*-*Single Ladies Support Thread!!*-*

[UniquelyDivine]

Im gonna get my life together the first half of the year and attempt to date starting by the summer. My biggest issues are patience and liking people more than 14 days

That's how I am, I get bored & lose interest really fast.

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

My friend can go online and find someone she hits it off with within the same week but I have f boys and immature grown men in my bix when I go online. SMH

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

He asked me for my last name and I declined. We just met online a few hours ago. He hasn't messaged back. *shrugs*

 

[quirkydimples]

Guys I attract online:

• Black
• Indian
• Fat, old white guys with lazy eyes

 

[LovelyRo]

He asked me for my last name and I declined. We just met online a few hours ago. He hasn't messaged back. *shrugs*

I had a guy do the same... #blocked

 

[DarkJoy]

He asked me for my last name and I declined. We just met online a few hours ago. He hasn't messaged back. *shrugs*

trying to search your pics out on FB or Google you.

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

trying to search your pics out on FB or Google you.

Yup. I use a nickname on the dating sites that doesn't clue you in on what my name could possibly be. I also use a different neighborhood as my location. I knew he was trying to be slick by asking questions to try to find out where I worked.

 

[DarkJoy]

Yup. I use a nickname on the dating sites that doesn't clue you in on what my name could possibly be. I also use a different neighborhood as my location. I knew he was trying to be slick by asking questions to try to find out where I worked.

ew. what a time waster. all that says is "not serious"

 

[UniquelyDivine]

My friend can go online and find someone she hits it off with within the same week but I have f boys and immature grown men in my bix when I go online. SMH

My friend is like that too, she ALWAYS has a new online boo . I just have to remind myself it's quality not quantity that matters.

 

[LovinLea]

My coworker swiped right to me on SoulSwipe. I know because he keeps popping up as soon as I open the app. SHould I swipe right back? This makes me nervous.

 

[UniquelyDivine]

My coworker swiped right to me on SoulSwipe. I know because he keeps popping up as soon as I open the app. SHould I swipe right back? This makes me nervous.

Are you interested in him?

 

[C@ssandr@]

My coworker swiped right to me on SoulSwipe. I know because he keeps popping up as soon as I open the app. SHould I swipe right back? This makes me nervous.

Do you see im at work all of the time? If yes, don't swipe right. Dating someone from work is almost always a bad idea. The exception is different offices or different parts of the building, etc.

 

[sweetvi]

Guys I attract online:

• Black
• Indian
• Fat, old white guys with lazy eyes

Lol

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

When a guy send you the same exact opening paragraph weeks later....

 

[ms.tatiana]

Okay so training is over me & ol boy haven't talked since (said we would keep in touch) but it's been a week. Training was 10 days & more than half of those days we were sleeping together. He lives in D.C. & I live in Cali.

Should I just be over it or hit him up with a quick "Hey big head" text?

 

[quirkydimples]

I don't want to be stuck in some long back and forth text with a potential date. I'm about to tell this guy to "crap" or get off the pot.

 

[DarkJoy]

Okay so training is over me & ol boy haven't talked since (said we would keep in touch) but it's been a week. Training was 10 days & more than half of those days we were sleeping together. He lives in D.C. & I live in Cali.

Should I just be over it or hit him up with a quick "Hey big head" text?

A week and lives across the country?

That ship has probably sailed...?

 

[LovinLea]

Are you interested in him?

Now that I'm thinking about it, no. I was just interested because he was available. thI He's Christian, and dresses well but that's about it. Just a few weeks ago he was going to DC every week for premarital classes with his LDR and I'm no rebound.

Do you see im at work all of the time? If yes, don't swipe right. Dating someone from work is almost always a bad idea. The exception is different offices or different parts of the building, etc.

Yeah, I'm not even going to go there. Plus my boss is very territorial of me

 

[LovinLea]

I don't want to be stuck in some long back and forth text with a potential date. I'm about to tell this guy to "crap" or get off the pot.

Tell him you lose interest quickly. I've done that, a nice way of saying crap or get off the pot.

 

[LovinLea]

Okay so training is over me & ol boy haven't talked since (said we would keep in touch) but it's been a week. Training was 10 days & more than half of those days we were sleeping together. He lives in D.C. & I live in Cali.

Should I just be over it or hit him up with a quick "Hey big head" text?

Yeah, forget him. At least you had fun.

 

[ms.tatiana]

Thanks ladies @LovinLea & @DarkJoy
I figured as much, but a girl can dream. Alright time to move on.

 

[hopeful]

@ms.tatiana
(((Hugs)))
Sorry hon. Gotta guard your heart and body. Unless you enjoy sex for sex' sake and aren't looking for anything serious, I would focus on talking and getting to know a guy well first, no sex early on. Hand holding and kissing max early on. JMHO. If the guy pushes hard for more early on you know he isn't the one because he isn't respecting your boundaries.

 

[movingforward13]

Lee gots us Mario Party 8... and been spending a lot of time playing with us. I hope this is helping him emotionally. I am not sure how to help a grieving man.

 

[ms.tatiana]

@hopeful Yeah already messing up in 2017

 

[hopeful]

@hopeful Yeah already messing up in 2017

Don't say that. You are learning and growing. Set your boundaries now, moving forward. You decide ahead of time how you want to deal with new dudes, you set the pace. Always be willing to walk away too. Your heart and body are precious. Protect both of them.

 

[ivyness]

In MDLWLY he says no online dating. How else am I supposed to meet men?

 

[hopeful]

In MDLWLY he says no online dating. How else am I supposed to meet men?

He says meet people in person, go out, get out of the house etc. But I think not online dating is a mistake. Not online dating is limiting IMO. Get out, try to meet people IRL and do online dating.

 

[sarumoki]

In MDLWLY he says no online dating. How else am I supposed to meet men?

Tbh I never got that far in the book, but I think online dating is okay as a supplement to meeting people in real life. Like don't have it be the only way you're meeting people.

I struggled with that a lot because I'm not a social person at all but I find that you don't really need to be. Just go out and look cute and do your own thing and the men will come to you.

 

[movingforward13]

Just go out and look cute and do your own thing and the men will come to you.

I been noticing this a lot lately- like yesterday leaving FedEx- dude damn near ran me down to talk to him. I was just minding my business.

 

[movingforward13]

Lee and I had a lot of pillow talk last night after coloring... he is at this point where he is ready to talk and he spilled it all. I just laid there and listened, asked a few questions. I mean we have had deep conversations before but last night topped all prior conversations.

There is just so much to this man. He talked about his childhood, his father, his father figure, etc. It is like pieces of a puzzle and now they are all coming together to display this moving picture. He isn't traumatized by his dad's death but I can tell he has been doing a lot of thinking about his own past, his father's legacy and his way forward. He is thinking of his own mortality, etc.

Other dating news- NASA guy got the message. I haven't heard from him in a few days. Nice guy, I am sure he will find someone who is as attracted to him.

Been conversing with a lawyer but he seems too cocky for me. New to the area but he seems like the type to want a woman to chase. He is a Leo so he probably wanted his ego stroked *shrugs*

Another guy gave me his number 2 days ago. Checked all my boxes and decent online conversation so I contacted him- he didn't have anything interesting to talk about so I lost interest. That. Quick.
Then he hits me up on the app we met on the next yesterday so I ask him why did he do that if he had my number. He gave a silly response like "lol yeah you right." So I just blocked him on everything.

Generally speaking, I am not impressed. There is an event in DC that I am thinking of going to tonight at Cities- Black "After Wurk" event- a networking event...