Married Ladies Random Thoughts

syze6 said:
Do you tell your husbands when you loan money out to relatives and friends?
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I don't loan out, but I would because if I found out he was loaning, and I didn't know anything about it I'd feel some type of way/PO'd. We are open with our money with each other in our home though, so that affects my response. Folks with separate accounts/separate money/not commingled I guess wouldn't care.

Spending money in reasonable amounts I wouldn't think or care about... loaning money to people I should know and would care about.
 
syze6 said:
Do you tell your husbands when you loan money out to relatives and friends?
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I don't really loan out money. But if I give money to a family member, I'll let DH know, sometimes after the fact. It's not a big deal though. I'm sure he's sent money to his family without telling me. If it's over a certain amount we would discuss it first.
 
FoxxyLocs said:
I don't really loan out money. But if I give money to a family member, I'll let DH know, sometimes after the fact. It's not a big deal though. I'm sure he's sent money to his family without telling me. If it's over a certain amount we would discuss it first.
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Yep, DH and I are very similar to what you shared. He helps his trifling brother out quite often and we both make sure our Moms are taken care of but that's the extent of our "loans". We know the other does it but it's no big deal because the money we give does not take away from the household.

However, DH told me that his friend's wife gave her sister $3K without consulting her husband. Giving the $3K meant she couldn't pay her part of the bills for several weeks. When the husband asked her about it (he only found out because a tow truck came looking for her car), she claimed to have misplaced the cash when she was on her way to pay bills. Um, no! No common person takes $3K in cash to go pay bills. I can't think of the last time I actually went to a place to pay a bill in cash. I don't know how I would feel after that. I wouldn't be able to trust her anymore. They are partners, husband and wife, and she not only sacrificed her household but lied to her husband. That should have been a conversation and, had he said NO to the loan, which I know he would have, then she would have to respect that. And then, because she treats him like a Sucka, she wasn't worried about the bills she couldn't pay because she knows he will pay them without argument.
 
Bad&Bougee said:
Yep, DH and I are very similar to what you shared. He helps his trifling brother out quite often and we both make sure our Moms are taken care of but that's the extent of our "loans". We know the other does it but it's no big deal because the money we give does not take away from the household.

However, DH told me that his friend's wife gave her sister $3K without consulting her husband. Giving the $3K meant she couldn't pay her part of the bills for several weeks. When the husband asked her about it (he only found out because a tow truck came looking for her car), she claimed to have misplaced the cash when she was on her way to pay bills. Um, no! No common person takes $3K in cash to go pay bills. I can't think of the last time I actually went to a place to pay a bill in cash. I don't know how I would feel after that. I wouldn't be able to trust her anymore. They are partners, husband and wife, and she not only sacrificed her household but lied to her husband. That should have been a conversation and, had he said NO to the loan, which I know he would have, then she would have to respect that. And then, because she treats him like a Sucka, she wasn't worried about the bills she couldn't pay because she knows he will pay them without argument.
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:lachen: The lies! The deceit!
 
I thought the point in folks keeping separate money and having their “part” of the bills was so the other spouse couldn’t really “say no” to what they want to do with funds @Bad&Bougee
 
My husband is infuriating. I was talking about the Janelle Monae concert and he says he thinks the Flatbush Zombies are gonna be at the same venue, and he was thinking of going. I look and they're gonna be at the HOB tomorrow.

Me: "Do you wanna go?"
Him: "Nah, I'm good, it's OK."
Me: "You sure? Even if I buy the ticket?"
Him: "No, it's OK, I don't really wanna go."

I'm so annoyed, I'm about to just buy the ticket, put his ass in a Lyft and send him on his way. I even asked my brother if he listened to them because I would have just bought them both tickets since my brother's birthday was this week anyway. I said I would just keep prodding and my brother goes, "Yeah, he's your husband, just crack the whip." :laugh:
 
Dee-Licious said:
I thought the point in folks keeping separate money and having their “part” of the bills was so the other spouse couldn’t really “say no” to what they want to do with funds @Bad&Bougee
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Correct, but I would need my husband to let me know he was giving someone $3K. That is a lot of money to give away. Her sister is NOT going to pay that money back. They are getting cut off notices and running from the repo man - that is too much. The husband has to take his money to catch up his wife's bill. I would be pissed!
 
