My husband is indian and says since im black I cant grow my hair long!!!
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mami2010
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Yes it is about 9 inches to go. So it could be a little less than two years if can I can retain all the length thats if i get 6 inches per year.
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Nixx22jam
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Girl....jus give him the side eye then get your grow on. Wear ps so he can't see your growthonce you reach bsl or longer, let the games begin.
Trench coat and a bun
Strip off that coat
Do a bun drop
Use yo hair as a feather all over his body
Spank him with that hair
Spank him some mo
Color him all day and night and do the white girl swing with that hair!
Make him say yo name! In two languages
Ummmmm.......ok you get the picture.
*scribbles furiously onto note pad* girl thanks i didnt kno what I was gonna do with this hair when i get to mbl.
Anaya-Amani
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Snillohsss your hair is beautiful! You kinda remind me of Rissi Palmer, black country singer.
LunadeMiel
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OP I think this is too much. You run the risk of over moisturizing your hair.
mami2010
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Oh really, thanks for the tip. What do u suggest?
I also didnt put light protein treatment once a week, aphogee 2 min. Also, Aphogee 2 step every 2-3 months. My hair has been severely damaged in the past from bleaching and relaxing on top of bleach so i am using the aphogee products he help nurture my hair.
Sorry for the horrible pic...But just need the show the damage my hair been thru.
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LunadeMiel
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Honestly, I think your reggie involves too many steps. Let's take a look
My Regimen:
Shampoo 2x per month - rollerset - This is fine
co wash 1x per week - rollerset - Does this mean you rollerset every week? 4X per month?
DC 1x per week - Airdry - Fine. I would suggest you do a protein focused DC, followed by a moisturzing conditioner. Something like a two step system.
Clarify 1x per month - Airdry - This may be a bit excessive and could end up stripping your hair. Unless you are noticing a lot of residue I don't think you need to clarify this much. Shampooing and focusing on your scalp should take care of it.
Relax 12-16 weeks - Rollerset - Fine, a long as your hair can handle long streches
Whole head baggie 2x per week - You have a lot of moisturizing going on. You may end up with soggy hair.
Moisturize and seal 2x per day - This is too much
PS wigs, sew ins - If your hair is that overprocessed, I would stay away from sew ins. Your stands are already fragile so a sew in may cause too much stress on your hair.
I am trying to keep it as simple as possible.
Be careful with using too much protein, it will make your hair brittle and prone to breakage. Most importantly monitor your hair. You may need to adjust your regimen as you go along.
Anaya-Amani
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Go to Sally's & get this conditioner:
I've been using it since 1993, it works wonders for your hair! If u don't want to invest in the $8 tube, u can get the $2 sample pack! Trust me after u try it u will get the tube!
mami2010
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Go to Sally's & get this conditioner:
I've been using it since 1993, it works wonders for your hair! If u don't want to invest in the $8 tube, u can get the $2 sample pack! Trust me after u try it u will get the tube!
Thanks I will look into it next time I return back to the states. I hate it there is no sally's in south america.
mami2010 Didn't know you reside in south america. With our brains here we must be able to come up with a simple regime you can get at a store near you. Do you have a walmart, ulta/sephora or a walgreens there? Or do you get all your products here, I hate running out of product when trying to grow hair
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mami2010
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No walmart, walgreens, nothing much of that nature. They do have some stores that import some products but sometimes they have in stock and sometimes not in stock. So what I usually do is stock up alot everytime i go home to the states. I usually spend about $300 on hair products every time I go. I usually go every 3-4 months. Right now i got a good stash... Should last me about 1 1/2 year. I am so afraid to run out of something I really like using. If I really really need it I will have it shipped in.
My favorite product is Silk Elements and they don't sale that at all here
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SophieDulce
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LOL. What we consider long, and what Indians consider long are to totally different categories, lol. I go to the Asian market and see 3 year olds with pony tails, down to their butts. Also most (not all) Indians have straight hair, and straight almost always appears longer than curly hair... I surprise the hell out of people and pull down on my twist and they see its past my bra(which I don't consider long).
Lucia
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No walmart, walgreens, nothing much of that nature. They do have some stores that import some products but sometimes they have in stock and sometimes not in stock. So what I usually do is stock up alot everytime i go home to the states. I usually spend about $300 on hair products every time I go. I usually go every 3-4 months. Right now i got a good stash... Should last me about 1 1/2 year. I am so afraid to run out of something I really like using. If I really really need it I will have it shipped in.
My favorite product is Silk Elements and they don't sale that at all here
Well maybe we can choose products from ingredients your hair likes. Like give us a list of your regimen so far and include product names, ingredients and we can narrow down what your hair thrives on and you can use that to choose products that will work for you that are available where you live. Also what are the mainstream products where you live and you can use that to compare ingredients and choose products. Hope that made sense.
mami2010
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Yes I have retained some length and better overall hair health! My husband is a really big help now in this journey. He even reminds me at night if I forget to put on my scarf, and does my scalp massages. I really love this lhcf community for all the help and support. Thanks for checking on me!
Excuse the bathroom, wallpaper not complete yet. We just got done building our home and is putting on the finishing touches.
Yes I have retained some length and better overall hair health! My husband is a really big help now in this journey. He even reminds me at night if I forget to put on my scarf, and does my scalp massages. I really love this lhcf community for all the help and support. Thanks for checking on me!
