Hey, congratulations on getting your driver's license! I so love this for you! So much freedom is coming your way :love:
thank you @ItsMeLilLucky! I'm saving up for a car but i'm so happy I ended up getting my license a few days before christmas. It's great knowing that I can drive myself places and not have to take the bus. Things are slowly looking up for me, which is really all I've been wanting.

2024 is off to a great start!
 
I've done my laundry for the upcoming week. Tomorrow is sunday and i'm gonna relax. I already have my outfit for work on monday ironed and ready.

hair-wise: I miss the ease of locs. I don't regret combing them out since I wanted a smaller set (microlocs started with braids and interlocked)
I'm still indecisive about it. SMH. I'll just wear knotless braids until I decide what I really want.

This year I wanna prioritize saving money so to do that i've been transferring a set amount biweekly to savings. I have an online shopping addiction to amazon that i'm trying to fix.
 
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@CoiledOrchids i just love your posts!
@Evolving78 thanks for the nice compliment!

I am just loving my 30s. I'm working towards a career and once I get my nursing degree I wanna travel and take nice vacations. I definitely want to relocate in the future, after I finish my masters degree. I wanna live somewhere warm, near the beach. I hate snow.

I'm going to a country music concert in may! and I'll definitely be going to the baseball games when the season starts.

I realized that I do like going out, I just do my best to go late morning/early afternoon.

I'm learning now how to drive in the snow and it's not fun lol This weather is so annoying. I definitely need some sun and I'm so jealous of yall that live in the south. Yall get good weather year round.
 
@Evolving78 thanks for the nice compliment!

I am just loving my 30s. I'm working towards a career and once I get my nursing degree I wanna travel and take nice vacations. I definitely want to relocate in the future, after I finish my masters degree. I wanna live somewhere warm, near the beach. I hate snow.

I'm going to a country music concert in may! and I'll definitely be going to the baseball games when the season starts.

I realized that I do like going out, I just do my best to go late morning/early afternoon.

I'm learning now how to drive in the snow and it's not fun lol This weather is so annoying. I definitely need some sun and I'm so jealous of yall that live in the south. Yall get good weather year round.
I live in the Midwest, so yeah the snow is no joke!! lol
 
Look out. Cicadas are coming this spring. And apparently 2 broods are making their appearance so it’s going to extra gross and noisy in some parts of the country. :barf: There are pics in the article if it affects some.

Billions of cicadas will buzz this spring as two broods emerge at the same time​

JANUARY 21, 20242:23 PM ET

Much of the eastern United States can prepare for what one entomologist described as a "spectacular, macabre Mardi Gras" this spring.

The event Jonathan Larson, an extension entomologist at the University of Kentucky, is referring to is the simultaneous emergence of two cicada broodsthat will erupt in states from Virginia to Illinois come late April through June.

Periodical cicadas, which have the longest known insect life cycle, spend most of their life underground in an immature nymph form before surfacing from the ground every 13 or 17 years for a brief adult life. A brood constitutes multiple species of cicadas that merge on the same cycle.

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"It's like a graduating class that has a reunion every 17 or 13 years," says Gene Kritsky, professor emeritus of biology at Mount St. Joseph University and author of A Tale of Two Broods: The 2024 Emergence of Periodical Cicada Broods XIII and XIX.

Brood X Cicadas Are Busy And So Are The Scientists Who Study Them

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Brood X Cicadas Are Busy And So Are The Scientists Who Study Them

Although cicadas are a valuable food source for birds and small mammals, in large numbers their deafening calls can be annoying and their carcasses littering the ground can be a nuisance. The last time the Northern Illinois Brood emerged 17 years ago, "they were out in such abundant numbers that Chicagoans were having to remove them with shovels, to clear sidewalks and roads," said Floyd Shockley, an entomologist and the collections manager for the Department of Entomology at the National Museum of Natural History.

