So I just ended a year long situationship. Well it was a year and 3 months to be exact. We werent exclusive but we acted like we were in a relationship though. I met him right after i got out of a 6 year relationship that ended in my ex cheating. I wasnt trying to jump into a new relationship that quickly so we kept it casual for a while. But then feelings got involved for both of us by month 10. Our chemistry was amazing and we spent so much time together we really became good friends and a support system for each other. He told me by month 10 that he was in love with me and he could see himself with me for a long time....
Fast forward 5 months later..we were still not exclusive. By this time i was ready to start something up again. I was over my ex and feeling good. I had this guy who loves me just the way i was. But didnt want to deal with a label
. We have had serious convos about it and it looks like he doesnt want to budge. Our last convo on this subject was in feb and he told me "we arent there yet". "He isnt sure he can do the relationship thing again"...blah blah blah. So i ended it a few weeks later
I feel bad for 1 main reason. The way i did it wasnt the best. I can have a cold heart when im not happy and i kinda just went MIA from him with no explanation for 3 weeks. And then popped back up and said i dont wanna do this anymore. I guess he was shocked b/c he thought i was happy doing what we were doing. Even tho i warned him in 2017 im looking for a real relationship whether its with or without him.
Its amazing how a man will try to guilt u into making it seem like doing what u want is wrong. He told me why leave a good man who loves you and gives you all of him just for a label? He is right...he truly loved me and treated me even better than my cheating ex. But i was tired of doing this non relationship on HIS terms. Not having a title meant he can use excuses when he does something out of bounds since he isnt official. I already had a boyfriend do that to me so im not about to go there with a man who isnt even my man.
It sux. We were so good together. But i cant do the commitment phobe. Now that im over my cheating ex and feel ready to go back out there i look forward to meeting a man who knows what he wants and sticks with it