleague's package. Openly too and besides one they're young hipsters!
I realize I need to get laid. Stat!
SAME HERE! See earlier post! LMFAO....
sgold04
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I went out with Mr. Basic again (great job, house, greatest joy in life is sitting on his porch smoking a cigar, walking meme)....
Anyways, we met up toward the end of happy hour, and after happy hour was over he kept asking how much everything would cost. Like if he or I was prepared to order another drink, he'd ask how much it was before ordering first. That annoyed me. Multiple sources have confirmed he has long money, so now I'm thinking he's cheap, which is a problem for me. If he's acting like this during the time when he's clearly trying to impress me, what would he be like if we get together and he's comfortable? I understand frugal, but I can't stand cheap. He reminds me of an old man.
Anyways, we met up toward the end of happy hour, and after happy hour was over he kept asking how much everything would cost. Like if he or I was prepared to order another drink, he'd ask how much it was before ordering first. That annoyed me. Multiple sources have confirmed he has long money, so now I'm thinking he's cheap, which is a problem for me. If he's acting like this during the time when he's clearly trying to impress me, what would he be like if we get together and he's comfortable? I understand frugal, but I can't stand cheap. He reminds me of an old man.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Classic Man texted me good morning yesterday. Asked if I wanted to get together. I said yes. He said this weekend he's busy because he has friends in from out of town but next week might work. Hmmkay.
DarkJoy
Bent. Not Broken.
idk if I like that. hm
He could have said he wants to see you but busy this weekend, how about next? the way he did it may just be poor communication.
qchelle
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I wonder if the friends are staying with him. He busy the whoooole weekend with them?
ScorpioBeauty09
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Exactly.
Well he's a transplant and admittedly has had a rough time meeting people, which I know is true in SF. So I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt on that. But next week, it's do or die for this peasant.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Yeah the might part threw me off too. When I make plans with people it's usually at least a week in advance. I don't like to leave people hanging. Oh well. I'm not worrying myself about it. I have enough going on. He wants to see me, he'll make it happen.
sgold04
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If I have friends in town I'm not going to make time to go on a first date with someone, no matter how much I'm interested. Even if they aren't staying with me, out-of-town guests usually means a lot of activities that I have to coordinate as the local (places to eat for each meal, things to do, etc). I wouldn't want to feel drained and/or overscheduled with a potential. It's different if the guests are in town for something else (like a conference) and we all just meet up once, but if they are there to see me, then my time is pretty much occupied. Especially when I lived in cities people were itching to visit, like LA.
Why are men so silly sometimes? He didn't have to mention anything about being busy this weekend and simply asked you out for next weekend. Because honestly a Thursday might be too late to get me for a weekend date anyway. I'm gonna give him a pass though and say maybe he wanted to convey that he'd like to see you earlier but he can't.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Exactly. We originally met on Wednesday, even if he didn't have friends in town I'd understand if this weekend was booked out for him. I'm an introvert, I need time to gear up even if I'm excited about who I'm seeing.
It's the might part about next week that has me kinda...
. Because I'm not holding a place for him in my schedule. 
Why not solidify plans now... before things get crazy. To be fair I know women who do this and it grates my nerves.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Ok right? I get this week won't work. Thursday is late for a date in 1 or 2 days. My girlfriends and I don't even do each other like that unless it's an emergency like when I was bridesmaid in my friend's wedding and needed to get fitted for a dress before they sold out. I'm content to give him a pass too. But I'm not holding a place for him next week until he locks it down.
qchelle
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Yea, I was thinking I probably don't understand since I don't have friends to visit me from out of town who aren't originally from the area lol. Makes sense!
NappyNelle
Kinky Coily 4A, Fine Strands, WSL
#1 on my roster has an ex wife and a baby mama. (He let me believe these women were the same person for skit three days.) Plus he lives across the country with his child for about 3/4 of the year. I have so many reservations after seeing mama play her card in person. I was defending her in my mind but now, I just can't. (Why do men make idiotic decisions??) I don't do drama and I feel like I'm walking directly into it. Why is he trying to rope me in so hard?!
#2 is actually an ex. He promised he would change after the second time I broke up with him and he actually ACCOMPLISHED the things he said he would. Idk he's looking like a logical choice but I have reservations about him, too. Especially because he's an ex and he's not into any of the intellectual stuff I enjoy.
I need more people on my roster. I'm seeing #1 tonight but maybe I'll meet some new potentials at the same time.