Excuse the bathroom, wallpaper not complete yet. We just got done building our home and is putting on the finishing touches.
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runwaydream
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MyFriend
Yes I have retained some length and better overall hair health! My husband is a really big help now in this journey. He even reminds me at night if I forget to put on my scarf, and does my scalp massages. I really love this lhcf community for all the help and support. Thanks for checking on me!
Excuse the bathroom, wallpaper not complete yet. We just got done building our home and is putting on the finishing touches.
i love, love, LOVE your bedroom!!! it looks so luxurious. you'd have to beat me to get me out of that bed, lol.
your hair looks like its coming along very well. it looks nice and healthy.
mami2010
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runwaydream
Thanks! Girl I hate getting out the bed sometimes especially with the atlantic ocean behind our house. :relaxing:
czyfaith77
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I just came in to read a little. But, I want to add that it has been a while since I have really been on LHCF regularly (I took a hiatus) but, I have to really say we have some wonderful women on here. I like the supportive words and encouragement that I have been seeing on here with a lot of the ladies. It was like that before but in times past ( and I am sure it still exist and some other parts of the forum) there had been a lot of cattiness, rudeness, ignorance, and so forth but I really glad to see this group of ladies really do best what women can and should do and that is support and encourage one another. Have a wonderful day ladies, keep doing what you do and keep encouraging what we all need to do and that is take special care of ourselves for as wives, mothers, sisters, friends, career orientated, students and just women in general we do alot and we give alot and if we don't love and support ourselves, then who will. Much love ladies!
And to the OP, just do the doggone thang! You know what and how your husband said what he said. You can act and respond to as your feel you should because only you know what was said, who it is from, and how you perceived it. Regardless, take it with a grain of salt . Don't wear your feelings on your shoulders. Stay focused and keep it moving. My husband sometimes say things. However, with me knowing him, I have learned not to take it the way it just comes out. Sometimes what he says does have some truth however, sometimes he is not as tactful as I would be with words. He is Ghanaian. Smiling..and I have also learned to check him on it by expressing myself tactfully and honestly about about how I perceived it. I am tactful and careful because I still like to hear what he has to say and do not want him to totally shut down and feel like he can't communicate with me. However, when he talks to me he now considers what he is saying and how he is saying it. I have learned not to react so eagerly as I may have perceived it wrong. It is interesting though.....Smiling Part of it is a men's thing with communication and in my case some of it it is part culture too as I have talked to some of the women and some of them will say we just say what we have to say. Again, you know what and how it was said and you do what you have to do and still remain true to you. Keep it moving girl, you can do it!
And to the OP, just do the doggone thang! You know what and how your husband said what he said. You can act and respond to as your feel you should because only you know what was said, who it is from, and how you perceived it. Regardless, take it with a grain of salt . Don't wear your feelings on your shoulders. Stay focused and keep it moving. My husband sometimes say things. However, with me knowing him, I have learned not to take it the way it just comes out. Sometimes what he says does have some truth however, sometimes he is not as tactful as I would be with words. He is Ghanaian. Smiling..and I have also learned to check him on it by expressing myself tactfully and honestly about about how I perceived it. I am tactful and careful because I still like to hear what he has to say and do not want him to totally shut down and feel like he can't communicate with me. However, when he talks to me he now considers what he is saying and how he is saying it. I have learned not to react so eagerly as I may have perceived it wrong. It is interesting though.....Smiling Part of it is a men's thing with communication and in my case some of it it is part culture too as I have talked to some of the women and some of them will say we just say what we have to say. Again, you know what and how it was said and you do what you have to do and still remain true to you. Keep it moving girl, you can do it!
czyfaith77
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lamorenita I smiled when I read one of your previous post because I was thinking of the face my husband has when I flat ironing. I can't explain it but it looks as in his mind he is saying "I'm in love" or some kinda mesmerized look. I am looking at him like "Really? All because of some hair." Most of the time I am in a sew in though. But that look never changes. And it is funny because he says it doesn't phase fim how I wear it. But it is written all over his face every time....
mami2010
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Yes, I agree with you about the culture thing! My husband is Guyanese and if anyone know about Guyana they would understand. People don't hold their tongue at all. Even when they know they are wrong, they think they are right. lol
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Successfulmiss
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My husband is PR and he is the only one that encouraged me to grow my hair long and it's currently APL/natural at the moment. If he wouldnt have encouraged me, I may not have done it. It may be more then a hair issue your husband is dealing with. I think your dh needs to dig deep sweetie. God bless you, your marriage and your hair journey.
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mami2010
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My husband is PR and he is the only one that encouraged me to grow my hair long and it's currently APL/natural at the moment. If he wouldnt have encouraged me, I may not have done it. It may be more then a hair issue your husband is dealing with. I think your dh needs to dig deep sweetie. God bless you, your marriage and your hair journey
Successfulmiss
Thanks! We are looking forward to opening a salon next year. He is very encouraging with my journey now. He helps me with my scalp massages and I help him put up his targets when he shoot. lol we really have a great marriage.
mami2010
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Thanks! I am trying to make it to apl by the end of this year.
JazzyOleBabe
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Keep up the good work. My cousin's husband is Guyanese. His family did not live too far from Jonestown massacre. We love him dearly.
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