The last time the two broods — Brood XIX and Brood XIII — emerged simultaneously was in 1803. Shockley says their surfacing makes for an "extremely rare, once-in-a-lifetime event."

Brood XIX, known as the Great Southern Brood, contains four species of cicadas and emerges only every 13 years. The Northern Illinois Brood, or Brood XIII, is on a 17-year cycle and contains three species of cicadas.

Shockley says the Great Southern Brood will start appearing in late April through the first or second week of May across 15 states, mostly in the South, running from Virginia and into Alabama and Mississippi.

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No, You Don't Need To Be Worried Your Dog (Or Cat) Is Eating Cicadas

As for the Northern Illinois Brood, Shockley says people will start to see these cicadas closer to mid-May through the first week of June. The brood will be highly concentrated across four states, including Illinois, parts of Wisconsin, Indiana, and a bit of Michigan.

Across the east, Kritsky says, "we'll probably see billions of cicadas" due to the dual emergence of the two broods. While you may hear or see cicadas in your area well into September, the periodical cicadas will die off by June, their song replaced by annually occurring cicadas for the rest of the summer.

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Once the ground reaches the optimal temperature of 64 degrees Fahrenheit, the insects find their way to nearby trees and shed their skins, Kritsky said. It takes about four to five days for the adult males to start singing, but once they do, their songs can be louder than a jet engine.

The male cicadas "produce this chorus that attracts the females to the trees," says Larson. "Then they'll pair up and have courtship songs," singing individually to female cicadas in an attempt to persuade them to mate. After mating, the female cicada lays her eggs in a tree and then they die, littering the base of trees and leaving behind what Kritsky describes as a "delicate, rotten Limburger cheese" smell.

The cycle begins all over when the cicada eggs drop from the tree, returning to the ground for another 13 to 17 years. Although they spend years underground in an immature state, the adult lifespan of a cicada ranges only from four to six weeks.

Here Come The Cicadas

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Here Come The Cicadas

"It's pretty much this big spectacular macabre Mardi Gras," says Larson. "It's a lot of singing, lots of paramours pairing up, and then lots of dying."

While the two broods this spring will mostly be separated by time and place, "they will overlap for several weeks," in Illinois, says Shockley. This overlap could result in some Illinois residents hearing all seven species of the two broods singing their cacophonous mating calls together, he says. Additionally, Shockley says the overlap could result in "an extremely rare opportunity for genetic crossing between 13-year cicadas and 17-year cicadas that could lead to the emergence of a new brood."

All the experts NPR spoke with emphasized that the bugs' ephemeral emergence is not harmful to humans or pets. While the sheer amount of them may be shocking if you're in certain high density areas, they won't bite or sting you, says Larson. "Your pets will probably try to eat them," he adds. "And they're going to be OK."

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Shockley added not to spray pesticides on the bugs. The chemicals could impact birds and small mammals that might feed on the cicadas. "Or it could hit non-target things like butterflies and bees that you actually want to have around your home," he says.

While Larson says people may be "disgusted by the situation," he emphasized that it's a unique, beautiful spectacle of nature that you can't encounter elsewhere in the world.

Kritsky described the short-lived emergence of the cicadas as "like having a David Attenborough special in your backyard," referring to the British naturalist and broadcaster. "If you're lucky enough to live in an area where these things are going on, get your kids out there. Watch this."
 
smh guess I can't move to the south. I can still visit and live my best life though!

I heard south carolina was a nice spot to visit. I've been to Raleigh, NC years ago and I liked it and I remember I had the best ice cream at Bruster's.
 
The last time
we had cicadas,
what was almost
as bad as having
them haunting us
was finding their
exoskeletons all
over the place
as if left there
to taunt us.

This is what
the exoskeleton
looks like:
cicada exuviae.jpg

That these empty
shells just hold
on as if alive
instead of falling
in a lifeless
form felt like
I was part
of a horror
movie I never
signed up for.
Yuck!

And this is
a cicada next
to its outer
shell after molting.
Screenshot_20240125_010842.jpg
 
I'm so tired. I want to go to sleep so badly but I can't. I just cry and cry.

