NEW MARRIAGE AND 15lbs heavier can u relate?

Choclatcotton

Choclatcotton

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Ok been married for about 7 months, and previously a stick figure, now not Preg but pounds packing on what gives? Oh happily married LOL
 
Yep. I gained 15 in the first 9 months. Then I got pregnant and gained 45 more. I'm still holding on to about 30 total extra lbs. I'm in the middle of big changes but I plan to lose those 30 this year.

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Welcome to being happily married, lol. I have never been skinny but I was always able to lose weight when I wanted to because I was very active. That stopped after I got married and after my daughter I was never able to get back into a groove. I think age+ cooking more+ being less active = the married equivalent of the freshman 15.


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snilloh said:
No I can't relate. Sorry OP. Being "happily married" is not an excuse for packing on the pounds.
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Ouch! And you're not even going to give the op any pointers about rectifying
Her situation? Sure you can't relate, but any constructive pointers at least?
 
metro_qt said:
Ouch! And you're not even going to give the op any pointers about rectifying
Her situation? Sure you can't relate, but any constructive pointers at least?
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I didn't realize she was asking for weightloss pointers. :look:

I assume she recognized her issue and wanted to know if most married women were like her, and my response was no.
 
I'm not married, but it makes sense to me. After going through all of the stress of planning a wedding, I can understand gaining a few after being able to relax & enjoy your new life. And, as for the baby weight, that of course makes sense. There are a lot of you tube channels dedicated to exercises that you can do with your baby. Workout & playtime all in one :)


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I'm newly married but I didn't pack on the pounds, I packed on the pounds while pregnant with my dd a year ago.. Trying to get rid of 25lbs of baby weight...
 
Choclatcotton said:
Ok been married for about 7 months, and previously a stick figure, now not Preg but pounds packing on what gives? Oh happily married LOL
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It's a known fact that a lot of married couples gain weight the first year of marriage.

You're less active and probably staying home more and cooking more.

Perhaps you and your DH can schedule times when you can go for walks together or workout together a few times a week. PLAN more healthier meals, eat out less, drink more water :lol:

I actually lost weight when I was married because now I had my own house and I was more control of the meals I prepared, and I made sure I scheduled exercise almost daily.

Good luck to you.

ETA: My DH gained almost 30 lbs throughout our marriage, but now he's making an effort to exercise more and eat better--although I made healthy meals, I couldn't control what he put in his mouth when he left the house :lol:.

I'm the weight I was when I got married--I had lost about 15 pounds, but now that I'm older putting it back on makes me look better and less gaunt.
 
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I think it's called The Newlywed Nine. Most newlyweds gain about 10 pounds during their new wedded bliss. Be very careful because if you plan to have kids in the first 2 years, you'll be starting off at a 15lb head start to weight gain. That just means more to lose (or keep) after the baby.
 
Are you happy with the weight gain? If not, come join us in the fitness forum. I'm doing P90X but there is something over there for everyone. Women who stay small have usually made an affirmative decision to do so and watch their diet and will exercise.
 
It really is true (though some here don't have that problem). I think the difference for me was that I was living in military dorms and never cooked. When we married cooking and pregnant and not being as active got me. I've been married 17 years. I gained 15 and packed on 30lbs with my DD lost only 1/2 of that, then four years later had my second DD and gained 25-30 more. After my youngest was 1 yr, I lost all of the weight and when I started a new job, started gaining it back. I've been on this rollercoaster every since. :perplexed
 
Yes, I relate. I'm probably about 5-7 lbs heavier, but everyone has said that it looks good on me. I lost about 15 lbs when planning for my wedding, so I'm not too concerned. I'm closer to my normal weight.
 
Yes, happened to me. After the divorce I was back to my original weight prior to meeting him...go figure.
 
