My husband is indian and says since im black I cant grow my hair long!!!

Awww, if DH is kind in all other respects, I'm sure he just wasn't thinking when he spoke.
mami2010 If your mother and sis have long hair, why would he think BW can't grow long hair?
 
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My Friend said:
Girl....jus give him the side eye then get your grow on. Wear ps so he can't see your growth :spinning: once you reach bsl or longer, let the games begin.

Trench coat and a bun :yep:

Strip off that coat :blush:

Do a bun drop :blush:

Use yo hair as a feather all over his body :blush:

Spank him with that hair :blush:

Spank him some mo :blush:

Color him all day and night and do the white girl swing with that hair! :blush:

Make him say yo name! In two languages :lachen:


Ummmmm....... :look: ok you get the picture.
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Girl you is so nassstee....I likes!
 
We plan on sitting down together tomorrow night and going thru the forum so he can gain some knowledge about black people and hair growth. He is Indian so he is into building computers and stuff like that so, I don't knock him if he don't have the knowledge. He will surely gain it soon. I will also show him some of the luscious locks floating around.
 
Ummm, that was rude. Not to mention ignorant. Any person of any race can grow long hair if they put their mind to it. Race aside he should believe in you because you are his wife.:look: Oh well. If he's a good husband in all other ways I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Good luck on your LHHJ and we're here for you!
 
No need to show him any of the pictures on here.

Just take care of your hair and body and let him see the best that your hair can do. :yep:
 
My SO is INdian and he's seen pics of me with my hair long and I cut it short shortly after we met so we're both looking forward to it growing back together. Regarding your husband's comment, I cant really get mad since I myself dont see a plethora of black women with long hair unless I log on here. I've had discussions about black women's hair with not only my SO but his friends & trying to educate them more because they were really curious. It's great your DH is curious and he can learn while you take part in your hair care journey alongside you.
 
You know your husband better than anyone else here so you are the best person to determine what DH meant by his statement. As some have mentioned already, plenty of Black men and women believe the same thing. This is a great opportunity to educate and to get yourself on track as well. I am glad you didn't fly off the handle because of his comment. How will he know if someone doesn't show him?
 
mami2010 said:
Last night I told my husband I will be growing my hair out to bra strap length. He said no that is not possible. Black people cant grow hair long. I told him yes it is possible. Umm I think I am even more motivated to grow out my hair now. I got my notebook ready and starting to really get this hair growing thing down because I know it is possible thanks to this forum. I have been stocking up on products since Januray 2011. I have most of aphogee products, silk elements (by way I love silk elements leave in moisturizer smells so good), I have my castor oil stocked up (5 bottles lol), Hot six oil, WGO, EVOO, EVCO, Henna, Indigo and so much more. I have so much stuff in stock because I now live in South America and to find the good stuff here is not really possible so, when I do travel back to the states I really stock up. So I am now really to take this journey full blast.

I wanted to wait till we move into our new home but because he is doubting me its on now. I think he could be saying that to motivate me more. I envy his hair and my daughters hair. Soon I will envy my own hair. I all thank you ladies on this forum for giving me the knowledge to start my journey. I have been working on my hair since I joined this forum in November 2010 and it is on the right path now. My hair was cut in May 2011 to get rid of some damage. It was so thin but now its looks alot fuller since I cut it.

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OP... good luck with your hair care journey and do it for you, not to prove a point to DH. HHG!
 
hair4romheaven said:
This thread will go many places here on the "present" LHCF. I know black men who have said this. Whatever no big deal... Grow your healthy head of hair and all of those products truly won't make it happen faster. Take care of your self from within and it will show on the outside.
HHG and keep us updated on your new journey! ;-) tell him to put up some prizes for goals reached and make it fun. LOL
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I agree with the bolded. It sounds like you will be using lots of products. What will he say then ? Black women need loads of products to grow hair?
As the above poster said....take care of your body and please don't become a product junkie on an endless search for the magic bullet.
 
Geez, guys. This is the lady's husband we're talking about. We sure as heck don't know him, and out of respect to the OP, we should at least soften our tone and not pass judgement. The only person who knows the intentions behind the the husband's words better than anyone else here is the OP.
 
My Friend said:
Girl....jus give him the side eye then get your grow on. Wear ps so he can't see your growth :spinning: once you reach bsl or longer, let the games begin.

Trench coat and a bun :yep:

Strip off that coat :blush:

Do a bun drop :blush:

Use yo hair as a feather all over his body :blush:

Spank him with that hair :blush:

Spank him some mo :blush:

Color him all day and night and do the white girl swing with that hair! :blush:

Make him say yo name! In two languages :lachen:


Ummmmm....... :look: ok you get the picture.
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:lachen: :lachen::lachen:

These are added to my to do list! :look: :lol:
 
Call his bluff. I'm posting a dozen different YTubers so you have some good examples of what healthy haircare can do for anyone.