Miss617 said:
I told him I bought the ticket. He fell for it and thanked me. So I bought it. :laugh:

I hope the seat is OK, I haven't been to this venue before. I'll give my glasses before he goes lol.
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I'm glad you bought the tickets - you two will have a great time.
 
I was talking at work yesterday about how I wanted some strawberries. I want some good, locally, grown sweet strawberries.

DH went to the grocery store to get an item for a recipe and called me in the midst of my nap to ask me if I wanted anything, and I said "no".

When he came home and kissed me hi, I told him when he called I didn't think about it that I wanted some strawberries really bad. I put my eyemask back on, and he went back to the kitchen.

A few moments later I feel him putting something to my mouth, it was a STRAWBERRY. It's ridiculous how happy that lil piece of fruit made me :lol:. Especially since I hadn't even told him I wanted some, he just saw them and knew I prolly did.

It's always the small things that get me lol.
 
Dee-Licious said:
The cleaning lady not being able to come in the morning when we have guests coming in town tomorrow has me ready to throw them darn strawberries at his head. :wallbash::arguing: If I saw you hit his head with strawberries, you would have to call the ambulance for me cause I would laugh so hard until I would not be able to BREATHE.:lachen:

We haven’t had a row in a minute, so it was bout time :lol:
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A huge argument can cause a huge and intense "make-up" session!:)
 
Dee-Licious said:
I was talking at work yesterday about how I wanted some strawberries. I want some good, locally, grown sweet strawberries.

DH went to the grocery store to get an item for a recipe and called me in the midst of my nap to ask me if I wanted anything, and I said "no".

When he came home and kissed me hi, I told him when he called I didn't think about it that I wanted some strawberries really bad. I put my eyemask back on, and he went back to the kitchen.

A few moments later I feel him putting something to my mouth, it was a STRAWBERRY. It's ridiculous how happy that lil piece of fruit made me :lol:. Especially since I hadn't even told him I wanted some, he just saw them and knew I prolly did.

It's always the small things that get me lol.
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That was so sweet and thoughtful of DH. ALWAYS the small things.
 
2 months have flown by. So far so good :) Honeymoon was FANTASTIC. I never ate so much food in 1wk in my life :lol: we saw a lot of black tourists, too. Dope.

Division of labor has been exactly like we agreed upon. No life threatening, deranged, wtf did i marry type ish going on....yet dun dun DUN lol

We went to va beach this past weekend. We stayed with one of his childhood friends (woman). (Random: her voice is even louder than dh's. And he loud af. I was like being around yall is like listening to a screaming match lol) So she's seperated from her husband and dating new folks. She was telling us about this new guy she's dating and its basically all just trash lol. We met him and...still trash :lol: he showed up at ELEVEN THIRTY PM, hourssss after he said he would. And she actually had sex with him, too. That night. SmhXinfinityandbeyond lol. anyway, it was a fun trip. We have wknd trips planned every other weekend until September. Yay.

We started house hunting last month. He is so picky. He's like a woman -_- its truly ridiculous. Our agent is like well make a list of must haves, nice to haves. He ain't sticking to no list! I was like I'm not making a list with your crazy a. Once he gets in the house, nothing is good enough anymore lol. Soooo we decided to build. Which, we both initially didn't want to do. But its been a month and we 'haven't found anything we like' (my a**), so yea. We found a good one, going to price stuff out tomorrow.

I still need to give people official ceremony pics...probably won't happen lmao. I sent thank you cards, which im still patting myself on the back for thank you very much :lol:
 
My husband has been away for a week on a work trip. While he’s been gone, I’m taught our little dog to jump on the bed. Now she jumps on the bed every night when it’s time to go to sleep. She’s been sleeping on the bed all night every night.

I wonder what will happen when he comes home tomorrow. Pretty sure my dog is used to this new routine now.
 
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