I think what another poster said about grieving is correct. I tried so desperately to become attractive to men all for nought. I think men like to feel powerful. I guess they don't feel that way around me because I'm taller than them? Or maybe it's not that. Maybe they just think I'm not attractive. I don't know anymore. It's a mystery.
I wish I knew what it was like for a guy to call me every day. Or be on the phone with me all night. Or take me on romantic dates every few days. I wonder if all those things you dream about as a young girl are real. Maybe I was living in a fantasy. I wouldn't know. All I get is inconsistency.
I wasn't asked for prom so I didn't go. Another Valentine's Day is going to pass without receiving a gift. I've never received one from a guy.
I stopped dating all together. It makes no sense. Nothing ever goes anywhere. Just a big waste of time. This hurts.

Maybe I'm just not meant to be in a relationship.

I feel like my whole world fell apart. My dad died from cancer. His family turned against me. I lost my job. My industry shut down. Can't find another job because my entire work experience is within that field. I'm getting evicted from my apartment. No real friends. No support system. The last guy I dated broke up with me by telling me he thought I only wanted something casual. I've been disappointed by a lot of people within the past year and a half. I'm so lonely.

I think the reason why I wanted a partner so badly was to create my own sense of family. I don't think that will ever happen now. I was thinking of adopting, but I think it's so selfish to purposefully raise a child without a father. Especially since I had one myself.

I'm just waiting until my insurance starts on the 1st so I can get some meds.


I have to get up early tomorrow.
 
@GraceJones I need you to extend yourself a lot of grace right now. Your going through a lot like it’s on the trauma side to me in my grad student opinion but it makes sense why you have been so focused on dating and it’s a gamble because even tho you can put your best effort it’s not guaranteed and that’s a blow to the ego because why did I do all of this some women go under the knife to still be single. I get the sacrifices I gave much yet still single. One thing you should do is stop giving power to men or the illusion of men. Yes there is a lot of fantasy men mostly aren’t wining and dining the avg man and those that do you need to be in those circles to gain access, I use to have a desire for a certain lifestyle I can’t get into that here as it’s frowned upon but know that type of man isn’t your run of the mill dude. Once you release the illusion, work on healing esp the dad part and the lack of support which is huge, your view may change and you will focus on developing a life you want. Dating is not a goal because it’s not fully dependent on you as it takes 2. I’m of the spiritual path and based on a lot my life is leaning towards one that doesn’t get the traditional stuff as my reason for being here isn’t for that. I hope you get some rest.
 
Look out. Cicadas are coming this spring. And apparently 2 broods are making their appearance so it’s going to extra gross and noisy in some parts of the country. :barf: There are pics in the article if it affects some.

Billions of cicadas will buzz this spring as two broods emerge at the same time​

JANUARY 21, 20242:23 PM ET

Much of the eastern United States can prepare for what one entomologist described as a "spectacular, macabre Mardi Gras" this spring.

The event Jonathan Larson, an extension entomologist at the University of Kentucky, is referring to is the simultaneous emergence of two cicada broodsthat will erupt in states from Virginia to Illinois come late April through June.

Periodical cicadas, which have the longest known insect life cycle, spend most of their life underground in an immature nymph form before surfacing from the ground every 13 or 17 years for a brief adult life. A brood constitutes multiple species of cicadas that merge on the same cycle.

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"It's like a graduating class that has a reunion every 17 or 13 years," says Gene Kritsky, professor emeritus of biology at Mount St. Joseph University and author of A Tale of Two Broods: The 2024 Emergence of Periodical Cicada Broods XIII and XIX.