LeobodyC5
http://www.youtube.com/user/LeobodyC5#p/c/69A3AAFAB00BD571/3/E9oOrIT83P0

http://www.youtube.com/user/LeobodyC5#p/u/36/MgIn6OG3CYs

Longhairdontcare
http://www.youtube.com/user/Longhairdontcare2011

Irris
http://www.youtube.com/user/IRRISISTABLBTCH#p/u/6/NCUVPksA_vk

Sylver
http://www.youtube.com/user/sylver2

songsofjoy-no vids just the background pic

KimmayT
http://www.youtube.com/user/kimmaytube#p/u/4/_1b5_XLegUY

http://www.youtube.com/user/kimmaytube#p/u/5/8db1nhP_oAk

Moptopmaven
http://www.youtube.com/user/MopTopMaven#p/u/12/ppY5S0cBwyM


Naptural85
http://www.youtube.com/user/Naptural85

http://www.youtube.com/user/Naptural85#p/u/0/szp1DdV0Rm8

Chellywellzshop
http://www.youtube.com/user/chellywellzshop#p/u/31/gG_Tz2o1nic

Mlle Cafeaulait
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOtRT_1aD0M&feature=feedrec_grec_index

http://www.youtube.com/user/MlleCafeAuLait#p/u/4/MX7f8jJgWJU

http://www.youtube.com/user/MlleCafeAuLait#p/u/8/bTbhiWAEpJg


Taren
http://www.youtube.com/user/taren916#p/u/2/49vbeS7vONY

Stelladata
http://www.youtube.com/user/stelladata#p/u/14/jPuSrOHKXDs

DOrient
http://www.youtube.com/user/TheDorient#p/u/1/aykIesjT_oM

Richeau
http://www.youtube.com/user/richeau#p/a/u/0/aQgY_NlgxNY

http://www.youtube.com/user/richeau#p/u/4/y51CjWpiNHs

Haircrush
http://www.youtube.com/user/HairCrush#p/u/22/da8u_TxphJU

http://www.youtube.com/user/HairCrush#p/u/18/sFMkR6MZgOY

http://www.youtube.com/user/HairCrush#p/u/19/p8uBpeVhFPY

http://www.youtube.com/user/HairCrush#p/u/6/AVotrFMm5T4

Amoremusica
http://www.youtube.com/user/amoremusica#p/u/2/WIPo_tFCBRk

Kinkycurly founder Shelley
http://www.youtube.com/user/KinkyCurlyHairCare#p/a/u/2/_JkWd-MyVdE

SophistecatedMamma
http://www.youtube.com/user/SOPHISTICATEDMMAMA#p/u/52/UOqyUjaie58

Tais Araujo-brazilian Actress
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OpOra7EGhMQ&feature=mh_lolz&list=WLC0DB6EAF84F4CC71


Andrea's choice
http://www.youtube.com/user/AndreasChoice

http://www.youtube.com/user/AndreasChoice#p/search/11/7_r7Ii2jSvk
 
A year and a half ago, for many years I had the same thought. I don't think this forum would be so successful if it was common knowledge that black hair can grow.
 
Well the norm for the ladies he saw regularly growing up was probably MBL and beyond. Naturally he would say that. Just hope you don't get so stressed trying too hard to reach your goal. That kinda can hinder your progress. Good luck to you on your journey!
 
Wow...first let me say you MARRIED someone that said that to you???!!! :blush::perplexed What happened to support? I don't care what his reason, lack of knowledge or if it was a "bluff", that was effed up...period...that's all she wrote. Damn!

Now that that's out the way...I hope you do grown hair LONGER than your goal just to prove him wrong-even though you should do it really for you. But yeah...I'm cheering for you.
 
This is a prime example of why it is important to pay attention to how something is said.

It is probably not a good idea to title a thread "My husband is indian and says since im black I cant grow my hair long", on a forum that caters to black women.

The OP made a statement that she is is jealous of her daughters and husband's hair. Unless her husband has long hair, the statement leads me to believe she is jealous of the texture of their hair.

OP, it might be a good idea to get this thread removed so that you will not have to read angry comments about your husband. I think all women should learn from this, especially if your husband is of a different race. Threads like this usually never end well. :perplexed
 
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He's not the first to think this. It is a very common misconception & perhaps one of the primary reasons why this hair forum even exists.... So, why are some people in this thread up in arms & acting brand new? :look:


*clutches pearls* "Oh my! He said that?! How dare he have a common point if view that is part of the reason why I'm on a hair board trying to find the best possible strategies to keep my hair healthy so that it will become long? *humph*"
:rolleyes:

The only way to change this extremely common and false POV is to keep proving them wrong. Good luck OP :)


Sent from my iPhone 4 using LHCF
 
My Friend said:
Girl....jus give him the side eye then get your grow on. Wear ps so he can't see your growth :spinning: once you reach bsl or longer, let the games begin.

Trench coat and a bun :yep:

Strip off that coat :blush:

Do a bun drop :blush:

Use yo hair as a feather all over his body :blush:

Spank him with that hair :blush:

Spank him some mo :blush:

Color him all day and night and do the white girl swing with that hair! :blush:

Make him say yo name! In two languages :lachen:


Ummmmm....... :look: ok you get the picture.
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:giggle: those are nice ...

Can I add a few to the list :giggle:
 
Lucia is right (all of the links). Plus if you are on the hair boards long enough, you'll see stunning heads of hair of all hair types. I was addicted when I first joined because I couldn't get over it, lol :lol:

To be fair, this myth persists for a lot of people. After joining hair boards, my hair grew longer than my family thought possible. I am now aiming for a length that years ago that I used to think was a "fairy tale." I think it's normal to get discouraged, but at least give it a few years without giving up. If it can happen for others, who is to say that it cannot happen for you.

Good luck!
 
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