this will lead to nothing but o a girl can dream.
Two years ago i visited the states on holiday and went to the club. I was just walking through when this 6ft4 chocolate man stops me, looks at me like dammmn and says something like hello. I respond back and this guy loses his mind.
"uh uh i thought you were cute and you got that little dimple but you've got an accent too!! No i definitely need to talk to you!"
So that night we danced some, spoke some - he was out with his sister and her friends so tried to keep her happy to (yes it was his sister) lol). and he took my friends number as mine wasn't working. For some reason we didn't speak the remainder of my trip but a month later my friend tells me that guy from the states is messaging me so i text him from my number- we txt briefly, exchange instagrams and fade into nothingness.
Now fast forward to recent times - we've added each other on snapchat, he adds me on linkedin blah.
Then a couple weeks ago that changes and we've been talking.
And y'aaaallll this guy is just. I literally look at my phone thinking "NO but who sent you?!"
He's educated, aaamazing career, ambitious, fine, built, funny, intelligent, warm.
He is beyond my type not just to date but has the preliminary qualities of what i want in a husband.
Even trivial boxes he ticks.
I ask him best thing about his body, this guy goes "my hands...i can pretty much take of myself out in the wilderness, build stuff you name it" Now he doesn't know i have a thing about hands for that exact reason. And our convos are like that - his answers are tailored exactly to my specific wants and needs. If this was an exam I would be convinced someone gave him the answers and he was dumb enough to copy them word for word. He even remembers what i wore that night like bruh.
I'm moving to Switzerland next week so who knows what that might bring but daaamnnn I sure do hope the universe has us crossing paths again.
So the universe had no objections and it looks like I'm flying to the States to spend Labour day weekend and some change with him...
I'm actually laughing to myself as I type this. What in the hell am I doing?!
We have a little routine down pat where we skype once a week and check in during the week. 7hours time difference is a b but he calls on the dot (i've usually slept through the first batch of ringing) and speaking to him early in the morning always brightens up my day.
Due to my emotional unavailability ( i crave for a relationship but true intimacy frightens me), him being far away is great. I have more control over the situation, my emotions and my expectations. I've always said I could never have a LDR but having looked at my dating history my ex's have always had high pressurised jobs requiring time away or long hours working. Them not being freely available gave structure to the relationship and managed my expectations.
I digress.
I'm so excited!!! Yet nervous! What if he doesn't think I'm pretty? What if he's a complete douch? What if I fall for him?
I'll be back with updates ...
SO I joined Tinder to meet new people and make new friends here. And apparently telling a guy you want NOTHING but his friendship is an odd concept for men. I've made it clear on my profile and have met up with a few guys who have showed me around even taken me hiking andfor the first time in a while they bring up my 'relationship status'. I know tinder is a dating site but to me its whatever you want it to be and if a man wants to waste his time entertaining me in a new city that's his problem - I'm having a whale of a time.
These are all on or post hanging out
Guy A"So, are you single?"
me " Yep with no intention of dating"
Guy A " why is that?"
me " It doesn't interest me, just looking to make new friends here"
Guy A " yeah but you never know when love might cross your path"
me *Side eyeeeeeeee*
Guy B " But I like you? why are you being stubborn? what the worst that could happen? Give me a try?"
Guy C "But you never know? Lets just see where it goes?"
Me: "But i don't want it to go anywhere"
Guy C " Wow
Funnnnnyyyyyy as hell. Men and their ego can't fathom a woman just wanting their friendship and a woman dictating the rules of engagement. Its liberating. It honestly is.