People downplay the role location plays in dating. It's huge. During the year and a half I spent living in Quebec, I had more men than I could keep up with ( I was open to all races of course). I went from having no luck in my hometown to calling all of the shots. I could ghost one man and meet another one the same day with no effort. I felt the same vibe out west but I wasn't in any city long enough to know if it was the norm. Plus all of the prospects were non-black and at the time, I was strictly into BM.
In Texas there were so many men and prospects but too many of the ones I met wanted to play the field forever. However, that had more to do with where I was meeting them. Since I spent half of my time there pining away for some dude that didn't want me, I didn't get to really explore the market, but it is a gold mine for a focused, single woman who knows what she wants. And black love was everywhere. A spartan could live like a queen there.
Where I'm at now-- it's dismal, which is why I'm taking a break
. If you didn't snatch up the handful of half-decent men living here early on, forget about it. And I say half-decent, because even the model husbands are not faithful. It is a typical blue collar city full of coddled men and ambitious women. Most of the decent men have left to chase opportunities elsewhere. The number of full package, long-time single black women I meet here is depressing and dating out isn't really an option because there is still a lot of racial tension here it seems. Even most of the married white women I come across are taking care of their husbands. I'm glad I only have to be here until year end with work. I'm heading to a city where I can call the shots before I start back dating. I'm not about struggle when I know there are locations where I'm a hot commodity and can relax and have them come to me.
Location, location, location. Even when traveling I've noticed a difference in the number of men who pursue me from one location to the next. The qualities men from one location overlook might be appreciated by men over a thousand miles away. For some single women, it might be worth it to move. It could change your luck.