Trinis are annoying...next on the roster is Trini. Cuz he is trinianyone got experience with this nationality?
thing is idk wtf he saying. his accent is weird. he is also racially ambiguous. he might be mixed. idk. he said Trini dad California mom so...
Anyway he say he looking for a wife. widower. oil rig engineer. welltodo. grown kids.
I'm not taking him seriously tho but he is in hot pursuit.
Or are you hiding something? I want a man that locks down plans in advance.
Why did his meal bother you? That plain burger got to you? Sorry that sentence tickled me.Went on a date yesterday:
Dinner and a movie.
I was starving and the movie was three hours long. I told him I was hungry, but he didn't offer to get a snack. Get to the restaurant, I'm just thinking about food which took over an hour to come. They gave us free dessert to compensate. He ordered a cheeseburger with nothing on it, just burger meat and cheese, and a bowl of plain vanilla ice cream. He tried to make out with me and I curved it. At the end, he pulled out a teddy bear and box of chocolates, which I thought was sweet.
We were talking a couple of months ago but he cut it off because I called him and he doesn't like to talk to the phone. He strictly does texting. He hit me up a week or so ago talmbout I miss you. So I just had to meet this guy. He asked me "So why did we stop talking again?" He thinks I dumped him; I didn't bother reminding him.
I could hear the disdain in your font.
Thanks lady!I wish I had your manifesting energy. How did you get yours to be so good?
And CONGRATULATIONS on the BOSS ass new job!!!
And I actually took a page out of your book! You are so open and free and unapologetic about your quirkiness that it lead me to embrace my own. Once I had my attitude right about that, life literally just began opening up to me.I completely 100% agree with this. I keep a journal that I use to write encouraging letters to myself, complimenting myself, refocusing myself or to put words to my desires.
Thanks sis!
I'm trying to stay positive but man... this is tough.
So a few months ago, when I was about 2 weeks into my new city, I met this guy at a restaurant. We were sitting at the bar and he initiated conversation. He was also new in town and we hit it off immediately-- or so I thought. He was cute, smart, BLACK, and had a great job (Nurse Anesthesiologist). I was thinking, alright Surferbabe, this is a good start. Somewhere during our conversation the (white) female bartender butts in. We engage her for a bit and then we're back chatting with one another. I got up to take a bathroom break. Once I got back to my seat, I felt like something shifted. Suddenly, they are totally engaged in conversation and I'm the odd one out. Once she got back busy working, we started chatting again but I felt like his attention was no longer on me. As soon as she was free again, they were back at it
Welp, guess who I bumped into yesterday while out at brunch (by myself of course)? The happy freaking couple. The stringy haired, chipped nail polish, run through chick had to do absolutely nothing but be her ivory-skinned self and she snagged a professional black man. Oh and she leaned in. Yet here I am reading a million and one books on how to be feminine and lovable and I get stood up on Saturday and have to take myself out to brunch-- yet again-- on Sunday. I have my insecurities, but I've never been insecure about being a single black woman navigating the dating world. I always felt like it gave me an edge because I'm so in love with my blackness. But y'all, I don't know anymore.I've run out of quotes to read, activities to partake in, and trips to take to get my mind off of my failure in relationships. I'm social, I volunteer, I'm always out and about doing something-- and nothing falls into my lap. Yet this woman had a darn good dude just walk into her job and now she's being wined and dined while I'm footing the bill for myself at a table alone while people look at me crazy. I hate to bring this negativity here but I just need to vent.
Coming back to this wasteland from paradise is getting to me.
take lunch early on Thursday?
why you lying? I go outside and I'm just chatting and then some man grabs my butt and it was him. I just about melted in his arms. We had a quick bite to eat on the roof of my job and he's gonna meet me at the gym later. I may cut the gym so I can just go home to shower so we can just go 
instead. He's heading home on Friday and he's already making plans for my next trip down!But where do I go for some privacy. As long as I'm in my office it isn't private. And a restaurant/cafe is going to be crowded and loud and awkward. Ugh!
Girl...im about to do the opposite and shut online down and go back out in the streets lol. These men are horrible online
And that is exactly why I don't want to sign back up. It's just so easy and convenient and I have a feeling most men on there are thinking the same. I actually prefer meeting men in the real world. Getting checked out, him coming over, the first corny pick up line. lol It's much more exciting. And kinda random but sometimes I even remember the missed connections where the guy didn't come over, we got lost in the crowd, distracted or something. That's only if he's good looking enough to remember. One time on Halloween this fine arse Asian dude was checking me out outside a bar. I gave him the eye a couple times. And right when he was coming over - all cute with his hands in his pockets and looking nervous- my mother and sister came out (we were going to the parade and they went in to use the bathroom) and started hustling me off. I still remember the confused then sad look that came across his face. lmao I was pissed and sulked the rest of the night. Dude was fine....and tall.
dang. thought you might have a car to dip in to. book a conference room at work? if there's not any lunch meetings you'll be alright. park nearby where you can sit away from ppl?
My friend suggested a conference too but my office is quite small and I would have to be super quiet for no one to hear. I'm in NYC and work in the city so no car. I'm gonna keep thinking on it and come up with something.
We're gonna FaceTime and I meant for no one to hear her. Yeah my office is wack and no one goes out but I think I found a spot outside the office that will be more comfortable for me.
What specific cities/areas do you suggest?
@UniquelyDivine and @SurferBabe do either of ya'll mind sending me a pdf of MDLWLY if ya'll have one? Good luck on your date SurferBabe! UniquelyDivine you are a mess! Where do you find these men you be trolling?
@shespoison that's crazy! An on again, off again boo can be fun but how do you hang out with him without getting caught up in a moment of memories, whether good or bad?
My gay friend used to try to put me up on game years ago with stuff like this. I only half-listened but I totally get it now! One time he was telling me about this guy he talks to off and on. They were supposed to go somewhere and the guy had all this stuff planned for when my friend came to town. Well, the guy must have had a slow week at work something, because when it got closer to the weekend he started talking slow about the weekend plans. My friend could tell he was trying to get out of it, so he just cut him off and said, "baby, just say you broke this weekend."
so I'm not sure how that works, If I figure it out I'll def send it your way! I agree with @SurferBabe though, it's worth having a hard copy on hand. I like having it on kindle but my hard copy has all my highlights and earmarks.
My book is in kindle format
