UniquelyDivine
Well-Known Member
Can I ask for a fbuddy to be exclusive sexually?
A la Mary Jane? It doesn't hurt to ask, he might be with it
Can I ask for a fbuddy to be exclusive sexually?
Guess IYou can ask. They may or may not agree to it. If I want exclusive sex then I probably want a relationship.
For my own experience, I was a don't ask, don't tell. We use protection and that was that.
I never really understood the concept of not being exclusive sexually. Even with condom use.A la Mary Jane? It doesn't hurt to ask, he might be with it
Guess I
I never really understood the concept of not being exclusive sexually. Even with condom use.
I am going to put this right here in case it helps someone
The anus is nasty
When it sweats, it stinks
If you don't use wet wipes to clean your anus when you sh**
You leave a doodoo coating that stinks
Same as if you touched sh** and just used tissue to wipe it off
It is even worse with the anus because it is enclosed in a warm place
so gets no airing like your doodoo hand or fingers would
So it is a good idea to shower and clean the nether region with soap, wash cloth
and a shower spray rinse
Right before inviting someone to go downtown
True this takes away the spontaneity
But it leaves a nice impression on your lover
There's no better confidence booster than that kitty neighbor
smelling clean-baby fresh
So that visiting the kitty becomes a pleasure for your "guest"
Plus you leave a wonderful image being très clean and considerate.
IJS
Sighhhhh, so I've been reading the "Men don't love women like you thread" and I'm realizing some things. I'm guilty of hiding myself, like I just get sooo tired of n!ggas that I shut down and remove all avenues, I mean I go out and hang out but NOT with the mindset of flirting or trying to meet a man which I don't think there is anything wrong with that but I just really am so disgusted by the idea of even being bothered
Even this last fiasco with ol buddy came about because he approached me, I would've never ever made the first move even though I was intrigued by him. I need to do better with putting myself out there but I just don't even have the energy, like I don't even know how to muster up the **** it will take to get myself back into the game, part of it is also my location as well though. I'm in the Midwest surrounded by white boys, which is fine but meh, and the quality black men that are here are typically taken which leaves the play too much types and the ones that are not on level. I'm moving to Dallas in a few months so I guess I'll just bide my time until then... but even then, I need to change my mindset but I don't know how.
I feel you girl. Im reading the book, too, and am naturally ol' fashioned when it comes to meeting men, but I liked what the book had to say about being fearless and confident in flirting with a guy to get his attention. Although approaching men is something Ive always resisted, I think its important to learn how to flirt in a way that is comfortable for you. I like to do subtle stuff like smiling, complimenting and giving him the eye. Anything beyond that is outside of my comfort zone and even after getting his attention, I always let him take the lead and suggest we exchange info. This past wknd I was at a NABJ party when I saw a beautiful man looking down at his phone at the bar. I had a bit to drink (lol), so I walked right up before even thinking about it and ran my fingers over his screen as he was looking down at it. Now this is something I normally only do to friends to get their attention off their phone, but the beautiful man thought it was hilarious and thanked me for saving him cuz he was getting bored. Lol Of course he asked for my number and I obliged him although he lives in Chicago, but I had to pat myself for finally being able to comfortably flirt in my own non-conventional way.
Chile... you are very young... and hard headed . I was too so no real shade there. But its hard to understand why you checkin for these little fools that's not checking for you?! He aint contacted you in 2 months... why are you even thinking about him? You dont even remember his screen name ffsSo I just texted ... I don't remember what his alias is and I cannot be bothered to remember. His name is Paul and he's the guy who stood me up. I just texted him because today marks 2 months since we first met.
It's hard in these single streets.
I am not attracted to most of the men I see on dating sites.
I guess only the ugly, troubled, broke men go on these sites.
I need to vent...
I can't stomach being single anymore. I'm seriously on the verge of becoming one of those miserable single people. It's been four years single and three years before my last relationship. That's 7 years single and 1 year coupled.
They say enjoy being single but I've done so much solo. I'm 30-- which I know is young, and I spent all of my 20s enjoying my single life. Went out of the country solo, did an East to West coast roadtrip solo, explored caves, went scuba diving, camped solo, moved 500 miles away from home solo... the list goes on. I wasn't thinking about men and now it's all I think about. I'm ready for romantic picnics on the beach and regular sex. I don't know why mutual attraction is so hard for me. Like most women, I have a fan club full of men I just don't want. When I do like someone, they are either taken or the feeling isn't mutual. I feel like I should just give up and settle for one of these dudes that keep blowing me up. Eventually I'll learn to love him.
I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.
My hobby is in pause right now I can't afford a sander and I l don't know anyone who has one. I think my neighbor is a carpentor. He's working on something but I don't know what. I might ask him but I really don't talk to my neighbors like that though. I need to just let some things be hobbies. Stop trying to make money out
So I just texted ... I don't remember what his alias is and I cannot be bothered to remember. His name is Paul and he's the guy who stood me up. I just texted him because today marks 2 months since we first met.
For some reason I really want to go on a date. Where the guy picks me up, has fresh flowers waiting for me when I get in the car, we go to a nice restaurant, then afterwards go to the park walk around, sit by some water and enjoy each other's company.
@girlonfire I'm about to be rude, so read it:
People in this thread keep giving you advice about how to not be treated in the sh*tty way these guys are treating you, and you keep doing the same actions that allow this rude treatment from these guys. Sounds like you want to be treated like sh*t at this point. I understand that you're young and hard headded, but you have to implement the advice you're getting at some point. Especially when you have a wealth of knowledge at your fingertips. There are threads with books, websites, women who are saying, "if you're in my city, let's link up," etc. USE THESE RESOURCES!
Please know that I am not saying this to discourage you from asking for help or a second opinion. Just that you need to reflect on what you've been doing, so that you can realize that you're doing the same thing and eliciting the same results followed by the same hurt feelings.
I thought about this the other day too, but quickly realized that it's too damn hot here in Houston for the walk in the park. Dream was politely deffered.