fluffyforever
Well-Known Member
This is a very interesting thread. A lot of what I hear does not take into consideration that times have changed. Those saying that a "real" man takes prides in paying for most everything in their marriage are passing judgement on what manhood is like. Just like people love passing judgement on what womanhood is supposed to be.
The idea that men should foot all or most of the bills in a marriage has been used for centuries to support the idea that men should get better jobs then women and get paid more for doing the same, since men have the burden to support families. How is our society supposed to function if we keep demanding work equality for women, but at the end of the day, "real" men have to foot most of the bills in their marriage? As more women are climbing up the career ladder and leveling out the workfield, the men that fit those manly standards for husbands will have to make even more money than they are. Eventually, where are they going to find those men?
This all day!!! I make more than my SO and always will just because of my career choice. We both do what we love, so I'm not mad that he can't bring more to the table than I can. He's no less of a real man than any other husband that pays 100% of bills.
Now dating is another story. I'm old school when it comes to that. But marriage is when two become one unit. People should do what works for them financially, and definitely have this conversation before marriage. Regarding the situation in the OP, I couldn't do that as the woman. I'm all for equal access to excess funds and working together and having discussions on how it should be spent.