Why is a middle class or higher household considered unicorn on here? Are we using different definitions of unicorn? Isn't unicorn exceptional? Is middle class the norm?
I miss Zaynab.
He will have half left over; some of his income can go to savings as well. They don't have to clear it every month.
I miss Zaynab.
I love her but I got a kick out of people on the other side of the debate saying they wished she were here. We all know what she would say and how she would say it.
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So he gotta pay for everything and then put what's leftover in savings while she lives the high life with all her money?
So he gotta pay for everything and then put what's leftover in savings while she lives the high life with all her money?
Shade all up and through this post. Is this what we were referring to?I feel like people are trying to draw distinctions where there are none. At the end of the day, there's no difference btwn contributing to bills vs contributing to savings. How are people going to say it's just "us" and "our money" but then turn around and say "my money" doesn't go towards bills. I think couples do that to maintain the appearance of traditional gender roles, while other people can just call a spade a spade.
And if you're working and not contributing any of the money you make, whether its savings or otherwise, to your household income I find it odd that you're intentionally withholding your money from the benefit of your family, and I question your priorities.
Shade all up and through this post. Is this what we were referring to?
Shade all up and through this post. Is this what we were referring to?
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Scenerio (Not me I jacked this from somewhere else)
Me and my girlfriend have some disagreements in how to split bills IF we were to get married. The way I think bills should be split is in the ratio of the incomes. She takes home $3100/month and I take home $6200/month. So, if our joint expenses hypothetically would be $3500/month then this is the way I would do it. 50% of each paycheck would go to savings (this %tage would be adjusted later depending future expenses - kids etc.)
Her contribution to bills: $1150 (around 33%), to savings: $1550, remainder: $400
My contribution to bills: $2350 (67%), to savings: $3100, remainder: $750
The remainder is a discretionary expense for each person to spend on their personal interests/hobbies etc. Now, she takes offense to the fact that I get to have $750 in spending money and she gets only $400. She says it should be equal regardless of who makes more or less IF we were to be married.
What do you guys think? I have many more hobbies than she does.
Yes he is paying a larger percent of the household bills- BUT isn't she contributing a larger percentage of her check to the household accounts?
Math people figure that out.
I teach English.
I see what you're saying and I don't disagree. I believe in one pot so who pays what is not extremely relevant to me personally.
I just don't like this guy's attitude. He's too concerned about her paying "her share". I just don't see marriage that way and I couldn't deal with that. It may be semantics but...don't ever come to me with a breakdown of what I'm supposed to be paying for.
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That's probably a good thing.
Question for those that believe this set up is fair: how would you feel if you had to pay the same % of taxes as the person in a higher tax bracket? How do you feel about the Republicans proposal for flat taxes.
Question the believe this set up is fair: how would you feel if you had to pay the same % of taxes as the person in a higher tax bracket? How do you feel about the Republicans proposal for flat taxes.
How is he coming up wheb she makes half of what he does? He's failing if that's his plan.
So he gotta pay for everything and then put what's leftover in savings while she lives the high life with all her money?
SincerelyJane, Some men are proud to be able to provide for their women and do so happily.Lol but am I wrong though? I'm just being honest. I don't know that these ladies understand what they're implying. Why sequester your income away from the benefit of your family? That is questionable behavior and if your husband is just gonna sit and let it ride then he's probably not very bright.
And yes, that was shade