My Friends GF has banned him from speaking to me......

[Barbie83]

GABulldog, I could go on and on about this too!

I agree that in probably 90% of these cases, the person is keeping an opposite sex friend around to "warm the bench" in case the relationship doesn't work out. But by doing that, you're never really giving the relationship a fighting chance. Yes, committed relationships are hard and scary, but you have to jump in with both feet, or don't jump in at all.

I just don't see the point in keeping others around!

 

[mkd]

My husband and I have never had a conversation about banning friends of the opposite sex. It was kind of understood. When I got married, I made a commitment to my husband and I decided that I would no longer be friends with ex's. To me, it felt messy and disrespectful to my marriage. There didn't seem to be a need for us to continue to communicate with people that we had once been intimate with.

For us, it isn't about control, but about respect for each other, our children and our marriage. There just is not any place in our marriage for "friends" of the opposite sex.

 

[DarkVictory]

If only the girlfriends and wives knew I was the ONLY female friend he has encouraging him to stay with you, not cheat on you, and make it work if its worth it.

Sorry, but speaking as a wife I don't understand this at all. Are you saying the husband has other female friends who are encouraging him to leave/cheat? Or is it that he wants to leave/cheat and you're talking him out of it?

Either way, why do I want him?

I appreciate that you're encouraging him to make it work, but if you're the only reason he's doing that, the marriage is already kaput.

Would feel the same if the genders were reversed. In fact, I can't imagine a man saying, "Hmm, why won't Mr. Jones let me talk to his wife? How insecure!"

 

[sky_blu]

Where is the OP? Lol

Sorry, I was out chillin with the friend I posted about ........


























Joking...but Im still here just staying out of this thread. This thread really hit some nerves.

 

[hopeful]

Sorry, I was out chillin with the friend I posted about ........

Joking...but Im still here just staying out of this thread. This thread really hit some nerves.

Silly!

 

[kayte]

I had male friend also that I had known for many years before marriage and vice versa for DH. But when we made our commitment to each other, part of that commitment was to let our friendships with the opposite sex go because, in most cases, it can complicate the relationship and cause too much drama in the marriage.

traditional wedding vows....

forsaking all others......

that's not just pretty rhetoric..there's a spiritual reasoning
to protect as well as nurture..

 

[kayte]

This thread really hit some nerves

understandable....:Rose:

 

[aribell]

I believe that if these "women" had a man of their own to concentrate on, then they wouldn't have room to think about or try to keep in touch with another woman's man.

Good point!

Would feel the same if the genders were reversed. In fact, I can't imagine a man saying, "Hmm, why won't Mr. Jones let me talk to his wife? How insecure!"

Another good point. They know what the deal is.

 

[NeeSee]

Lord Have Mercy