I just had to say this about my relationships with my "girlfriends". I am just now widening out more in my search for good friends. Well I have two that I went out with yesterday and as we were talking one described the man she's dating as "goofy". The other described this guy that has wined and dined her and treated her like a queen as "Stupid". Their outings have been dinner cruises, suites at baseball games, dancing under the stars, walks along the beach....need I say more. What it boils down too is that each of these ladies is dating someone that is not their ideal "type" of man. In fact, they view them as a "fixerupper". Like a broke down car that needs to be "pimped out".
I have found that although I enjoy associating with other women and doing "girly nights out" I don't often enjoy the conversation that shows me the true hearts of my friends. I would say that both of them are kind people and prior to discussing men with them I would have viewed them as "mature" (early 30's).
But after hearing my fellow black women disrespect two seemingly kind, intelligent black men....I lost RESPECT for them. On the way home, I called my man and he said what did you say when they asked you to describe me? I told him truthfully, "I said you were my dream come true and even with the ups and downs you're the best person I know". I could hear his smile over the phone.
But the truth is...that's the way I really feel. It was sad to hear how my friends viewed their men. I wonder what they told them later...?
I have found that although I enjoy associating with other women and doing "girly nights out" I don't often enjoy the conversation that shows me the true hearts of my friends. I would say that both of them are kind people and prior to discussing men with them I would have viewed them as "mature" (early 30's).
But after hearing my fellow black women disrespect two seemingly kind, intelligent black men....I lost RESPECT for them. On the way home, I called my man and he said what did you say when they asked you to describe me? I told him truthfully, "I said you were my dream come true and even with the ups and downs you're the best person I know". I could hear his smile over the phone.
But the truth is...that's the way I really feel. It was sad to hear how my friends viewed their men. I wonder what they told them later...?