Ok, so here's another side of this. I'm going to try to articulate this so that it makes sense, so bear with me, y'all:
I think a lot of women (in general) are hung up on WHO pays what and not exactly how much money is being put out by both. A lot of the women here have stated that the man pays the big things (mortgage, car note, utilities, etc) but the woman will contribute her salary to the savings account. So in the end, aren't BOTH your salaries going towards the household? Your savings will be used by the both of you. So essentially, you BOTH are contributing to the household financially, it's just that HIS money is being used right away towards monthly bills. Because if your family's immediate needs are based on his salary, and you selfishly decide you no longer want to contribute to the family's savings (and do whatever with your money), then I'm pretty sure your DH may have something to say about that. No, you aren't paying the immediate bills, but you're taking away the safety net that was the savings.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, you're still contributing financially to the household, whether you want to call it that or not. And it's okay.
ETA: I think some women (myself included) get hung up on just wanting to say "Well, my man pays all the bills." When in reality, I'm contributing financially as well just not with major bill payments.