Same thing happened to both me and my husband. We started into a rhythm of eating and laying up with each other and almost nothing else for a few months.lol. I gained about 20 lbs before I finally realized I didn't actually look as cute as i thought i did in my delusion head.:look:
It was so bad that I even got stretch marks. My frame can't allow extra weight,and those marks pushed me over the edge. I started on a weightloss mission and dropped half of the extra weight in a month. I'm currently about 3 lbs away from my goal weight.I reduced the stretch marks too thank goodness!!! If I could do it again,I would have still tried to enjoy our new little time together,but I would have taken. better care of my body.
 
Thanks ladies for your advice and input, Honey Comb I appreciate your advice. Ms Janda thanks for the invite will have to look into that post. I am thinking of starting to jump rope and hula hoop. Its freezin cold here so cant go walking out side yet but maybe in the Spring/Summer.:yep:
 
ladybeesrch said:
Same thing happened to both me and my husband. We started into a rhythm of eating and laying up with each other and almost nothing else for a few months.lol. I gained about 20 lbs before I finally realized I didn't actually look as cute as i thought i did in my delusion head.:look:
It was so bad that I even got stretch marks. My frame can't allow extra weight,and those marks pushed me over the edge. I started on a weightloss mission and dropped half of the extra weight in a month. I'm currently about 3 lbs away from my goal weight.I reduced the stretch marks too thank goodness!!! If I could do it again,I would have still tried to enjoy our new little time together,but I would have taken. better care of my body.
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Off topic: How did you reduce stretchmarks???
 
A friend gained 60lbs her first year.

A family member gained 80 pounds in two years.

Neither one did anything as they gained the weight. The family member finally got off the "shot" birch control and lost half the weight instantly. The rest she is now exercising away.

The friend still isn't doing anything to lose the 60lbs she gained in one year.

I think it's a combination of the pill, laying around and eating carryout too often.

We keep a scale in the bathroom and weigh in, if we go up a few pounds, I change our meals to less carbs, more protein, fruit and greens. My DH eats mostly lean meats and greens and he actually lost weight by marrying me. (lol) He recently gained a little weight and he figured out it was the fast food he was eating on break at work. So he put a stop to that and started drinking way more water and I pack him more healthy snacks to munch on. We look great!

So while it may be "normal" it doesn't have to be "normal" for you. We try to get 20-30 minutes of cardio in per day, and usually make 3 days out of 5. Then we walk and do fun stuff on the weekends. But it was up to me as the woman to kinda set the example of how things were going to go, foodwise.
 
metro_qt said:
Ouch! And you're not even going to give the op any pointers about rectifying
Her situation? Sure you can't relate, but any constructive pointers at least?
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The OP did not ask for pointers, and most grown folks know that diet and exercise are the key to losing weight...Some people just want to be offended for the sake of being offended.
 
snilloh said:
I didn't realize she was asking for weightloss pointers. :look:

I assume she recognized her issue and wanted to know if most married women were like her, and my response was no.
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I agree. You said nothing wrong. Some people just want to be offended over every little thing. :rolleyes:
 
Most of my weight gain came after having children, but right after my wedding dh and I both gained 5 or 10 pounds each (can't remember exact amount anymore). We gained on our honeymoon eating fried catfish for dinner and waffles for breakfast lol. It was so worth it :yep:, we had a wonderful honeymoon. If I recall we took it off pretty quickly. You just gotta stay on top of it. Good luck!
 
TLC1020 said:
I'm newly married but I didn't pack on the pounds, I packed on the pounds while pregnant with my dd a year ago.. Trying to get rid of 25lbs of baby weight...
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This is me exactly, still hanging on to 20lb of baby weight, but mine is also work and the on calls, working 35 - 56hrs straight is not easy, tend skip meals and pick up stuff as I go along, and eat at odd times.
 
I've been about the same weight for many years but I hear that a lot of newlyweds put on weight, or those who lost weight "for the wedding" gained it back the first year. They have all sorts of bridal fitness programs to get brides into tip top shape for the "big day". It's not unusual to put the weight back on after the wedding.
 
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