Married Ladies Random Thoughts

[Farida]

Not feed his own children? What in the nig nog hell?

Right? The depths some people will go to...

 

[Lymegreen]

I’m sick this week and it’s been very difficult.

 

[hopeful]

I’m sick this week and it’s been very difficult.

Hope you are feeling better (((Hugs)))

 

[Brwnbeauti]

This is why I need more dresses.
We’re headed to a barbecue spot around the corner. I put on jeans, a cute fitted T-shirt and sandals. Dh done ironed a whole button up.
Now I look like his daughter

 

[Crackers Phinn]

The old school thread got me. So I had my playlist going as we embark on this long drive home from the County of Orange. Night Shift by the Commodores comes on and the old man skipped it ahead and the following argument ensued

Me: WHATCHU DOIN?!?!?!?!
He: You're going to start crying and there's no kleenex in the car.
Me: Leave me alone. I ain't no punk.
He:
Me:

Night Shift Plays
"Jackie, Jackie, Hey whatcha doing now...."
Me:
He: Pulls into CVS to get me some tissue and a kit kat.
Me:

Don't tell him I said it tho.

 

[MizAvalon]

Our five year wedding anniversary is in a couple of days. It’s crazy how quickly it has flown by, I remember coming on here announcing when we got engaged seven years ago.

 

[Farida]

The old school thread got me. So I had my playlist going as we embark on this long drive home from the County of Orange. Night Shift by the Commodores comes on and the old man skipped it ahead and the following argument ensued

Me: WHATCHU DOIN?!?!?!?!
He: You're going to start crying and there's no kleenex in the car.
Me: Leave me alone. I ain't no punk.
He:
Me:

Night Shift Plays
"Jackie, Jackie, Hey whatcha doing now...."
Me:
He: Pulls into CVS to get me some tissue and a kit kat.
Me:

Don't tell him I said it tho.

Oh man, would’ve loved to meet up.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

I follow Holly Robinson Pete and Ms Tina on insta and I hope to have a group of married friends like theirs as we age.
That Johnson’s 60th birthday parry is turnt and full of Black love!

 

[acapnleo]

Clearly you and the concept of accountability don’t mix, that is, until you’re telling some one else about accepting or taking accountability... everyone else needs to, except you??!? You have got it so twisted!

How hard is it to just simply acknowledge?!? How hard?!?

 

[CurliDiva]

I'm not happy.

 

[Sosoothing]

I'm not happy.

(Hug)

 

[natural2008]

I'm not happy.

 

[PeaceFlow]

I just got back from a family dinner and I'm happy with how it went.

DH is very introverted around new folks sometimes, so when we socialise I feel like people dont see the real him. He really tried his best tonight and I think they got to know him better. I wish it could be like this more often tbh.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

I love this retarded man but I'ma need him to get over his baby fever. He had been on it a little bit because we keep my grandniece but my homegirl who is also 46 recently had a baby and it sparked something in him. The children from his first marriage are in their 20's so it's not like I'm dooming him to a child free existence.

I wish I could have met him 10 years earlier and gave him all the babies he could handle. Although, if I met him 10 years earlier, I wouldn't' have been Jewish and he would have already been married so giving him babies would have been awkward and ratchet.

 

[Ganjababy]

Men are annoying me.

 

[acapnleo]

ugh, seriously?!?

 

[Ganjababy]

I was visiting my friend. We have known each other since we were teens. I am her kids god mother.
Her rich neighbour is also her close friend. So this neighbour is verrrry rich. And beautiful. Her husband spends most of his time back in west Africa due to his business. So it’s usually just the wife, kids and help in the house most days. The husband visits once per month.

So my friend’s husband is jack (pseudonym). My friend tells me that jack sleeps at her friends house once or twice per week. Mostly on fridays and/or Saturday’s I was sooo shocked. I run and tell my husband. He was like

my friend has been married for at least 20 years and she told me she has never refused jack sex. However I never imagined that included him watering other people’s gardens

so for the next few days I felt ill at ease. Every time I saw jack my face was like this My husband kept telling me to fix my face and mind my business. But I just could not stay quiet about it. So finally got the courage to ask my friend why she thought it was okay for her husband to sleep at her friends house?

Turns out the Jack she was referring to was junior who was the same age and best friends with her neighbours kid. She was likeI was so embarrassed but relieved and glad I cleared that misunderstanding up.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Some things I won't agree with dh on. The big things, I do
Small things- social media’s influence on vulnerable populations (last nights small thing)
- as an educator I’m more sympathetic to folks being taken advantage of.
-he thinks a person who relies solely on social media for the news is just stupid.

big things- general social issues, parenting, firm boundaries for each other and our families, financial stability, growth and early retirement, me staying at home in the Near future, the purpose of friendships, the value of being around married people

 

[acapnleo]

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[acapnleo]

I have so many words and no words (all at once) for how I feel right now

 

[hopeful]

I have so many words and no words (all at once) for how I feel right now

Aww sweetie (((hugs))). I’m so sorry about whatever it is that’s going on.

 

[Lylddlebit]

DH makes me sooooo mad! It's never malicious or even intentional. It's always man foolishness that's the result of youth foolishness before we met whose consequence lingers on or impactful consequences due to neglecting detail that could have avoided an issue entirely. The flip side is no one in the world makes me laugh and gives me joy as naturally as he can. That's distracting! I just yelled at him when he made me laugh while I was going in on him... "You make me so mad stop trying to distract me!" He goes "that ain't a distraction, that's the cure" and kissed me anyway. Ugh! I'm grateful...but Ugh!

 

[Ganjababy]

You could still have a baby. I met plenty of 50 year olds with babies. Nothing new. You still have several years on them.

I love...

 

[lana]

While I fell asleep...

I was having some back pain and the only thing that works (after xrays and seeing the chiro) is ice. So I was sleeping fitfully and my hubby noticed, he mentioned getting the ice pack, but I was so groggy I barely heard him.
I'm under the warm heating blanket and he warms my back up first and applies the ice pack and then just...stands there and holds it for about 15 minutes as I drifted off to sleep.

The next morning he said his hand darn near fell off but he wasn't going to let me suffer when I look so cute sleeping.

I love me some him.

 

[hopeful]

@lana thank you for sharing that story. Every now and then someone shares a story that gives a vision of what is possible and also a better understanding of what real love looks and feels like. Hearing stories like yours is what gave me the courage to leave my husband. Time and again women have posted things here that I had never even dreamed was possible. It kind of plants a seed. For me it’s often these sweet tender moments that are shared privately between two people versus the grand, public gestures.

 

[rayne]

I can't believe that I've been missing out on this thread. From the few posts that I have read, a lot them hit close to home. Gonna start from the beginning.

 

[Ganjababy]

My sister is getting a divorce. Sad.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

You could still have a baby. I met plenty of 50 year olds with babies. Nothing new. You still have several years on them.

Nah, my mother's dementia began really kicking in at 60. I'm 46 with the memory of a gnat.
.

 

[Ganjababy]

Wrong thread...

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Dh broke my heart.
Yes, it was cornbread from thanksgiving. That doesn't mean you get to throw it away when you should've known I was gonna eat it with my chili tonight. Talking about cleaning out the fridge.