Still trying to figure out where to get this audio Chica. Lol
I haven't read it. Just opened it in a new tab. Let me go take a look.Go ahead then! I could have written that first paragraph myself. It feels grand doesn't it? Did you read the summary I typed up of Katarina's audio on High Value Women?
https://longhaircareforum.com/threads/katarina-phangs-dating-philosophy.820571/page-4#post-24123125
I'm listening to the audio and reading my notes every morning until it sticks. The most liberating part of it all is that you need not do anything to be cherished by a man. Just be happy in the moment, right now, no matter your current status. Release the worry and surrender. We're exactly where we are supposed to be.
The Edge is on 139th and edgecombe. (It's black owned.) I'm not necessarily a Bilal fan but I'm going to take pictures and say hi to folks.I was thinking about the Bilal concert but I dont know any of his songs... Where is the Edge?
I got deja vu when I read this. Baby's coming.Lordt, why did my mom dream I was pregnant and had a little girl? I asked her if she saw a rich husband, and she said no
Now I gotta be celibate.
Who, your baby?I got deja vu when I read this. Baby's coming.
Dancing can be seductive. I would just do dinner first. We gotta remember the pure nature of men. Lol men that pick places and activities they feel confident in, is a way to show out. The date is about them. Unless ya'll met in a dance class, then no! LolWhat do guys think of dinner and a lounge for a first date? I don't really want to dance with you on a first date.
Are there any ladies in this thread that are out of the dating game? Choosing to be without a mate? Gay, straight, fluid, etc it doesn't matter! lol I really don't wanna be in a relationship, or date anymore. all of the energy it takes, and being a single/divorced mom of 3 children with special needs is a lot. I don't wanna be pulled into different directions. I realize I'm not good at multitasking. And I don't wanna have to be on guard constantly questioning someone's intentions with myself, or my children. That used to bother me at first. Like I was resentful that my former partners were able to still live their lives and I had to be the responsible parent. I'm at peace with that now. I get a chance to redefine things and how I see my life. This is a good thing. No bitterness. I don't wanna share my life like that anymore. I wanna dress for me, I wanna cook for me, I wanna learn for me, I wanna do everything for me and be a good example to my children.
I'm signing my son up for a male mentoring program. I'm excited about that. There are other ways I can bring male role models into my sons' lives. I'm gearing up for fall sports. My baby loves his uncle and his cousin. Two men that he can get that male attention bonding from. They are patient with him.
So excitd that more Afropunk tixs released... Albeit, two tix and will only be using the Saturday pass...
I physically have to do a lot to go out on a date. That's part of the energy I don't wanna be bothered with. When I say I'm a single mother, I mean single in every aspect. My support system is extremely small. There are women/mothers that get free time. My time is limited. There is no other parent, grandparents, etc.. if I use a babysitter it is someone I trust, knows my kids well, and is used to take care of important business. My mommy time is in the shower, or when folks are asleep! Lol if I use a babysitter for fun, it won't be used to be in a man's face. I wanna use that strictly on myself.Sounds like you're in a good space right now by prioritizing your peace and happiness. You can still be open to love, but just choose situations that are easy and stress free. I think a good way to do that is remain emotionally detached and just live in the moment. The energy drain comes when we become overly invested early on and bank of the future. Remain in receive mode.
I definitely want love, but right now I'm not focused on marriage (open to but not focused on). That's where I get caught up. I've released the desire for that right now. Instead, I'm open to having lovers . Not FWBs or situationships, but a series of fun romances that I lean back and enjoy in the moment with no expectations. I want to be fussed over, doted on, and spoiled. Having an end goal causes too much anxiety for me right now.
They see that glow! You got some pep in your step! You are probably strutting and switching too! LolOkay, so talk about yesterday and this am... Walking in confidence is really the key, also looking good, feeling and smelling good helps...
