So *pops lips* Cali's son had his birthday. He was turning the same age as my kiddo and he was going to this amusement park near my home. He just seems so honest, with his dumb sounding self. He is not dumb, he is just so "Cali," laid back, sounding perpetually high, but he is not, just a "dude."
His daughter automatically attached to me and, yeah, she got me. She wanted me to pick her up. You can tell she is sorely missing a mother figure. I recognize her, because I did not have my mother around that young.
I am the "cool adult," meaning kids listen to me and trust and respect my decisions off the back. I am firm but fun. My son takes after my coolness. I just have a way with children, which is the reason why they exhaust me.
My problem, he moves entirely too fast. Don't try to hold my hands around the children. They just met me. YOU met me a handful of times. It is commendable you are parenting 100% by yourself. It is hard doing it at 85% for myself. But don't let the desire for a two parent household and loneliness cloud you. It weird having to be the person to say, "wait a minute." I still haven't worked out my feelings towards him, as in, I don't have any strong sexual feelings for him and that is really weird. He sent a text a couple of days ago saying, "love you already" and my head response was, "you're a weirdo." But I sent the side eye emoji instead.
Look he just sent me a text that said, "such a beautiful thing watching you mother." He is looking for a surrogate, right? And I spent a lot of money in therapy trying to find my identity outside the labels "wife" and "mother," I am still trying to figure ME out.
Hotep said I would get bored....