@CoiledOrchids your wise beyond your years. I believe people have to put boundaries and if folks no matter who doesn’t flow we must correct or deny access. It’s taken a lot of time and money on fixing me. No one cares either your expected to be solid or your tossed aside in society. So many yrs even now that I have had to invest effort in correcting trauma.
Family is often the most deadly bc family. In my christian days one sermon noted Satan gets closest by the use of family bc of the programming ie oh well that’s just aunt Hattie but truly if she wasn’t aunt you would be direct that she is out of pocket. I see memes of folks passively getting back like oh aunt Hattie tried to talk about my wig or weight but I asked her about where her hair is? Like it’s so much.
Making friends in this era is funny. Some say do xyz but let’s be honest most aren’t open. They pose and posture. I joined jr league and after the orientation I was like not my people. I’m allergic to fraud and it’s like I do it for work too much I’m not doing it for free.
