I just wanted to comment on this briefly, as one of my friends said it while being frustrated about her dating life.
Her mother got married at 18 to a man she met in high school. Don't know about her grandmother, but it was another situation like that.
I honestly don't think that in many cases, what our parents and grandparents did is comparable to what we're going through because many of them lived in a society where you were an old maid by 25 AND where the men they were dealing with generally knew that marriage was the expected result if they were dating/courting a woman.
Today, there are so many detours to marriage, it's ridiculous. The dude you've dated since high school might decide he wants to just be free and ho' around for about 5-10 more years instead of putting a ring on it, and suddenly, you're back in the single pool. Or you date and meet folks who want to kick it, chill, be friends with benefits, live together for umpteen years... everything but marriage.
I don't think our mothers and grandmothers had to navigate those kinds of minefields when they met boys/men in school, church or at work. They could just go about their business, date, and expect to marry the men they dated in a reasonable amount of time.
Okay... so that being said, I respect your position though.
I really do and wouldn't want you to do anything that's uncomfortable for you. I just don't think it's valid to say that because our mothers and grandmothers didn't have to "do" anything to get married, that we shouldn't have to either. Different eras, different situations. That's all.