SleekandBouncy
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hothair said:I have grew up in one and know over 20 families (off the top of my head) like these. If a dude is going to mess with another woman, he will - but bringing that mess and confusion into mine and my children's lives to deal with on a daily basis. The argument in our particular circumstance is that Islam allows a man to have up to four wives - yeah I read that verse it gives a list of things you can do as a good Muslim including taking in orphans. It says you MAY marry another wife (if you need to) to help care for those orphans; it also goes on to say HOWEVER [the convenient bit the dudes leave out] you cannot marry more than one wife UNLESS YOU CAN TREAT THEM ALL EQUALLY. Now i've got two dogs and cannot treat them equally so...and I sure don't remember any orphans in my house.
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Unfortunately many men conveniently overlook the rest of the passage and women allow it. Next thing, some chick is hoodwinked into it, dude just wanted nookie on the side without god's scorn and now he's not providing properly or equally or at worst there's fighting or bickering amongst the wives/children. I knew a woman who's husband had 2 wives, she provided for the family and last I saw her husband was still coming home each evening to take $600 or so from her. Both were very religious and his justification for his 2nd wife was religious scripture.
My issue with certain religious passages, is that when it comes to the perks of manhood it's often taken out of context and the associated rules are often ignored. I feel like some stuff is conveniently "vague" as to allow delibrate misinterpretation and most of the religious leaders esp. in traditional cultures/countires are still men so of course most men are going to back each other up. That is why it's so important to have women AND men as decision makers because humans are very easily corrupted, balance keeps everyone in check.
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