I totally agree with
@KammyGirl , this is something that I've recently learned as well, about putting actions behind my words.
We woman tend to be more word (expressive) based and men tend to be more action based. When we tell a man we don't like this or want that yet continue to reward him with our time, energy, bodies, and every good thing that comes with us. He will go off the actions every time and not the words because he is wired to be action based. This is how a man can get with the woman after you and treat her totally different (better) than he ever treated you, it's because her actions are different than yours.
I also feel like we spend too much time explaining things to men. All the talking we do helps them mask their true intentions. Ex. I was talking on the phone to a man I met online. This was our second conversation, we hadn't met or even gone out on a date yet. He was calling to tell me that they were super busy at work and he would be getting off a little later than was expected and he would call me as soon as he got home. He was asking me to wait up and didnt want me to miss his call. Brownie points, right? I explained I wasn't headed to bed right away and that I was about to hop in the shower so I should be up for a little while.
Now me with my woman brain (logic) didn't think anything about mentioning what I was about to do cause I wasn't trying to be suggestive. Well, him with his male brain (logic) took it as me telling him that I was going to be nekkid and would be rubbing all over my body for his pleasure
. True story. How do I know this is what he thought? Because of his comments to me after I mentioned the shower. It truly caught me off guard, left me looking at the phone crazy and silent. He asked me had he done something wrong, I told him no and that I would talk to him when he got off work.
Did I talk to him again? No!!! Did I explain why? NO!!! He also went on the blocked list. The old me would have entertained telling him about what he did that bothered me. The new me understands the value of my time and my energy; therefore, no explanation was needed. I dont need to tell you as a grown a$% man that
a) we just met (second conversation) and not even in person yet
b) I dont even know what yo wallet do, no date, no flowers, no nothing
c) I know nothing about you, your mental health/health status, your std status, your criminal history status, your anything status
d) that you shouldn't be trying to take liberties with me that I didn't invite you to take
And now you lowkey trying to talk to me about my snatch............nah son
. He was grown, older than me and you still don't know how to talk to women
properly or what is appropriate and what isn't? I have no time to be teaching a man the basics, he should come to the table with at least that much.
He was ghosted, blocked, deleted with the quickness and NO EXPLANATION was given.
I'm gonna stop typing now with my unnecessarily wordy, for no reason, behind