Yea I decided to go home and put away laundry, clean etc etc yesterday... #boringMe
Like others have attested to, on way home from work, minding my own business, listening to my tunes, smiling and just feeling good about life (smiling at randoms instead of the usual screw face), so many people, men and women were just looking at me, at first I thought I had something on me, like wtf, why yall ice grilling... Some men were winking and speaking. As I was 1/2 block from home, standing at the Stop light, as it turned the driver beeped horn and was like you go girl... I was confused... ok maybe I was doing a lil jig well standing there... Then as I approach building the usual block heads whom I usually am invisible too, all spoke... #shocked.. Lol...
Then this morning, same thing occurred at stop light, dude didnt beep but as he turned corner I saw him with a big ole grin and he winked... Its the lil things...
Happy Thursday!!!
What happened?Kicked Soccer Guy off all my social media. It was getting too stressful. I already feel a gazillion times better. Won't make that mistake again.
What happened?
I physically have to do a lot to go out on a date. That's part of the energy I don't wanna be bothered with. When I say I'm a single mother, I mean single in every aspect. My support system is extremely small. There are women/mothers that get free time. My time is limited. There is no other parent, grandparents, etc.. if I use a babysitter it is someone I trust, knows my kids well, and is used to take care of important business. My mommy time is in the shower, or when folks are asleep! Lol if I use a babysitter for fun, it won't be used to be in a man's face. I wanna use that strictly on myself.
Love comes in different forms. I would like to experience that type of love. Not the love of a companion/man.
I have seen women really enjoying life and having amazing experiences without dating. I used to look down on that. Now I think it's cool.
I swear. I like the attention so I flirt, but I don't feel like getting to know anyone. Most of the time, I'm mfkin tired.Are there any ladies in this thread that are out of the dating game? Choosing to be without a mate? Gay, straight, fluid, etc it doesn't matter! lol I really don't wanna be in a relationship, or date anymore. all of the energy it takes, and being a single/divorced mom of 3 children with special needs is a lot. I don't wanna be pulled into different directions. I realize I'm not good at multitasking. And I don't wanna have to be on guard constantly questioning someone's intentions with myself, or my children. That used to bother me at first. Like I was resentful that my former partners were able to still live their lives and I had to be the responsible parent. I'm at peace with that now. I get a chance to redefine things and how I see my life. This is a good thing. No bitterness. I don't wanna share my life like that anymore. I wanna dress for me, I wanna cook for me, I wanna learn for me, I wanna do everything for me and be a good example to my children.
I'm signing my son up for a male mentoring program. I'm excited about that. There are other ways I can bring male role models into my sons' lives. I'm gearing up for fall sports. My baby loves his uncle and his cousin. Two men that he can get that male attention bonding from. They are patient with him.
Cuffing season is coming! lol they are looking for a warm body to snuggle up to for the winter! This is one of the reasons I deactivated my fb account. I only follow fitness ladies on IG and nobody in my past has my phone number. Exs always come back. Stay getting inboxed. Like exs from 20 years ago! lolAnd like clockwork another ex comes out of the woodwork. He always could make me laugh though and after having a hard week, I'm indulging his attempts to make me laugh.
Maybe you should check out the Rori thread? It seems helpful in focusing on tuning out the negative energy and channeling your feminine energy to work to your advantage. maybe you could venture out of your city and go to different events?I don't think I can listen to my single friends in my city vent anymore, it's effecting my outlook and makes me even more eager to move. I already perceive these dudes here as educated fools, and my girls' stories just add more evidence to support my negative beliefs. I'm trying hard to be open and have an abundance mindset while I'm here.
I'm very friendly, and can draw men in, but nope, don't wanna be bothered. I got goals! Men don't allow women to get in their way of accomplishing their goals, since they can compartmentalize things and people, I on the other hand cannot! Lol so being in school, working on getting a home, homeschooling my DD, making sure my boys have a successful school year, growing my hair, trying to decide on a side hustle, etc.. I got things to do!I swear. I like the attention so I flirt, but I don't feel like getting to know anyone. Most of the time, I'm mfkin tired.