Ediese
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Ok. I've been meaning to start blogging to keep track of the adventures I'm sure to embark on in my quest to meet the love of my life and get into a healthy, love filled relationship this year. I guess I'll just use this thread.
I'll try to post my dating history sometime this week to give you guys the backstory. For now, let's just say that I've been in love twice in my 27 years of living, once when I was 18
, and again at 25. My ex and I had an on and off relationship for 2 years that recently ended on the day of my graduation last month.
Trust me...everyone around me felt that it should have been over sooner than that, but I couldnt' see it. The good thing is that he's disrespected me for the last time, and I'm moving on. It's been about three weeks that I've stopped talking to him, and he just decided to send me a text the other night. Talking about 'come I come over??' Yea, right!
Enough about that...
This year I'm going to focus on dating for marriage. That means that I'm going to make myself be open minded, and start dating multiple people until I think I've found the one for me. I also intend to force myself to go out more. I'm such a houseflower, and I'm also going to do the online dating thing.
So far, there are five guys that I'm talking to. I've started chatting with four guys from Match.com, and one that I met when I was out.
1. Hughes, 32, black, has a grad degree, parents have been married for 30 years, owns a home, gainfully employed, no kids. He's very big on the black family. He has aspirations to become a clinical psychologist. He's thinking about writing about the correlation between those that grow up in single vs two parent household and being successful/contributing members of society. He's also trying to offer relationship workshops for black singles. I've read some of the content, and it sounds very interesting. He's ready to get married and settle down. We've been talking daily, and he seems to have a really good sense of humor. The only negative is that from his pictures, I'm not very attracted to him.
2. Kendall, 28, black, has BS. He's a systems integration consultant at some company. He says that he's starting up his own business next month. He's single with no kids, and is also interested in being in a committed relationship. The last message he sent asked me out to Starbucks, but I've yet to respond. I hate meeting for coffee.
3. Matt, 28, white, grad degree. He's working in oil and gas as a safety coordinator. He also doesn't have any kids. He seems really cool. I thought it was really interesting that he's taking on an Instructional Design role, and that's part of what I do at my job. We spoke for a long time about that. He asked me out last week, but I had other plans. I told him I was going to the movies last night, and he asked who I was going with. I had to make up something because I wasn't in the mood to meet. lol I need to stop.
4. Jay, 28, black, has BA and no kids. He says that he's finally 'ready'. He's going to make time to manage his time better, and make time for people that deserve it. So far it's just been messages back and forth, so I'm not so sure about this one.
5. Dante. Met him at the post office. You check out the back story in this thread. He wanted to go out lastnight, but I didn't feel up to it. I think we'll probably meet sometime this upcoming week/weekend.
6. Stephen (new guy), 27. Worked as an electrical engineer, but started law school last year. He's REALLY cute! He's lebanese and polish. His profile says that he's at a point in his life where he's done with casual dating.
I have a date with Hughes tonight. He wanted to keep it a secret, so he just told me to wear something comfortable. I'm wearing jeans and a sweater.
7. Nate. I met Nate back in May of 2009 on Match.
8. Michael.
I'll try to post my dating history sometime this week to give you guys the backstory. For now, let's just say that I've been in love twice in my 27 years of living, once when I was 18
, and again at 25. My ex and I had an on and off relationship for 2 years that recently ended on the day of my graduation last month. Trust me...everyone around me felt that it should have been over sooner than that, but I couldnt' see it. The good thing is that he's disrespected me for the last time, and I'm moving on. It's been about three weeks that I've stopped talking to him, and he just decided to send me a text the other night. Talking about 'come I come over??' Yea, right!
Enough about that...
This year I'm going to focus on dating for marriage. That means that I'm going to make myself be open minded, and start dating multiple people until I think I've found the one for me. I also intend to force myself to go out more. I'm such a houseflower, and I'm also going to do the online dating thing.
So far, there are five guys that I'm talking to. I've started chatting with four guys from Match.com, and one that I met when I was out.
1. Hughes, 32, black, has a grad degree, parents have been married for 30 years, owns a home, gainfully employed, no kids. He's very big on the black family. He has aspirations to become a clinical psychologist. He's thinking about writing about the correlation between those that grow up in single vs two parent household and being successful/contributing members of society. He's also trying to offer relationship workshops for black singles. I've read some of the content, and it sounds very interesting. He's ready to get married and settle down. We've been talking daily, and he seems to have a really good sense of humor. The only negative is that from his pictures, I'm not very attracted to him.
2. Kendall, 28, black, has BS. He's a systems integration consultant at some company. He says that he's starting up his own business next month. He's single with no kids, and is also interested in being in a committed relationship. The last message he sent asked me out to Starbucks, but I've yet to respond. I hate meeting for coffee.
3. Matt, 28, white, grad degree. He's working in oil and gas as a safety coordinator. He also doesn't have any kids. He seems really cool. I thought it was really interesting that he's taking on an Instructional Design role, and that's part of what I do at my job. We spoke for a long time about that. He asked me out last week, but I had other plans. I told him I was going to the movies last night, and he asked who I was going with. I had to make up something because I wasn't in the mood to meet. lol I need to stop.
4. Jay, 28, black, has BA and no kids. He says that he's finally 'ready'. He's going to make time to manage his time better, and make time for people that deserve it. So far it's just been messages back and forth, so I'm not so sure about this one.
5. Dante. Met him at the post office. You check out the back story in this thread. He wanted to go out lastnight, but I didn't feel up to it. I think we'll probably meet sometime this upcoming week/weekend.
6. Stephen (new guy), 27. Worked as an electrical engineer, but started law school last year. He's REALLY cute! He's lebanese and polish. His profile says that he's at a point in his life where he's done with casual dating.
I have a date with Hughes tonight. He wanted to keep it a secret, so he just told me to wear something comfortable. I'm wearing jeans and a sweater.
7. Nate. I met Nate back in May of 2009 on Match.
8. Michael.
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