#2 is actually an ex. He promised he would change after the second time I broke up with him and he actually ACCOMPLISHED the things he said he would. Idk he's looking like a logical choice but I have reservations about him, too. Especially because he's an ex and he's not into any of the intellectual stuff I enjoy.
I need more people on my roster. I'm seeing #1 tonight but maybe I'll meet some new potentials at the same time.
rafikichick92
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I was right. Soccer Guy wants to meet my mother so we can make it official. This ought to be interesting. One come-to-Jesus meeting coming right up!
ScorpioBeauty09
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You're telling me! I never thought I'd say that.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Classic Man texted me again today. His friends were only around Friday and Saturday it seems. 
Today he's doing work stuff. Totally fine but why make it sound like you were busy the whole weekend with them? That aside, I like that he's maintaining contact with me. 
I didn't expect to hear from him until next week, IF I heard from him at all because I didn't assume I would. What's bugging me now is he's casually trying to find out how my week is looking and I'm like why? 
Do I want to see you again? Asked and answered. Twice now. Lock. It. Down. 
Today he's doing work stuff. Totally fine but why make it sound like you were busy the whole weekend with them? That aside, I like that he's maintaining contact with me. I didn't expect to hear from him until next week, IF I heard from him at all because I didn't assume I would. What's bugging me now is he's casually trying to find out how my week is looking and I'm like why? Do I want to see you again? Asked and answered. Twice now. Lock. It. Down.
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pinkness27
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The part that threw me off was he asked then said he was busy. So why ask? Lol. Ask and schedule two weeks ahead while mentioning hosting your out of town friends or ask the week of when you're actually free.
LovinLea
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Classic Man texted me again today. His friends were only around Friday and Saturday it seems.
So he asks if you're free, you tell him that you are and that's it. So then when he makes last minute plans, he won't understand why you are saying no. "But you said you were free"
I think Friday and Saturday is the whole weekend. Sunday doesn't count to me. lolClassic Man texted me again today. His friends were only around Friday and Saturday it seems.
But yeah, him trying to find out about your week is annoying. I don't like men beating around the bush. He said maybe next weekend so the next time he mentioned it I would expect him to be coming with a specific day and time. At this point I would just be like "pick a day/time and let me know". And then if it works for you, great. If not, thems the breaks for him. Men need to do better.
LovinLea
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I met this guy about a month ago, found him very attractive and all that but he hits me up every Saturday to ask if he could see me that night. First time at midnight. Every week it gets a little earlier. Yesterday it was at 5pm. Every week I tell him, I'm busy...which I am. SMH.
ScorpioBeauty09
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Classic Man got it together lol. 
Asked me out on Thursday to an art exhibit and dinner afterward. I of course googled the exhibit he was talking about BEFORE agreeing and I like his taste in art. I'm looking forward to this.
Asked me out on Thursday to an art exhibit and dinner afterward. I of course googled the exhibit he was talking about BEFORE agreeing and I like his taste in art. I'm looking forward to this.
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ItsMeLilLucky
NotLucky no mo' just blessed.
So um, I went to go pick my son up from my mom in a white tshirt and no bra. No F's were given. Now if it rains...
Evolving78
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Ma'am! Lol
ItsMeLilLucky
NotLucky no mo' just blessed.
I did have a denim jacket on to hide the nips
I just got tired of wearing a bra all day
MzLady78
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So, my love life is non-existent and I'm about to start therapy tomorrow, but on a positive note, I finished my first class and got an A-.
Evolving78
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Wow! Congrats on passing your first class! What are you going to school for?
MzLady78
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Thanks! I'm doing Northeastern University's HR Management Graduate Certificate program.
My goal is finish the program, then start preparing to take the exam to get PHR certified. I want some letters behind my name.
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DarkJoy
Bent. Not Broken.
went to a social dinner thing for black folk last weekend. We getting to know each other and there's a lot of banter. Dark skin dude and i have the same bday! He commences to hitting on me and chatting me up.
He's bantering a lot with another woman. Then a second later turns on her and says "stop acting light skinned!" Who was that here who just heard the same thing?!
Anyways several times throughout dinner his pickup line to me was "when are you bringing me a present for our birthday?!" like 10x.
Dude in his late 40s. Such a bad look. I was so turned off!
He's bantering a lot with another woman. Then a second later turns on her and says "stop acting light skinned!" Who was that here who just heard the same thing?!
Anyways several times throughout dinner his pickup line to me was "when are you bringing me a present for our birthday?!" like 10x.
Dude in his late 40s. Such a bad look. I was so turned off!
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