I know most women need for a man to provide for them, but they still need to watch out for themselves. I'm not saying that everyone is going to get a divorce in your lifetime, but the 52% divorce rate doesn't lie. I know too many ladies that let their man "take care" of them only to find that when the marriage goes south the house, credit cards, cars, etc are in his name.
It ok to look at the financial aspects of marriage as a business partnership, but at the end of the day you have to take care of you and what you want out of life. I just feel like I better be safe than sorry.
I know most women need for a man to provide for them, but they still need to watch out for themselves. I'm not saying that everyone is going to get a divorce in your lifetime, but the 52% divorce rate doesn't lie. I know too many ladies that let their man "take care" of them only to find that when the marriage goes south the house, credit cards, cars, etc are in his name.
It ok to look at the financial aspects of marriage as a business partnership, but at the end of the day you have to take care of you and what you want out of life. I just feel like I better be safe than sorry.
That's what I dont get. Always have your own. Your own money, your own cards, your own existence. In the event of a death or divorce you need to be able to handle your business and not miss a beat. Not dazed, confused and incapable of finding work becuase you were all too happy to sit at home while your husband foots the bill for everything. Sure a husband can pay everything if thats what you are looking for...but...dang.
Where are y'all finding these men tho? I have student loans that need to be paid off.
Then she's not really being taken care of. A divorce should not be leaving her destitute and in financial crises.
Name on deed, car title, Roth IRA or 401k being fully funded, emergency savings account, a few CDs, mutual fund etc etc etc
Then she's not really being taken care of. A divorce should not be leaving her destitute and in financial crises.
Name on deed, car title, Roth IRA or 401k being fully funded, emergency savings account, a few CDs, mutual fund etc etc etc
I hope no one bumps this thread 5 years from now and says "Helllp, my husband left me for a gay White man and nothing is in my name!! How did this happen?"
Becuase I will DIE!!
oh @honeybee yes, he's great. I know you all would love him.
Anyway, a conversation with my SO put this in perspective, we're likely coming from different vantage points. There are a lot of variables. We all have different goals/needs/standards in life. It could very well be that for the type of life that I want for myself and my children, your husband would absolutely suck as a provider. But it doesn't matter because I wouldn't marry a man like that. As long as you're happy, I'm happy for you.
Lol at "toil". He also told me to stop arguing with basic broads looking for a come up. I thought he was being harsh, but he might have been right.
That could be done while stuff is lovey dovey, but trust me when the d word is said, it becomes hatred and discord. Things get moved into family members names and assets are fought over.
That could be done while stuff is lovey dovey, but trust me when the d word is said, it becomes hatred and discord. Things get moved into family members names and assets are fought over.
I don't think this is as common as people think. My bil tried it. I mean REALLY tried it with my sister. But in the end (and yes, there is a gap period where a woman could have nothing to live on if she doesn't have access to her own money), the law is the law. She got half of everything plus attorney's fees. When the house sells, she will get half the proceeds. There are certain things you just can't skirt when it comes to the law.
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My dad did it to my mom with my uncles help. I did it to my ex when we got divorced lol. It happens.
You would laugh at something like that?
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How is he going move it out of your account though? That's not possible
DH can move anything into my accounts at all times but only my name is on it so unless my credit union wants a lawsuit filed they are not going to allow a non authorized user to withdraw funds.
Either they had terrible attorneys, a biased judge, or they didn't know what was going on. You can't just take money or property in preparation for a divorce and get away with it unless the other person is clueless and the judge doesnt care. At least not in my state.
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Is this some peoples real personality showing?
Why are people SO mad and upset about women saying they want a man to foot the homes bills? Like REALLY mad about it.
Is this some peoples real personality showing?
Why are people SO mad and upset about women saying they want a man to foot the homes bills? Like REALLY mad about it.
I found him in Piggly Wiggly over some apples tall slim thing
Now I will say I keep my name out there in my industry not in the event of divorce but if we stick to two littlies I plan to get back in by the time DS is about 6. I get new certifications and go to conferences when I can and keep in touch with vendors and my old company so if they have an opening or I need a reference they'll be more than happy to oblige.
I love the field I'm in and different jobs there are that I can do. Even with me taking out time to focus on being a mother, it won't count against me later in life.
That is how you have it set up. But the people with joint accts their spouse can take the money out anytime without your consent.
I dont see any angry people.
Or the husband could stop paying the mortgage, change the address and numbers on the bill/bills. File for divorce, let her deal with the foreclosure or not.
Then you must have some people on ignore...because the shade and rudeness is crystal clear.
That is how you have it set up. But the people with joint accts their spouse can take the money out anytime without your consent.
Why put your name on the mortgage though? LOL name on deed leave the mortgage to him