Brood X Cicadas Are Busy And So Are The Scientists Who Study Them

SCIENCE

Brood X Cicadas Are Busy And So Are The Scientists Who Study Them

Although cicadas are a valuable food source for birds and small mammals, in large numbers their deafening calls can be annoying and their carcasses littering the ground can be a nuisance. The last time the Northern Illinois Brood emerged 17 years ago, "they were out in such abundant numbers that Chicagoans were having to remove them with shovels, to clear sidewalks and roads," said Floyd Shockley, an entomologist and the collections manager for the Department of Entomology at the National Museum of Natural History.

The last time the two broods — Brood XIX and Brood XIII — emerged simultaneously was in 1803. Shockley says their surfacing makes for an "extremely rare, once-in-a-lifetime event."

Brood XIX, known as the Great Southern Brood, contains four species of cicadas and emerges only every 13 years. The Northern Illinois Brood, or Brood XIII, is on a 17-year cycle and contains three species of cicadas.

Shockley says the Great Southern Brood will start appearing in late April through the first or second week of May across 15 states, mostly in the South, running from Virginia and into Alabama and Mississippi.

No, You Don't Need To Be Worried Your Dog (Or Cat) Is Eating Cicadas't Need To Be Worried Your Dog (Or Cat) Is Eating Cicadas

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No, You Don't Need To Be Worried Your Dog (Or Cat) Is Eating Cicadas

As for the Northern Illinois Brood, Shockley says people will start to see these cicadas closer to mid-May through the first week of June. The brood will be highly concentrated across four states, including Illinois, parts of Wisconsin, Indiana, and a bit of Michigan.

Across the east, Kritsky says, "we'll probably see billions of cicadas" due to the dual emergence of the two broods. While you may hear or see cicadas in your area well into September, the periodical cicadas will die off by June, their song replaced by annually occurring cicadas for the rest of the summer.

Sponsor Message


Once the ground reaches the optimal temperature of 64 degrees Fahrenheit, the insects find their way to nearby trees and shed their skins, Kritsky said. It takes about four to five days for the adult males to start singing, but once they do, their songs can be louder than a jet engine.

The male cicadas "produce this chorus that attracts the females to the trees," says Larson. "Then they'll pair up and have courtship songs," singing individually to female cicadas in an attempt to persuade them to mate. After mating, the female cicada lays her eggs in a tree and then they die, littering the base of trees and leaving behind what Kritsky describes as a "delicate, rotten Limburger cheese" smell.

The cycle begins all over when the cicada eggs drop from the tree, returning to the ground for another 13 to 17 years. Although they spend years underground in an immature state, the adult lifespan of a cicada ranges only from four to six weeks.

Here Come The Cicadas

SCIENCE

Here Come The Cicadas

"It's pretty much this big spectacular macabre Mardi Gras," says Larson. "It's a lot of singing, lots of paramours pairing up, and then lots of dying."

While the two broods this spring will mostly be separated by time and place, "they will overlap for several weeks," in Illinois, says Shockley. This overlap could result in some Illinois residents hearing all seven species of the two broods singing their cacophonous mating calls together, he says. Additionally, Shockley says the overlap could result in "an extremely rare opportunity for genetic crossing between 13-year cicadas and 17-year cicadas that could lead to the emergence of a new brood."

All the experts NPR spoke with emphasized that the bugs' ephemeral emergence is not harmful to humans or pets. While the sheer amount of them may be shocking if you're in certain high density areas, they won't bite or sting you, says Larson. "Your pets will probably try to eat them," he adds. "And they're going to be OK."

Sponsor Message


Shockley added not to spray pesticides on the bugs. The chemicals could impact birds and small mammals that might feed on the cicadas. "Or it could hit non-target things like butterflies and bees that you actually want to have around your home," he says.

While Larson says people may be "disgusted by the situation," he emphasized that it's a unique, beautiful spectacle of nature that you can't encounter elsewhere in the world.

Kritsky described the short-lived emergence of the cicadas as "like having a David Attenborough special in your backyard," referring to the British naturalist and broadcaster. "If you're lucky enough to live in an area where these things are going on, get your kids out there. Watch this."

Good grief, why oh why must Virginia attract almost every brood?!
 
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